The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss

Claire Sandys

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Claire Sandys is on a mission to see if it's possible to find hope in 101 different types of loss and grief (often joined by husband Chris). New ad-free episodes every other Tuesday. With childless (not by choice) hosts, this podcast is packed with deep, honest experiences of grief and hope from inspiring guests. You also get: tips on how to navigate and prepare for loss, blogs, experts, exploring how loss is handled on TV, and plenty of Hermans. For more visit: www.thesilentwhy.com.

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The Podcast Show 2022: London, baby!

The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss

06/07/22 • 42 min

#035. We went to The Podcast Show, in London, baby! And in this episode we (your hosts, Chris & Claire) chat about our recent trip to the big city.
Having visited the capital for the 'new international festival for podcasting' - The Podcast Show 2022 - with thousands of other podcasters, we share a bit about what we've learnt, what we saw and what we did.
Listen in for some fun chat about undergrounds, escalators, Hamilton, podcasting things we learnt, £12million flats, Jubilee celebration preparations around Buckingham Palace, and of course, where loss might fit into all of this.

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Let's Chat... End of Life and Grief Coaching (with Lis Whybrow)

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07/05/22 • 38 min

#039. What is End of Life and Grief Coaching, when can it be useful to us, and is it only for people facing bereavements?
Welcome to Let’s Chat... These episodes pop-up every now and then instead of one of our 101 different types of loss, as I (Claire Sandys, one of the co-hosts of The Silent Why podcast) chat to a guest who has experience or expertise in a particular area that can help us either deal with, or prepare for, loss.

In this Let’s Chat episode I chat to Lis Whybrow about End of Life and Grief Coaching.

Lis lives in our neighbouring county in Worcestershire (like the sauce!) and was a solicitor for over 30 years, dealing with all legal aspects of death and dying, before moving into a new career of life coaching, specialising in end of life and grief.
In this conversation we talk about the difference between coaching and counselling, fear of death, how coaching can help when facing death or loss (either for yourself or friends and family), what is a death doula, what does a coaching session look like, and lots more.
And I'm building a toolkit through these chats, well actually a whole tool shed, of equipment to help you face and process loss, so listen in to see what latest addition Lis wants to add my tool shed.

To find out more about Lis visit her on:
https://liswhybrowcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lis-whybrow-1483771b6/

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Let's Chat... PTSD (with Dr Colleen Crary)

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03/01/22 • 37 min

#022. What do we lose when we suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)? How can we be more sympathetic to it? Is it only war veterans that suffer from it? And what are the symptoms?
Welcome to Let’s Chat... Episodes that pop up each month as I (Claire Sandys, one of the co-hosts of The Silent Why podcast) chat to a guest who has experience or expertise in a particular area that can help us either deal with, or prepare for, loss.

And I'm building a tool kit, well - actually - a whole tool shed, of equipment to help you face and get through loss. And I'm very keen to see what each guest adds to my new shed.

For my second Let’s Chat... I spoke to Dr Colleen Crary about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, known as PTSD.

Colleen was diagnosed with a complicated type of PTSD called C-PTSD at the age of 40, and became so fascinated by the condition it became her passion. She now has a Master's Degree in Victimology and achieved a Doctorate in Psychology specialising in PTSD. Her journey is a fascinating insight into this mental condition and having been through over 40 therapists to find the right help, studied Criminology, and partied with homicide detectives, she has a very unique insight on a condition where people experience a permanent alteration, and loss, of self.

However, she also told me there are ways for people to emerge from trauma with more resilience than they had before, and some people have even described it as a positive, life-changing event that brought a greater sense of depth and beauty to their lives.

Colleen shares valuable insights about what PTSD is, how it’s not just something military veterans suffer with, how you can recognise it, why it occurs and what you can do about it.

For more about Colleen: https://www.linkedin.com/in/colleen-m-crary-ph-d-7582a9118/
For more information and symptoms of PTSD:
https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/ptsd/what-is-ptsd
https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline

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Loss 24/101: Loss of life for a murder detective: Steve Keogh

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05/24/22 • 56 min

#033. How do murder detectives cope with facing loss every day in the form of murder? In this episode we chat to Steve Keogh, a former Scotland Yard murder detective.
This is The Silent Why, a podcast on a mission to open up conversations around loss and grief and to see if hope can be found in 101 different types of loss.

Steve retired from London's Metropolitan Police in 2021 and since then he's earned a following for his written and TV work, YouTube live videos about his time solving murders, and new to 2024 podcast and crime writing course.
This episode looks at what it’s like working with loss through murder on a daily basis, as well as the loss of a personal life to a vocation like working as a police officer and detective.

Loss #24 of 101 - Loss of life through murder

We had lots of questions for Steve around such a fascinating area of work and wanted to know if it’s anything like the exciting chase for a murderer that you see on the TV. He told us about what it’s like being the first on the scene for the 7/7 London Bombings, dealing with the families of victims, moments in court after long chases for a conviction.

For more about Steve:
Website: https://stevekeogh.com/
Podcast: https://murderinvestigationforcrimewriters.podbean.com/

Social media:
https://www.youtube.com/c/MurderAcademy
https://www.facebook.com/MrStevenKeogh
https://www.instagram.com/steven_keogh_/
Murder Investigation for Crime Writers: https://steve-keogh.thinkific.com/courses/murder-investigation-for-crime-writers-free-course

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What's your Herman?

