How to Deal With Emotionally Immature People (Including Maybe Your Own Parents) | Lindsay C. Gibson

09/05/22 • 67 min

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Emotionally immature people (EIP’s) are hard to avoid and most of us, if not all of us, have to deal with them at some point in our lives. These interactions can range from mildly annoying to genuinely traumatic, especially if the emotionally immature people in question are our own parents, which is true for an awful lot of us.

Today’s guest, clinical psychologist Lindsay C. Gibson, gives advice for dealing with emotionally immature people, whether they’re your parents or not. She has written a sleeper hit book on the subject called, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents.

In this episode we talk about:

The signs of emotional immaturity
Whether or not I’m emotionally immature
What happens to children who are raised by emotionally immature parents, including their signature coping strategies
Why adult children of EIP’s turn to healing fantasies, and how to let them go
How to cope with emotionally immature parents as an adult
What role compassion should and should not play in your relationship with EIP’s
How to heal

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/lindsay-gibson-497

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.

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In this episode we talk about:

The signs of emotional immaturity
Whether or not I’m emotionally immature
What happens to children who are raised by emotionally immature parents, including their signature coping strategies
Why adult children of EIP’s turn to healing fantasies, and how to let them go
How to cope with emotionally immature parents as an adult
What role compassion should and should not play in your relationship with EIP’s
How to heal

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/lindsay-gibson-497

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What "Getting Out of Your Head" Actually Means | Dawn Mauricio

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It’s such a common desire to get out of our heads — to escape the nonstop, mostly self-referential chatter, the habitual storylines, the ancient resentments and the compulsive self-criticism. Many of us take elaborate and even drastic measures in this regard like self-medication, shopping, tech addiction, and so on. But there’s a much healthier option that is readily and perpetually available. In fact, we’re dragging it around with us all the time, the body.

The Buddha is said to have laid out four ways to be mindful. In other words, to be awake to whatever is happening right now. The first of these four foundations of mindfulness is mindfulness of the body and todays’ guest, meditation teacher Dawn Mauricio, will walk us through the practical applications of this foundation.

Mauricio has been meditating since 2005 and is a graduate of Spirit Rock’s four-year teacher training program. She is also the author of the book, Mindfulness Meditation for Beginners: 50 Meditations to Practice Awareness, Acceptance, and Peace. Dawn’s been on the show before to talk about how to handle difficult people.

This episode is the first installment of a series we've launched on the four foundations of mindfulness.

In this episode we talk about:

What it actually means to get out of your head and into your body and all of the practical ways to get there
How strong emotions and seductive technology can work against us
And what to do when being aware of your body might actually not be the best thing for you

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/dawn-mauricio-498