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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Respond // with Cai Graham

Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Respond // with Cai Graham

06/14/22 • 24 min

Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

Self-Harm and kids. What parent isn’t struck with anxiety when they think of their child contemplating self harm? What leads to self-harm becoming an option?

(Warning: this episode discusses self-harm from an educational perspective. There are no personal stories or graphic experiences, but we do discuss what self-harm can look like. For some, this might be difficult or you may choose not to listen to this around young children. I encourage everyone to assess their situations, take care of themselves, and if you need additional resources, see the links to NAMI and the Crisis Textline below.)

In Ep. 40, Cai Graham unpacks all of this with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu in a frank discussion about the origins of self-harm and how we can respond.

Some highlights:

  • What self-harm is & isn’t
  • The roots of tween & teen self-harm
  • The 3 reasons kids say they self-harm
  • The first thing to do when you discover your child is self harming
  • What NOT to do when you find out about self-harm

Guest Bio:

Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen ToolboxTM️. Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN ToolboxTM️ Series which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence.

To learn more about Cai Graham:


In this episode – references and additional resources:


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Self-Harm and kids. What parent isn’t struck with anxiety when they think of their child contemplating self harm? What leads to self-harm becoming an option?

(Warning: this episode discusses self-harm from an educational perspective. There are no personal stories or graphic experiences, but we do discuss what self-harm can look like. For some, this might be difficult or you may choose not to listen to this around young children. I encourage everyone to assess their situations, take care of themselves, and if you need additional resources, see the links to NAMI and the Crisis Textline below.)

In Ep. 40, Cai Graham unpacks all of this with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu in a frank discussion about the origins of self-harm and how we can respond.

Some highlights:

  • What self-harm is & isn’t
  • The roots of tween & teen self-harm
  • The 3 reasons kids say they self-harm
  • The first thing to do when you discover your child is self harming
  • What NOT to do when you find out about self-harm

Guest Bio:

Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen ToolboxTM️. Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN ToolboxTM️ Series which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence.

To learn more about Cai Graham:


In this episode – references and additional resources:


Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

New episodes drop every Tuesday (with the occasional break). Subscribe/follow here: Apple, Spotify, Google.

Leave a 5-star review – it's good karma! Head here, scroll til you see “Ratings & Reviews”, click 5 stars or tap “Write a Review”, and feel the gratitude vibes! Thank you thank you thank you!

For more doses of information and inspiration:


Want to support? Buy me a coffee - help keep me caffeinated through my interviews and edits :)

*Some links may be affiliate links; if you use them to make a purchase, Amazon pays me a small commission for the sale - at no extra cost to you. If you use these links I really appreciate the support.

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Sex Talk(s): How to Have Them and Overcome the Awkward // with Sarah Sproule

Ok, who of us hasn’t cringed a little bit, thinking about "having the talk" with your kids? Why does this awkwardness exist, and can we make it less awkward for our kids, so there’s a healthier dialogue about sex and bodies and relationships?

In Episode 39, Sarah Sproule unpacks all of this with host Carmelita Tiu, sharing what parents can do to create an open atmosphere, build healthy attitudes towards sex and their bodies, and empower their daughters with tools to craft healthy relationships.

Some highlights:

  • Where the awkwardness around sex-related topics comes from
  • When and how to start talking about sex
  • Why it’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it
  • A script for have an open conversation with older kids about sex, when you haven’t had one before
  • The importance of living the way healthy feels

Guest Bio:

When Sarah was 11 she was afraid she was only growing one breast and didn’t know who to turn to for help.

Now as mother of three teens, with two decades experience as a therapist and a masters in sexuality studies, Sarah uses her skills as an occupational therapist and sex educator to ensure every parent and caring adult knows how to nurture deeper connection with their growing kid(s).

Because no child should ever feel alone and unable to reach out for help with their body, their boundaries or their knowledge about sexuality.

... and yes Sarah eventually grew two breasts roughly the same size.

To learn more about Sarah Sproule:


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undefined - Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham

Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham

In Episode 41 of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Cai Graham chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about connecting with our tweens and teens, and coping.

Some highlights:

  • The importance of being vulnerable in front of their kids
  • Why we shouldn’t beat ourselves up for the challenges we feel when raising tweens & teens
  • 3 questions to ask your tweens & teens every day
  • Healthy ways to cope

Guest Bio:

Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen ToolboxTM️. She is a mum of two fantastic young adults in their late 20’s - so she has been deep in the parenting trenches.

Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN ToolboxTM️ Series which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence.

To learn more about Cai Graham:

  • Visit www.caigraham.com
  • Follow her on Instagram @caigraham
  • Find her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent & Teen Toolbox
  • Her Amazon bestselling book: The Teen Toolbox

Check out Cai’s videos:


In this episode – references and additional resources:

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  1. Head here
  2. Scroll til you see “Ratings & Reviews”
  3. Click 5 stars, or tap “Write a Review”
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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Respond // with Cai Graham

Transcript

Cai Graham

this is more of a path that you're going to have to walk together with your child so that between you, they can conquer whatever it is. They need to conquer knowing full well that you are by their side to support them.

Carmelita (Cat) Tiu, Host

Hello, all I'm Carmelita too. And welcome to know them. Be them, raise them a show to help busy, mindful growth oriented moms stay informed and inspired as they

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