The Mel Robbins Podcast

How do you find your power when life knocks you down?

What do you do when you are in the middle of an emotional tsunami?

How do you respond when the universe is testing you?

This is the ultimate episode about resilience, confidence, and taking your power back.

Yes, you can take control with simple tools whenever you feel that insecurity spiral kick in. You can pick yourself up, shake off the sh*t, and you can make it a win for you.

In this episode, I take you into my life as my 22-year-old daughter gets news that sent her spiraling: her ex was now interested in one of her friends.

This episode unfolds live, over the phone, in real-time, and it is about way more than dealing with heartbreak.

This is for everyone, including you.

This is about how you can make those moments of insecurity a win. It’s about finding your confidence when self-doubt comes in. It’s about getting your power back.

And this is also about how you can make better decisions. How to align your actions and reactions with what you want out of life, rather than letting your emotions hijack you.

This is powerful stuff.

During this deeply relatable conversation, you’ll laugh, nod along, and probably think of a dozen friends who need to hear this too. My daughter and I unpack the situation live, and you’ll hear Kendall process her feelings, rise above the noise, tap into her power, and start coaching herself forward from a place of confidence and clarity.

Honestly, as her mother, I’m incredibly proud of what she shares in this episode.

I want you to listen because I want you to feel empowered too.

In one hour, you will learn how to turn hurt feelings into a WIN for you. You’ll hear the best advice I’ve ever received when life knocked me down, and how you can use it to make your life and your attitude 10X better.

You’ll understand how to break old patterns of self-sabotage and kick them to the curb for good.

Holy sh*t...I almost forgot! There is swearing in this episode! If you have any kids around, put those headphones on!

And seriously: for anyone in your life struggling with insecurity, do them a favor and remind them of who they are. Send them this episode so they can take their power back.

Xo Mel

The biggest secret to getting the life you want is understanding 3 words I hope you never forget:

Motivation. Is. Garbage.

Right now, think about something you want to change or improve.

I bet you know WHAT you want to change – and what you need to do.

But the 100 million dollar question is: HOW?

How do you get started?

And how do you keep going even when you don’t feel like it?

Look, if change was easy, we’d all have six-pack abs, a million dollars in the bank, and healed our trauma.

And that’s where this episode comes in: I teach you the HOW.

I cracked the code on motivation, and in the next hour, I’m sharing everything I know with you.

You’ll learn the secret to breaking old habits, creating new ones, and how to hack what neuroscientists call “activation energy.”

You’ll also learn one simple but incredible tool, that’s grounded in decades of research, and will change your life forever. This tool is a “cheat code” for motivation. It’s worked for millions of people and it will for you, too.

I wish that what I was about to tell you was something I had read in a book, but unfortunately, that's not how I tend to learn things.

I'm the kind of person who either has to fall into a hole that I didn't see to learn a lesson, or more likely, I screw up my life so badly, I dig the hole for myself.

This was me back in 2008. I was digging the biggest life hole ever. And that’s where this episode begins.

I was at the lowest point in my life. My husband’s business was failing, I was unemployed, on the brink of bankruptcy and divorce, I was drinking way too much, and to top it all off, I couldn’t even get up in the morning. Not the Mel Robbins you know today.

This is the exact moment I discovered the secret to hacking motivation – because I had to if I wanted to fix my own life.

And if I can do it, you can too.

If you're a new listener, you'll learn more about how I got to where I am today.

And if you've been a fan for a while, this episode will be a reminder of the power within you to make any change you can imagine.

At the end of the episode, I’ll also give you a free 5-day challenge – The Wake Up Challenge – to walk you through getting started with these tools: www.melrobbins.com/wakeup

You won’t believe how simple it is to transform your life, your work, and your attitude. I can’t wait to show you how.

Xo Mel

How do you know if the thing you’re holding on to is something you should keep fighting for or if it’s time to let go?

Phenomenal question. I’ve got the answer.

The truth is, most of us never let go.

You spend a lot of time adding things into your life – new projects, new relationships, new stuff – but when was the last time you *subtracted* something?

I’m talking about all the things you hang on to, even when they’re no longer serving you or helping you grow.

The stuff that you know is weighing you down and sucking your energy dry, but you can’t seem to drop it.

I’ve got the solution for you.

I’m about to walk you – literally – through a strategy that nobody talks about. It will help you let go of what’s a pain or a drain in your life.

Are you staying in a job you hate?

Do you keep hanging out with that friend who brings you down?

Holding on to those too-small pants because you’re hoping to one day fit into them again?

As the late, great Pulitzer and Nobel prize winner Toni Morrison wrote, if you “want to fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.”

By the end of this episode, you’ll understand how to start letting go of what doesn’t serve you to create room for growth.

And, you’ll learn the two things you must let go of today.

Get ready to step into your new potential and unlock the magic of your life.

Aren’t you ready for that? I know I am. Let’s do it!

Xo Mel

For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com

I shared the "Let Them Theory" on social media, and it went CRAZY VIRAL. 15 million views, 11,000 comments. Today, it’s your turn to learn this mindset trick.

I’ve been using this technique for a while, so I know firsthand how powerful it is.

The "Let Them Theory" is so simple, you’re going to get it immediately.

And I have some great stories and examples to share with you, because there are three very different ways you can use it.

I can bottom line this in one sentence:

When you "Let Them" do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life.

Xo Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 2:30: My overfunctioning anxiety kicked in, until this happened.
• 6:30: Dr. Amy Johnson gives the best metaphor that explains our need to control.
• 9:20: Why do we get so upset about what we can’t do a damn thing about?
• 10:30: These three reasons explain why we try to control.
• 11:20: Two reasons why your parents and partners are so controlling.
• 17:00: There are times like these when the “Let Them” rule does NOT apply.
• 19:00: How are you supposed to let go when you’re a parent?
• 24:30: Can you relate to this listener who’s worn down from her expectations?
• 28:00: Stop making up stories about why people do what they do, and just ask.
• 32:10: When you’re constantly rescuing people, here’s what you teach them.
• 35:00: Are you actually in a relationship with a real person, or a vision?
• 37:15: One way we try to control someone is through jealousy.
• 40:00: Growing apart from a good friend? Here’s how to handle it.
• 43:30: It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is never hurt.

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Take 7 minutes for yourself today.

These are 7 minutes for the next year that will start 2025 right.

In this special mini-episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, Mel has a message just for you: This year, you have the power.

You have the power to make this the best year of your life.

You have the power to take the leap, pursue your dreams, and create the change you’ve always wanted.

This is the year you take back control. You stop worrying about what others think, say, or do, and start focusing on YOU. Because here’s the truth: only you decide how to spend your time and energy. And when you direct them toward the right things, everything changes.

Start your year strong with this message from Mel.

If you liked this episode, your next listen should be this one: The Top Expert Advice of the Year: The Best of the Mel Robbins Podcast

Get Mel’s new bestselling book: “The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About”

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