Hey Gen X Woman!
Even at a young age, we understood how powerful words can be. On the playground, we might, “sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” But the truth is we ALL felt the impact of hurtful words.
And let’s admit it, sometimes, we ourselves use words just to get under someone’s skin. Language can be beautiful, filled with love, empathy, trust and humanity. But language can also be dangerous, it can reshape our beliefs about ourselves, damage our self-esteem or drive us to make choices that are not in our best interest.

What may surprise you is that words you believe to be neutral or innocent aren’t and the language we use to the outside world tends to be much kinder than the language we use on ourselves.

In today’s episode, we’re going to explore why you must choose your words carefully and how what you say can and will directly impact your circumstances.
You’ll understand why many of the words and phrases you regularly say that are not helping you and choose words that can help lessen our anxiety, and be happier and more successful.
It's time you learn to watch your mouth! Language is powerful.

AT THE END OF THIS PODCAST, YOU WILL:

1. Understand why you must choose your words carefully and how what you say can and will directly impact your circumstances
2. Become much more aware of the words and phrases you regularly say that are not helping you
3. Recognize that a lot of what we tell ourselves is based on fiction and not fact
4. Be fired up to change the way to speak to yourself

When our inner voice is an inner critic your actions become a self-fulfilling prophecy reflective of those words.

• It can decrease your motivation
• Your actions can become reflective of the words you use
• You lower your self-esteem
• Increase your chances of depression

WORDS AND PHRASES THAT AREN’T HELPING YOU

Let’s talk about some words and phrases that you probably say without even realizing they are not helping you. In fact, you need to stay away from saying these things!

• I should/shouldn’t
• I can’t
• I am
• I’m sorry
• I need to/have to

CHANGE THE WAY TO SPEAK TO YOURSELF
Let’s move on to talk about how to change the way you speak to yourself.

1. Increase awareness around these words.
2. Go on a negativity diet!
3. Be kind to your inner child.

SUMMARY EPISODE:

Sticks and stones can break our bones but words can change our brain.

According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, a leading happiness researcher, if you want to develop lifelong satisfaction, you should regularly engage in positive thinking about yourself, share your happiest events with others, and savor every positive experience

However you want to think about it, the outcome is the same, how can you start to streamline your language and cut out the negativity fat?

RESOURCES:

Just Gen X—The Resting Mind Facebook Group

The Brand of You Creative Brief: Your Guide to Standing Out

Dr. Masaru Emoto, Water Consciousness

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GEN NeXt is a collection of insights from incredible organizations, women, and industry experts who have dedicated themselves to the same cause—turning up the volume of women 40+.

We're not just Gen X we're GEN neXt

We believe Gen X is Gen Next. The generation who is going to change the rules and the conversation around what it means to be a woman 40+, at work, in health, in finance, and in life. We aren’t going to allow anyone to put baby in the corner.

We’re always ideating and, asking the question, “What else can we do to advance women 40+?”

It became very obvious, and we recognized if we plan to create a movement and turn up the volume of women 40+, we couldn’t do it alone.

With this in mind, we wanted to collect ideas and insights from incredible organizations, women and industry experts who have dedicated themselves to the same cause and publish our first annual digital magazine, GEN neXt, The Voice of the Modern Gen X Woman.

This magazine is a nod toward the impact the beloved magazines of our youth had on us. We'd devour these magazines, imagining what our own future could look like. When was the last time you thought about your future?

In this episode, we’re talking all about what it means to not only be Gen X but GEN neXt.

Generation X is Generation Next.

For too long, we’ve been shouting to be heard... sometimes minimized... often overlooked. This is not ok. You know time to create a movement and turn up the volume of women 40+! We’re doing just that with our annual digital magazine, GEN neXt, The Voice of the Modern Gen X Woman.
Get your free copy of the inaugural issue by going to www.moderngenxwoman.com/gennext

In this episode we’re talking about...

