14. Exposing the bluff in family law intimidation

01/29/24 • 7 min

Ever been struck by the sinking feeling that your ex’s lawyer-spun accusations of control and alienation might actually hold water in court?
Today, I'm shattering the illusion that a fierce legal narrative is synonymous with success in the family law arena. With a dash of humor and a dose of reality, I unpack how aggressive legal letters don't always equate to a strong case, and why it’s crucial not to lose heart when faced with such tactics.
Today's conversation turns eye-opening as we expose the unsavory truth about some family law practitioners who might prioritise lining their pockets over presenting the truth, facilitating high conflict individuals in weaving false tales of victimhood.
Join me as I offer a beacon of reassurance, emphasising the importance of sticking to the facts and providing your legal team with accurate information. You’ll come away empowered, knowing that while your ex might have hired a lawyer willing to champion any story for the right price, it does not guarantee them victory.
This episode isn't just about debunking myths; it's about arming you with the knowledge and confidence to navigate the murky waters of family disputes with a clearer perspective and a steadier hand. So, tune in, and let's get to the heart of what really matters in family law: the facts, and the best interests of any children involved.

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.
I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.
Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.

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Have you ever considered the hidden struggles within same-sex relationships, particularly when it comes to the often overlooked post-separation abuse among lesbian couples?
Through intimate conversations with clients over the years, I have uncovered the persistent challenges they face, from complex control dynamics to emotional manipulation that doesn't cease with the relationship's end.
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The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast - 14. Exposing the bluff in family law intimidation

Transcript

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Hi everyone , thanks for joining me on today's episode . This one's going to be really short and sweet . I just wanted to take the opportunity to dispel the myth that

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if your ex has been able to secure a lawyer and if you've been getting legal letters accusing you of things you know , accusing you of being controlling , accusing you o