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06/17/22 • 15 min

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The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss

Increasingly I find myself, with age, looking back to the 'good ol' days' of my youth, where life seemed simpler, easier and less hassled. I find myself starting to utter statements my grandma used to use like 'when I was young...'.
Welcome to another My Why from Claire Sandys, co-host of The Silent Why podcast. My Why episodes are weekly audio shorts of my latest blog post. If you'd prefer to read it, you can find it here: thesilentwhy.com/post/livinginthegoodolddays
Not having my own children I also find there was so much from my childhood that I was subconsciously storing to pass down to the next generation, which now has no where to go.
It's very easy to think the best days in life are either behind us or ahead of us, and not take any appreciation for today. In this My Why I explore how we can live in the 'good ol' days' now and what I think might be the key to having this mindset.

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Loss 25/101: Loss of a professional accreditation: Lis Whybrow

#036. How hard is it to step away from an organisation you've set up and been involved in for 30 years? Introducing Lis Whybrow, a former private client solicitor who spent in the region of 40 years supporting individuals with wills and probate (among many other things).

Loss #25 of 101 - Loss of a professional accreditation.

You might think it was hanging up a 30-year law career that made Lis feel the emotions of loss, but the sadness surprised her when the automatic renewal reminders began pouring in for an accreditation she had with the professional body she’d helped launch decades ago.
As Lis was no longer practising law it was a sensible decision to withdraw her membership of STEP (Society of Trust and Estate Practitioners), but this was more than just not renewing. She was leaving behind something she'd invested heavily in, with her head and her heart, which would be a substantial loss - one she would recognise at a later date.
Lis has now retrained as a life coach, specialising in helping people face the end of their life, as well as other losses and grief. She is back supporting people individually, only this time without any pressure of billable hours.
She opens up on what this transition has felt like, where her identity is rooted, the difference between good and bad losses, as well as planned and unplanned losses, and how losses in the professional world need processing and grieving too.

For more about Lis visit:
https://liswhybrowcoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lis-whybrow-1483771b6/

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Loss 26/101: Loss of a daughter in a school shooting: Mick North

#037. On 13 March 1996, a 43-year-old man walked into Dunblane Primary School near Stirling, Scotland, and shot dead sixteen pupils and one teacher. Fifteen others were also injured before he killed himself. It remains the deadliest mass shooting in British history.

Loss #26 of 101 - Loss of a daughter in a school shooting
The outpouring of loss and grief that follows a school shooting is vast and wide-reaching. In the wake of the recent school shooting in Uvalde, Texas, we have taken the opportunity to speak to someone who's been at the heart of such a tragedy.

Mick North is the father of Sophie North, one of the five-year-old girls shot and killed in Dunblane. And sadly, this wasn't the only loss Mick faced in the 1990's as just two-and-a-half years earlier, Mick's wife died of breast cancer. While coming to terms with this, Mick also stepped back from his successful academic career, driven to campaign work for tighter gun laws in the UK.
Mick shares with us about the ups and downs of having to grieve so publicly, the challenges of dealing with two huge losses so close together, his memories with his family, his work campaigning in gun control to prevent further tragedies happening, and how he feels every time there’s another school shooting somewhere in the world.
And we end with a special quote which explains why this week's episode artwork has a snowdrop in it (check out our social media to see that).

For more about Mick, Sophie and the Sophie North Charitable Trust visit: https://www.facebook.com/SophieNorthCharitableTrust

Here's where you can buy Mick's book; Dunblane: Never Forget:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Dunblane-Never-Forget-Mick-North/dp/1840183004

To watch the Dunblane families and survivors read their letter to Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida, as described by Mick, visit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6-nEzMbfyNk

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