• Why you are where you are meant to be, the future is ahead of you and you have the power to make it what you want
• Dating after 40 and why our dating expert Renee Suzanne says it is possible to find the love of your life after 40
• How being the good girl is a Gen X phenomenon and it just doesn’t work
• Style and how the style experts at Shop VnV are helping us look and feel more fabulous than ever
• Pivoting and career changes and how one inspirational lady, content writer and travel advisor Karyn Johnson, has done just that
• The music and the memories, Erin Mantz from Gen X Girls Grown Up shares why our kids just won’t have the same experience

The WORTH IT Program

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When you've decided you're sick of feeling unmotivated, stuck, and frustrated—it's time to join us for WORTH IT. You CAN from self-doubt to self confidence and change your life.

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GEN NeXt is a collection of insights from incredible organizations, women, and industry experts who have dedicated themselves to the same cause—turning up the volume of women 40+.

We're not just Gen X we're GEN neXt

Ask 20 successful men about how they got to where they are today in their careers and they will confidently clamor on about all their skills and accomplishments.

Ask the same question to 20 successful women, and by and large, they will attribute their success to being lucky. “I got lucky landing that role.” “I was in the right place at the right time.” “I was lucky to be introduced to the hiring manager.”

Today, we want to pull apart the ideas around why women claim luck is the backbone for their success, the emotional tug-of-war that happens when we need to own our worth and share examples of ways to get comfortable bragging about your work and worth.

How to Stop Attributing our Success to Luck:

Stop giving away your success:
As women, we tend to be highly focused on our team, boasting about their successes and ensuring the higher-ups all know what a wonderful job they are doing. This is absolutely fabulous and should be part of the strategy. This also needs to be coupled with you owning and vocalizing your own contributions to the team, how you lead them and what your role was as well. You can’t give credit away completely without hurting yourself.

Success isn’t the Norm:Know what you’re good at and acknowledge it. We assume that what we do right is what we are ‘supposed to do’ or that ‘everyone does this’ but that isn’t the case. Your skills are your own, they aren’t the norm, so don’t brush them off as if it’s no big deal. Don’t take for granted the everyday tasks that make you successful.

Confidently brag:
There’s no place for 1920’s modesty in 2020. Talk about what your successes are with confidence and boldness.
Download The Resting Mind's Free Resource: Rediscovering Yourself here.

Struggling with your career and confidence? We can help with one-on-one personal coaching. Contact Jackie at [email protected] to schedule an introductory call.
Dominique Mas has an incredible article, The Art of Bragging.

LinkedIn Study on Bragging:

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GEN NeXt is a collection of insights from incredible organizations, women, and industry experts who have dedicated themselves to the same cause—turning up the volume of women 40+.

We're not just Gen X we're GEN neXt

If you ask any financial advisor which generation they are most concerned about financially, Generation X tops the list. Research shows, time and again, that Gen X is in the worst prepared for retirement, have the most debt and spend the most money on non-essentials. On top of that, Gen X’ers are also the worst at talking about money overall and even with their partners.

Today’s episode is all about how do you get comfortable talking about money. EEK, we just saw your eyes go wide because the concept freaks you out a bit, but we got you!

HOW TO TALK ABOUT MONEY:

• Try to limit the emotional connection between your feelings on your financial situation and yourself. Money is an emotional topic but if you bring your high emotions into the conversation, it can easily go astray. Really break out the fact from the fiction.
  
• Don’t use the word you in the conversation. When you have any difficult conversation, as soon as you say something like you spend too much, the other person feels attacked or blamed, causing their reaction to get heightened.
  
• Money can be a triggering topic, recognize that it will take time to have this conversation. You may need to take several breaks and come back to it.
  
• Schedule regular meetings about finances. The more you talk about finances ongoing, the less awkward it will be. It is like anything else you do, the more you do it the more comfortable you get.
  
