What's Luck Got to Do with It?

03/20/20 • 34 min

Ask 20 successful men about how they got to where they are today in their careers and they will confidently clamor on about all their skills and accomplishments.

Ask the same question to 20 successful women, and by and large, they will attribute their success to being lucky. “I got lucky landing that role.” “I was in the right place at the right time.” “I was lucky to be introduced to the hiring manager.”

Today, we want to pull apart the ideas around why women claim luck is the backbone for their success, the emotional tug-of-war that happens when we need to own our worth and share examples of ways to get comfortable bragging about your work and worth.

How to Stop Attributing our Success to Luck:

Stop giving away your success:
As women, we tend to be highly focused on our team, boasting about their successes and ensuring the higher-ups all know what a wonderful job they are doing. This is absolutely fabulous and should be part of the strategy. This also needs to be coupled with you owning and vocalizing your own contributions to the team, how you lead them and what your role was as well. You can’t give credit away completely without hurting yourself.

Success isn’t the Norm:Know what you’re good at and acknowledge it. We assume that what we do right is what we are ‘supposed to do’ or that ‘everyone does this’ but that isn’t the case. Your skills are your own, they aren’t the norm, so don’t brush them off as if it’s no big deal. Don’t take for granted the everyday tasks that make you successful.

Confidently brag:
There’s no place for 1920’s modesty in 2020. Talk about what your successes are with confidence and boldness.
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Dominique Mas has an incredible article, The Art of Bragging.

LinkedIn Study on Bragging:

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Ask 20 successful men about how they got to where they are today in their careers and they will confidently clamor on about all their skills and accomplishments.

How to Stop Attributing our Success to Luck:

LinkedIn Study on Bragging:

Get your free copy of our digital magazine, GEN neXt, The Voice of the Modern Gen X Woman. www.moderngenxwoman.com/gennext

GEN NeXt is a collection of insights from incredible organizations, women, and industry experts who have dedicated themselves to the same cause—turning up the volume of women 40+.

We're not just Gen X we're GEN neXt

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Managing Fear and Anxiety in Uncertain Times

There is nothing scarier in life than to not know what’s coming.

If you’ve ever watched a scary movie, you know the tensest scenes are the one where we are in anticipation of what is going to happen next yet not really knowing what’s going to happen or when. Our stomach’s clench, our heart rate increases our pupils dilate.

We are currently living in a suspense-filled horror movie where the creepy music is playing so we know something is going to happen, however, we don’t know what it is or how scary it will be.

Unfortunately, this isn’t a movie. This is real life and it is creating a plethora of emotional angst that ranges from underreacting to overreacting and everything in between.

This special edition of Make Your Life Magnificent is going to explore what’s happening during these trying and uncertain times and how to manage our anxiety and stay healthy.

A FEW THINGS TO REMEMBER DURING THIS TIME

While this isn’t what anyone wishes for, what we need to take away from this is our ability to have a force reset. The opportunity to slow down from our over-programmed lives and reconnect with ourselves and our family.
1. Enjoy this worldwide slow down with your family

Watching a mid-week movie
Having breakfast or dinner as a family
Have a game of catch outside, bake, do a 1,000 piece puzzle

2. Be as prepared as you can to feel like you have a bit of control.
3. Build a new routine and keep a routine. In times of discomfort, building in routines will give you a false sense of comfort.
4. Be aware of catastrophizing, which means we start to see EVERYTHING through the lense of panic.
5. Don’t judge anyone for how they feel -- for some people, this may be a true trigger and set off panic attacks.
6. Label emotions: There are strong emotions attached to what is happening and if we want to lessen them than we need to label them and accept them and then manage them.

7. Boost your immune system:

Sleep
Exercise
Positive Experience
Lower Stress and Anxiety
Stay informed but don’t get obsessed

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Resources:
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8 Ways to Protect Your Emotional Health During this Uncertain Time

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Spring Clean Your Thoughts

The Spring is the time of year we clean our closets, clear off the cobwebs, open windows, and air out our homes. We want to go into the warmer months feeling as though our house is in order and we will spend days and weeks doing that.

That’s wonderful! Yet, we can’t help but wonder if you put as much effort and energy into clearing off the cobwebs of your thinking. Do you challenge your thoughts or your beliefs, wonder where they came from and try to dig into them by asking yourself, ‘do they serve me and what I want for my life?”

In this episode, we’re going to look metaphorically look under the bed and get rid of all the thoughts that have been hiding.

HOW TO SPRING CLEAN YOUR THOUGHTS
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Step 1. Take a look at where you feel stuck. If you’re always being passed over for a promotion, or an unexpected expense drops into your lap or if you’re having trouble with your friendships or romantic relationships.

Step 2. Investigate! This is where you really need to dig deep and look for those thoughts that have become embedded in your day-to-day thinking. Remember, your not even going to recognize them as a negative thought because you already believe them to be the truth. They are not!

Step 3. Start to challenge those thoughts. Separating your thoughts from the actual situation can help you see it more clearly.
Step 4. Catch your downward spiral thinking. Usually, we go down the rabbit-hole of desperate thinking. One thought jumps right on the next and before we know it we’re singing our own personal tale of woe is me. So catch when this starts to happen. It’s probably the times you are on autopilot, driving to work, in the shower, falling asleep.

Step 5. Consciously decide to change the thought.
SUMMARY:

95% of our day is spent on autopilot -- with our subconscious taking the lead. Chances are you have thoughts that you’ve taken to belive as fact, that aren’t. Once you take the time to really take a look at what’s going on in your brain, you can start to do a deep clean and change your thoughts. Over time, this will change the way you feel, the way you act and the circumstances of your life.

RESOURCES:

5 Steps to Stress Less
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