Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Ditch Goal Guilt & 4 Ways to Set Goals with Grace // with Carmelita Tiu

Ditch Goal Guilt & 4 Ways to Set Goals with Grace // with Carmelita Tiu

11/11/22 • 19 min

Do you find yourself beating yourself up when you don't reach a goal...even if you have very good reasons for not attaining it? Are you saddled with "shoulds" and little perfectionist gremlin voices that make you feel like a failure whenever a goal isn't met?

In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu talks about how to cut through the negative self-talk and guilt by asking a key question -- "Am I living in alignment with my values?"

She also covers 4 alternatives to traditional "goals" -- perfect for times in your life when you need flexibility and a SMART goal feels too rigid:

setting intentions
"holding space"
anti-goals
no goals at all

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In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu talks about how to cut through the negative self-talk and guilt by asking a key question -- "Am I living in alignment with my values?"

She also covers 4 alternatives to traditional "goals" -- perfect for times in your life when you need flexibility and a SMART goal feels too rigid:

setting intentions
"holding space"
anti-goals
no goals at all

***Check out the new website! Visit www.knowberaisethem.com***

Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

New episodes drop every week (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.

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Previous Episode

How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies (Encore) // by Carmelita (Cat) Tiu

(Encore of Episode 05)

“I’m Speaking.” We all remember that magical, kick-ass Kamala Harris moment, right?

We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they’re interrupted by someone else? Will they choose politeness over being heard? Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that they’ll offend?

Listen to hear:

The different social norms for boys and girls
Disparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settings
The 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya Chemaly
Sample phrases illustrating how to interrupt
What to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interrupting

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Next Episode

The Power of Tiny Habits // with Julie DeLucca-Collins

We’re still early in 2023 and if you’re like me, you’re still jazzed about goals, intentions, resolutions, etc. Julie DeLucca-Collins joins host Carmelita Tiu to talk about the power of tiny habits, and how small habits can build into big results.

Listen to hear:

How motivation doesn’t work when creating habits, and what does
The recipe for creating tiny habits that stick
The importance of celebrating even the small wins

About Our Guest

Julie DeLucca-Collins is the Founder and CEO of Go Confidently Services, the host of the popular Casa DeConfidence Podcast®, and her weekly Radio Show Confident You featured on a global talk radio network.

As a Business and Life Strategist Coach, Julie helps women business owners launch or grow their businesses, get clients, be productive, and achieve their dreams. Julie helps her clients create simple habits to achieve goals and change their lives.

Julie is a sought-after public speaker, author, trainer, and course creator. She is certified as a coach in Cognitive Behavioral Techniques, Holistic Coach, and Tiny Habits. She is also certified as a Social Emotional Learning Facilitator and has completed her 200-hour Yoga Teacher Certification. Julie enjoys helping her clients build mental fitness and improve their mindset to be at peace and improve peak performance. Julie is also the #1 best-selling author of the book Confident You (simple habits to live the life you've imagined).

Julie has been honored with the "25 Most Powerful Minority Women in Business Award." by the Minority Enterprise Executive Council in Washington, DC. Julie and her Podcast co-host/producer husband Dan reside in Vernon, CT, with their fur babies, Yogi Bear, Junior, and Simba.

To learn more about Julie and her work, connect with her here:

References in this Episode:

Tiny Habits Academy
Tiny Habits - The Small Changes That Change Everything, by B.J. Fogg

About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu

Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.

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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Ditch Goal Guilt & 4 Ways to Set Goals with Grace // with Carmelita Tiu

Transcript

Carmelita (Cat) Tiu, Host00:00:00.750

Welcome to know them. Be them, raise them a show to help moms stay informed and inspired so they can show up for themselves and their daughters the way they want to. I'm your host Carmelita to join me each week as I cover a variety of topics, all designed to support mindful. And growth-oriented moms of girls, especially girls in their crucial tween and teen years. And welcome to the first episode of season two. As many of, you kno