The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

Have you ever felt unjustly blamed for the strife in a high-conflict separation?
In this episode I'm tearing down the myth that both parties are equally responsible for the turmoil that often follows a divorce, especially when it comes to co-parenting.
As someone who's walked alongside many women embroiled in post-separation battles, I shine a light on the realities they face, including the continuation of family violence they hoped had ended with their relationship. The truth is, these women are frequently on the receiving end of legal action initiated by their ex-partners, and it's high time we recognise and support victim-survivors, rather than perpetuate a cycle of blame.
This episode isn't just about laying bare the challenges—it's about offering solace too. I discuss the critical importance of building a circle of support, and I share how my group membership program is a lifeline for many women, offering a community that understands without needing the full backstory.
For anyone feeling isolated, misunderstood, or weary from the fight, this conversation is a reminder that you're not alone, and the weight of dispelling conflict is not yours to carry alone. Tune in for a heart-to-heart, where empathy meets empowerment, and where your side of the story is not only heard but wholeheartedly believed.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.
I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.
Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.

To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au
For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you
For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning
Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching
MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):
1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Discover the transformative path to empowerment after a break from a restrictive or abusive relationship. With me, Danielle Black, as your guide, this episode promises insights and strategies for harnessing the power of positive thinking to reclaim control over your life. We tackle the essential actions for laying a foundation for a healthier future, such as seeking professional coaching, finding solace in group support, and connecting with online communities. It's not just about positive affirmations but about mastering your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors to build resilience and ensure the best transition for you and your children.
Navigating the rough waters of divorce and co-parenting with a controlling ex-partner requires the right balance between optimism and realism. In our conversation, we delve into the potential dangers of excessive positivity and the importance of setting realistic expectations in the face of legal challenges. Learn how to strike a delicate balance that allows for healthy positive thinking while fully embracing the reality of your situation. By setting clear boundaries and managing your emotional responses, you'll gain mental control that benefits not only yourself but also supports your children through these life-altering changes. Join us on this journey as we explore effective strategies for managing life's most difficult transitions with your well-being as the compass.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.
I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.
Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.

To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au
For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you
For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning
Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching
MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):
1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

As a mother who's trudged through the murky waters of post-separation abuse, I understand the tightrope walk of safeguarding children while facing the possibility of false accusations of things like 'withholding', 'gatekeeping' and 'alienation'.
This episode shines a light on the credibility battles many women face when family violence surfaces in legal disputes. It's a candid discussion that hinges on the painful truth: the way a man treats the mother of his children often foreshadows his post-separation behaviour.
Transitioning to and from supervised visitation can feel like navigating a minefield and I explore this delicate topic with an emphasis on the significance of professional supervision and other tools at your disposal, like hair follicle testing and BACtrack alcohol monitoring, to ensure the safety and well-being of your precious children during these visits.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.
I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.
Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.

To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au
For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you
For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning
Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching
MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):
1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Have you ever found yourself questioning your memory or reality, feeling as if your thoughts and feelings were being invalidated?
I tackle the subtle yet destructive practice of gaslighting in this latest conversation, where I bring my expertise as a high-conflict divorce coach to dissect the psychological manipulation designed to make victims doubt their own sanity.
This episode reveals the various guises of gaslighting, from the outright lies to the more insidious forms of minimising and blame-shifting.
Especially challenging is the way these tactics can infiltrate co-parenting dynamics, leaving one partner scrambling to maintain a sense of truth.
This conversation is a crucial one, as it sheds light on the long-term effects on those who've endured this form of abuse and offers a pathway to reclaiming their trust in their own perceptions.
Escaping the orbit of a manipulative ex is no small feat, a truth many of my clients and listeners can sadly relate to. The journey to reclaiming autonomy post-separation is fraught with obstacles, often involving an ex who masks controlling behaviors as concern or affection.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.
I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.
Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.

To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au
For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you
For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning
Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching
MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):
1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

Navigating the labyrinth of family court post-separation can feel like a descent into the unknown, but I'm no stranger to this daunting path.
I've lived through the turmoil myself and now I hope to shed some light on the key differences between Australian and American family law systems.
This episode is a candid exploration of the fears and misconceptions that haunt many women facing potential court outcomes, and as we unravel the myths and highlight the importance of tailored legal advice, this discussion is an essential guide for those fearing the loss of parenting time.
No legalese or jargon here; just real insights drawn from my experiences, conversations with clients, and connections with legal professionals. It's a deep dive into the realities of the Australian legal framework, contrasting sharply with the narratives often presented in American contexts. Tune in for a compassionate, empowering perspective that encourages critical thinking over fear, encouraging you to maintain healthy scepticism when consuming online content about separation and divorce.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.
I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.
Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.

To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au
For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you
For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning
Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching
MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):
1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)