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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

Carmelita Tiu

Are you a growth-oriented, mindful and busy mom who wants to raise strong daughters? Me too! Tune in for short episodes (under 25 min) filled with inspiration, insights and actionable tips from experts, moms who’ve been there, and host Carmelita Tiu (a mom of two girls herself). Hear about timely (& sometimes tough) topics: boundaries, self-care, creating safe spaces, self confidence, intuition, negative patterns, body positivity, friendship, body image, gender stereotypes, stress, and more. Follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram for more info. And here’s to strong women -- may we know them, may we be them, and may we raise them.
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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Respond // with Cai Graham

Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Respond // with Cai Graham

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06/14/22 • 24 min

Self-Harm and kids. What parent isn’t struck with anxiety when they think of their child contemplating self harm? What leads to self-harm becoming an option?

(Warning: this episode discusses self-harm from an educational perspective. There are no personal stories or graphic experiences, but we do discuss what self-harm can look like. For some, this might be difficult or you may choose not to listen to this around young children. I encourage everyone to assess their situations, take care of themselves, and if you need additional resources, see the links to NAMI and the Crisis Textline below.)

In Ep. 40, Cai Graham unpacks all of this with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu in a frank discussion about the origins of self-harm and how we can respond.

Some highlights:

  • What self-harm is & isn’t
  • The roots of tween & teen self-harm
  • The 3 reasons kids say they self-harm
  • The first thing to do when you discover your child is self harming
  • What NOT to do when you find out about self-harm

Guest Bio:

Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen ToolboxTM️. Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN ToolboxTM️ Series which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence.

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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - 5 Confidence-Boosting Tips for Your Daughter // by Briana Beazley

5 Confidence-Boosting Tips for Your Daughter // by Briana Beazley

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09/28/21 • 10 min

Have you noticed a confidence dip in your tween or teen girl? You aren’t dreaming...it’s a real thing.

Today's article, "5 Steps to Helping Our Daughters Grow Up With More Confidence," comes from Briana Beazley. Briana is founder of NadiaGirl, a tween girls clothing brand focused on empowering young girls by creating comfortable clothing that fits well, to help them feel more confident.

When Briana’s daughter was entering her tween years, shopping for her was discouraging and frustrating. There were limited options, and the clothes were not age-appropriate, didn’t fit well, or were poor quality. She saw how this impacted her daughter’s confidence and decided to do something about it. Soon after that, Nadia Girl was born, and Briana began writing about issues affecting tween girls.

In this episode, you’ll learn ways you can help boost your daughter’s confidence, such as normalizing failure, encouraging risk taking, and more.

Key mentions/concepts:

  • "The Confidence Code for Girls," by Claire Shipman, Katty Kay, and JillEllyn Riley. www.confidencecodegirls.com
  • Enclothed Cognition - see How Clothing Choices Affect and Reflect Your Self-Image, by Jill Ferguson. Retrieved from www.huffpost.com.
  • For high quality, sustainable clothes with a proprietary fit made for tween girls’ changing bodies, visit www.nadiagirl.com, and follow NadiaGirl on Instagram @nadiagirl.

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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Grappling with Beauty & Objectification // with Valerie Monroe and Debbie Saroufim

Grappling with Beauty & Objectification // with Valerie Monroe and Debbie Saroufim

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03/16/23 • 28 min

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her face at some point? My nose is too big. I don’t like my profile. My forehead is too big. I wish my lips were fuller.

Val Monroe, former beauty editor for O, The Oprah Magazine and writer of the popular Substack newsletter How Not to F*ck Up Your Face, and Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim, chat with host Carmelita Tiu about grappling with beauty standards, objectification, and how we can shift our perspectives as our bodies and faces change through our lives.

We cover:

  • What objectification means
  • Mirror meditation - what it is, why it works
  • The roots of beauty standards and our dissatisfaction
  • Sitting with discomfort
  • Feeling beautiful vs. being beautiful

Today's Guests

To learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit www.bodyrelationship.com and follow her on Instagram @bodyrelationship_coach. And check out her Parents Guide, for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies.

Want to feel happier about your appearance—especially as you age—you might like reading more about what Val has to say about it. Subscribe for free to How Not to F*ck Up Your Face at valeriemonroe.substack.com. You can find her on Instagram at @thisisvalmonroe.

About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu

Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.

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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies // by Carmelita Tiu

How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies // by Carmelita Tiu

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10/05/21 • 10 min

“I’m Speaking.” We all remember that simple-yet-powerful Kamala Harris statement, right?

We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they’re interrupted by someone else? Will they choose politeness over being heard? Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that they’ll offend?

Listen to hear:

  • The different social norms for boys and girls
  • Disparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settings
  • When to interrupt back
  • The 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya Chemaly
  • Sample phrases illustrating different ways to interrupt
  • What to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interrupting

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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Understanding Body Positivity & Fat Phobia // with Emily Lauren Dick

Understanding Body Positivity & Fat Phobia // with Emily Lauren Dick

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02/15/22 • 29 min

What does representation have to do with body image? What's body positivity, and what's body neutrality? Are you fat-phobic? Do your words and use of the word "fat" inadvertently feed into fat culture?

