13. Unseen battles: addressing post-separation abuse in same-sex relationships

01/25/24 • 13 min

Have you ever considered the hidden struggles within same-sex relationships, particularly when it comes to the often overlooked post-separation abuse among lesbian couples?
Through intimate conversations with clients over the years, I have uncovered the persistent challenges they face, from complex control dynamics to emotional manipulation that doesn't cease with the relationship's end.
These tales are not just narratives; they're the lived experiences of women who grapple with the unique difficulties of parenting arrangements post-separation. This episode sheds light on these issues, offering a platform for recognition to those within the LGBTQI+ community who feel invisible in the broader discourse of family violence.
This candid discussion peels back the layers of control and abuse tactics that continue to influence parenting disputes, illuminating the often ambiguous division of parenting roles in lesbian relationships compared to their heterosexual counterparts.
Stepping into the arena of family law, we explore how these dynamics affect the battle for parenting time.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.
I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.
Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.

To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
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14. Exposing the bluff in family law intimidation

Ever been struck by the sinking feeling that your ex’s lawyer-spun accusations of control and alienation might actually hold water in court?
Today, I'm shattering the illusion that a fierce legal narrative is synonymous with success in the family law arena. With a dash of humor and a dose of reality, I unpack how aggressive legal letters don't always equate to a strong case, and why it’s crucial not to lose heart when faced with such tactics.
Today's conversation turns eye-opening as we expose the unsavory truth about some family law practitioners who might prioritise lining their pockets over presenting the truth, facilitating high conflict individuals in weaving false tales of victimhood.
Join me as I offer a beacon of reassurance, emphasising the importance of sticking to the facts and providing your legal team with accurate information. You’ll come away empowered, knowing that while your ex might have hired a lawyer willing to champion any story for the right price, it does not guarantee them victory.
This episode isn't just about debunking myths; it's about arming you with the knowledge and confidence to navigate the murky waters of family disputes with a clearer perspective and a steadier hand. So, tune in, and let's get to the heart of what really matters in family law: the facts, and the best interests of any children involved.

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The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast - 13. Unseen battles: addressing post-separation abuse in same-sex relationships

Transcript

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Hi everyone . Let's talk about the fact that post-separation abuse and indeed family violence also occurs within same-sex relationships . This is often something that isn't spoken about a lot , particularly in terms of post-separation abuse , because so much of the conversation around family violence , coercive control and separate abuse is very much based on a heterosexual narrative and o