• Everyone values money differently, so discuss what your money values are and have an open dialogue. For some, they value money to buy things, while others value money for security and some for status.
  
• Create a plan for your short term and long term goals and stick with it.
  
• Do what works for you. Just because your parents always had a joint checking account doesn’t mean you have to.
• Congratulate yourself for having this conversation. Recognize each small win here.

SUMMARY:

Finances aren’t a comfortable topic for most people but bringing these taboos into your home can have costly effects on your marriage. Start having the financial discussion today, it isn’t too late.
Sometimes changing your financial habits and how you communicate about them isn't something you can do alone. Contact Jackie at [email protected] to book a free discovery call.

Are you feeling stressed to the max? Download 5 Steps to Stress Less. It will change the way you deal with stress forever. Want to uplevel your retirement fund? It's never too late according to CNBC.

Get your free copy of our digital magazine, GEN neXt, The Voice of the Modern Gen X Woman. www.moderngenxwoman.com/gennext

GEN NeXt is a collection of insights from incredible organizations, women, and industry experts who have dedicated themselves to the same cause—turning up the volume of women 40+.

We're not just Gen X we're GEN neXt

Hey Gen X Lady,
Emotions are the beacon of light that guides our lives. When our lives are filled with love, admiration, contentment, joy, then our emotions will guide us to a happy place. However, too often, other emotions like fear, jealousy, and anger are swimming in our heads like sharks waiting to feed. And we feed these sark-like emotions with either stronger negative emotions or with overall negative self-talk.

If emotions have that much power, is it even possible to take control?

In this episode, we take a look at how to gain back control of the emotions, especially when they drive all of our decisions.

Emotions from a brain-science perspective.

All emotions start with a thought first. This is actually very liberating because we’ve assumed that emotions happen to us, however, we actually have more control over them than we think.
Our thoughts are patterns embedded in our brains, that’s why we typically have the same reactions to a stimulus. Since 95% of our thinking is actually our sub-conscious auto-pilot, which makes these old embedded thoughts take the wheel and turn into emotions.

Once the thought pattern kicks off, the brain releases chemicals that start to flow through the body and heighten our emotions. When you have good emotions you release good chemicals, you literally feel high.

On the flip side, negative emotions release negative chemicals this is why your hands may shake when you are nervous or you get flushed when you’re angry.

Emotions from an energy perspective

Our emotions give clue us into how we what kind of energy we are putting out.
Here’s an example, ever notice when you’re in love everything around you feels better. I once heard someone say, “the snow even looks brighter!”. That is because we’re operating from a higher-level, anabolic energy.
But then you have an argument with your partner. Your subconscious mind takes over and you become fearful that you will be abandoned or angry that you are not being acknowledged.
Now you feel the emotion of frustration, maybe you’re sad or even feeling a bit depressed. Everything feels like a slog. You’re cranky, irritable and one frustrating thing happens after another. This is because you’re in a lower level catabolic destructive energy.
Like you learned in high school physics like energy attracts like energy, so whatever your emotion, you are actually attracting more of it.

Emotions are actually neutral

We may say being angry or sad are bad emotions, but they are actually just giving us information. Something is triggering these feelings and if we are curious about them and why we are let’s say angry, we can get down to the root cause and then make needed adjustments.
The other thing is humans are NOT supposed to be happy 100% of the time. Life gives us ups and downs. But the self-aware person knows how to be ok with their emotions. The difficulty comes when we want to run away from something that feels crappy and we do things to self-soothe like shop, drink, eat, etc.
Resources:
Download our Guide, 5 Steps to Stress Less

Get your free copy of our digital magazine, GEN neXt, The Voice of the Modern Gen X Woman. www.moderngenxwoman.com/gennext

GEN NeXt is a collection of insights from incredible organizations, women, and industry experts who have dedicated themselves to the same cause—turning up the volume of women 40+.

We're not just Gen X we're GEN neXt