In this week’s episode, body positivity expert Emily Lauren Dick delves into all of these questions and more.

Emily explains:

  • The origin of body image issues
  • The difference between body positivity and body neutrality
  • What parents can do to help their daughters love their bodies
  • Fat phobia and fat talk, and how to avoid feeding into thin culture

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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Empower Girls With These 10 Phrases (Encore) // by Wendy Snyder

Empower Girls With These 10 Phrases (Encore) // by Wendy Snyder

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07/12/22 • 19 min

Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman? An “abracadabra” to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way?

While sadly there’s no such thing, Wendy Snyder, Positive Parenting Teacher, Family Coach and founder of A Fresh Start Family, offers us some guidance in her article, "10 Important Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters.”

The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say things better, to better support our daughters.

  1. I love you no matter what.
  2. You are absolutely beautiful, inside and out.
  3. You are strong, and you’ve got this! I’m here to support you.
  4. How do you feel?
  5. Gosh, I love my ______ (body part)! What is your favorite part of your body?
  6. Oh yeah? Tell me more.
  7. How can you be a light in this situation?
  8. You have a strong desire to feel powerful and that is GOOD!
  9. How will you be the change you want to see?
  10. I am not ok with _____, or I’d like you to ______.

To learn more about Wendy and A Fresh Start Family, visit:


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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Ditch Goal Guilt & 4 Ways to Set Goals with Grace // with Carmelita Tiu

Ditch Goal Guilt & 4 Ways to Set Goals with Grace // with Carmelita Tiu

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11/11/22 • 19 min

Do you find yourself beating yourself up when you don't reach a goal...even if you have very good reasons for not attaining it? Are you saddled with "shoulds" and little perfectionist gremlin voices that make you feel like a failure whenever a goal isn't met?

In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu talks about how to cut through the negative self-talk and guilt by asking a key question -- "Am I living in alignment with my values?"

She also covers 4 alternatives to traditional "goals" -- perfect for times in your life when you need flexibility and a SMART goal feels too rigid:

  • setting intentions
  • "holding space"
  • anti-goals
  • no goals at all

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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Sex, Gender, Expression, Orientation & Showing Up for Your Child's Journey // with Elaine Farris

Sex, Gender, Expression, Orientation & Showing Up for Your Child's Journey // with Elaine Farris

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06/28/22 • 26 min

Episode 42 is all about fundamental LGBTQ concepts, and ways we can support our kids and others who may be on their own journey, discovering who they are. Elaine Farris joins host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu and shares:

  • What the definitions are for assigned sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation
  • How these terms relate to one another
  • Why acceptance is not the goal
  • The importance of using pronouns
  • How to support your child while being careful not to push them

Guest Bio:

Elaine is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist based in Ann Arbor, Michigan, whose passion is working with individuals within the LGBTQ+ community, and the neurodivergent community, which often overlap. She works under an intersectional, feminist, and anti-oppressive framework.

Email: [email protected]

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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham

Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham

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06/21/22 • 19 min

In Episode 41 of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Cai Graham chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about connecting with our tweens and teens, and coping.

Some highlights:

  • The importance of being vulnerable in front of their kids
  • Why we shouldn’t beat ourselves up for the challenges we feel when raising tweens & teens
  • 3 questions to ask your tweens & teens every day
  • Healthy ways to cope

Guest Bio:

Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen ToolboxTM️. She is a mum of two fantastic young adults in their late 20’s - so she has been deep in the parenting trenches.

Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN ToolboxTM️ Series which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence.

To learn more about Cai Graham:

  • Visit www.caigraham.com
  • Follow her on Instagram @caigraham
  • Find her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent & Teen Toolbox
  • Her Amazon bestselling book: The Teen Toolbox

Check out Cai’s videos:


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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Are Your Thoughts Fooling You? Reframing Negative Thoughts & Cognitive Distortions // with Julia Hogan

Are Your Thoughts Fooling You? Reframing Negative Thoughts & Cognitive Distortions // with Julia Hogan

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01/18/22 • 24 min

What's a cognitive distortion? How do I manage my or my daughter's negative thought spirals? Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with her guest, author and therapist Julia Hogan.

Julia explains:

  • What cognitive distortions are, and dives deeper into
  • Catastrophizing
  • All or nothing thinking
  • Magical thinking or mind reading
  • Personalizing
  • "Should" Statements
  • Others not mentioned but that are widely recognized include:
  • Mental Filter
  • Disqualifying the Positive
  • Overgeneralizing
  • Emotional Reasoning
  • Here's an article that helps explain them: https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/
  • What we can do to retrain our brains
  • How we can help our kids break negative thought patterns

Check out Julia's past episodes on Self-Care & Authentic Leisure and Boundaries!

Follow Julia Hogan, LPC here:


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How many episodes does Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them have?

Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them currently has 63 episodes available.

What topics does Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them cover?

The podcast is about Parenting, Kids & Family, Podcasts, Self-Improvement and Education.

What is the most popular episode on Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them?

The episode title 'Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them?

The average episode length on Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them is 21 minutes.

How often are episodes of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them released?

Episodes of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them are typically released every 7 days.

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The first episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them was released on Aug 17, 2021.

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