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10/05/21 • 5 min

You're probably thinking:
What on earth is a Herman?
Why do I care?
What on sweet earth does a Herman have to do with a podcast about loss?
There's actually a chance you might have heard of a Herman, or have known it by a different name, but to be sure, tune into this episode for a mere 5 minutes (ish) and find out what it is and why we (hosts, Chris & Claire Sandys) are asking all our 101 loss guests on the podcast - 'What is your Herman?'
To read the blog version of this episode visit: https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/herman

To find out more about the physical Hermans or to buy one, visit: https://www.thehermancompany.com

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Introducing The Silent Why...

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09/25/21 • 2 min

Can hope be found in every type of loss?

Join us, Chris & Claire Sandys, a childless (not by choice) couple, using our experience of loss to explore where, and when, hope emerges and joy returns in every journey of grief.

This is a mission to find 101 different types of loss, and you can expect: first hand experiences with grief, inspiring guests, honest conversation, tears, laughter and plenty of Hermans (confused? see Herman link below).

Visit the website for official 101 losses list to see where we're up to, weekly blog posts, more about us, how to support the show and other episodes: thesilentwhy.com

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Loss 3/101: Loss of fertility: Chris & Claire Sandys (Part 2)

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10/19/21 • 45 min

#003. Part 2. This second part of Episode 003 is us again (the hosts, Chris & Claire Sandys) as we continue to share our story of being a childless couple.
This is The Silent Why, a podcast on a mission to open up conversations around loss and grief and to see if hope can be found in 101 different types of loss.
Loss #3 of 101 continued: Loss of fertility

In Part 1, we spoke about our personal story with infertility over the last 11 years and turning down medical intervention, before drawing a line in the sand. You'll want to check that out before this episode probably: https://www.thesilentwhy.com/podcast/episode/492a29c1/loss-of-fertility-chris-and-claire-sandys-part-1
In Part 2, we answer questions anonymously submitted by friends. Questions they’d like to ask a couple without children, or things they’re curious about.
Such as:
How do you feel when people close to you continue to have babies?
How do you find ways to fill the gaps left by childlessness?
How do you deal with the insensitive questions, graciously?
In what practical ways can friends and family best support you?
For more about our journey, including photos of our Line in the Sand moment, visit the blog post on our website: thesilentwhy.com/post/alineinthesandys

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Loss 3/101: Loss of fertility: Chris & Claire Sandys (Part 1)

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10/12/21 • 44 min

#003. Part 1. This episode is a bit different, because for 44 wonderful minutes you just hear from us, the hosts.

Chris Sandys: Radio producer, craft beer lover and full-time extrovert.

Claire Sandys: Writer, baker (...not yet a candlestick maker), marzipan lover and full-time introvert.
This is The Silent Why, a podcast on a mission to open up conversations around loss and grief and to see if hope can be found in 101 different types of loss.
Loss #3 of 101: Loss of fertility

In this episode, we share our personal journey over the last 11 years with infertility and childlessness, discussing the choices facing couples like us, why we turned down medical intervention, how we do/don't fit into our wider families, whether we are enough for each other as a two, and what our pivotal 'Line in the Sand' moment looked like.

We also asked some of our friends to anonymously submit questions they’d ask a childless couple if they were feeling brave, and they did not hold back! In fact, the questions were so good we ended up multiplying the episode into two parts.
So check out Part 2 after this for that info: https://www.thesilentwhy.com/podcast/episode/4b52504f/loss-of-fertility-chris-and-claire-sandys-part-2.

Can hope be found when you’re grieving the loss of something you never actually had in the first place (namely, children)? Find out.

For more about our Line in the Sand moment, including photos, visit the blog post on our website: thesilentwhy.com/post/alineinthesandys

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My Why: Overview of The Silent Why podcast

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05/13/22 • 7 min

This My Why is an overview of The Silent Why podcast, the different types of episodes we put out and why, what's a herman, what's in the tool shed, the top countries and cities listening, how many downloads we've achieved and how you can support us in our mission and passion to help people facing loss.
Welcome to another My Why from Claire Sandys (co-host of The Silent Why podcast). My Why episodes are weekly audio shorts of my latest blog post. If you'd prefer to read it, you can find it here: thesilentwhy.com/post/mywhythesilentwhy
For our 101 losses list visit: thesilentwhy.com/101losses
To find out what a Herman is visit: thesilentwhy.com/herman
To support my work with the podcast and helping others in loss you can donate via: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy

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BLOG: My Why: Living in the good ol' days

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06/17/22 • 15 min

Increasingly I find myself, with age, looking back to the 'good ol' days' of my youth, where life seemed simpler, easier and less hassled. I find myself starting to utter statements my grandma used to use like 'when I was young...'.
Welcome to another My Why from Claire Sandys, co-host of The Silent Why podcast. My Why episodes are weekly audio shorts of my latest blog post. If you'd prefer to read it, you can find it here: thesilentwhy.com/post/livinginthegoodolddays
Not having my own children I also find there was so much from my childhood that I was subconsciously storing to pass down to the next generation, which now has no where to go.
It's very easy to think the best days in life are either behind us or ahead of us, and not take any appreciation for today. In this My Why I explore how we can live in the 'good ol' days' now and what I think might be the key to having this mindset.

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How many episodes does The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss have?

The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss currently has 219 episodes available.

What topics does The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss cover?

The podcast is about Survivor, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Grief, Personal Journals, Mental Health, Joy, Help, Podcasts, Lost, Loss and Hope.

What is the most popular episode on The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss?

The episode title 'Loss 20/101: Loss of veterans to suicide: Shaun Johnson' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss?

The average episode length on The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss is 31 minutes.

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Episodes of The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss are typically released every 4 days.

When was the first episode of The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss?

The first episode of The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss was released on Sep 25, 2021.

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