Step Out of the Shadows and Speak!

In that moment between event and response, when we recognize something as a situation that can have significant consequences in our professional future. Those are the moments where before we speak, we want to stop and have something to reference in terms of, all right, who am I? Why am I here? What do I want? Because what most people do is when we are in a difficult situation or something, that's an emotionally charged situation. It's stressful for some reason. And stressful situations aren't bad. It just signals. Okay, this is going to call for me to dig a little bit deeper. When we find ourselves in those situations, most people think at that moment, OK, what do I want here? And what's in the brain starts to come out of the mouth? That's a huge mistake. Because during those moments when we are emotionally charged, we become drugged and start to think crazy things, and we start to think we are people that we are not. We all know what that's like when we are in our personal relationships when we find ourselves in a heated debate or a heated argument, or we are in an emotionally charged situation. It could be with a sister or a boyfriend or girlfriend or a spouse or a child. We say crazy things and they fly out of our mouth. And in that moment, they seem like the exact right thing to say. This is what I'm thinking. This is what you need to hear. I've always wanted to tell you this, and I'm telling it to you now. And then we have to then go later on and say, I apologize. I don't know what I was thinking. I don't know why I said that. And it's because we were drugged. We were crazy. We think crazy thoughts and we start thinking things like when we're, let's say, dealing with a difficult person, we think someone needs to teach you a lesson. And lucky for you, today is your lucky day. I am just the person to teach you that lesson. I can be nastier than you. I can be Ruder than you. I can show you. We start to think these thoughts or we start to think, I'm going to retreat and just not deal with this at all. But what we want to do is long before these situations happen, we want to create some tools, as I mentioned, to reference so that in the sliver in time between event and response, between what happens and how we respond to it or what we say, or if I sliver in time, we want to be able to stop and think, okay, who did I say I was? Who did I affirm that I was when I was sane and sober. Because when we are emotionally charged, we are neither one of those.

In this episode, Dan explores how we might not be aware of how our environment is affecting us, but we had better take a look, because it's time to either take a stand or stand down.

Do you have people who constantly interrupt you or talk over you or make you feel insignificant or unimportant? In this lesson You'll learn how to shut down the interruptors in your life using the 3-step anti-interruptor.

5 Essential Strategies for Effective Communication in Difficult ConversationsNavigating challenging dialogues is an inevitable part of a professional journey. And the difference between success and failure? The right preparation. The Undeniable Power of Freestyle Scripts Picture this: a communicator who effortlessly conveys difficult messages. No, it isn't innate talent but honed skills. Enter freestyle scripts. Here's how they work: 1. Delivering Unpleasant News The art is in your opening and closing lines. Lead in lines grab attention, set the tone, and prime the other party for a crucial dialogue. A classic example: "Mark, I have some unfortunate news." The closing? Keep it crisp and straightforward, pushing the narrative forward. "Can I count on you?" 2. Negotiating a Pay Raise Your most potent tool isn't your voice; it's your value journal. Documenting your above-and-beyond contributions quantifies your worth, making the negotiation smoother. 3. Offering Constructive Criticism Constructive feedback is a dance between precision and tact. Always have a system, like the LBNT approach: "I appreciated your presentation's passion. For a more compelling impact next time, consider diving deeper into the evidence." 4. The Art of Declining A vital part of maintaining balance and integrity is knowing when to say no. Having a system, such as a three-step script, can make this process seamless: "I'd love to assist. However, tonight's not feasible. Might tomorrow morning work?" 5. Submitting Your Resignation Exiting with grace is as crucial as your tenure. Approach it with professionalism, from the meeting call to the content of your resignation letter. In a world of unpredictable professional dynamics, the key to navigating difficult conversations lies in two words: Don't wing it. Preparation and understanding of effective communication strategies can truly set you apart as a formidable and eloquent communicator.

https://tinyurl.com/seriouslydan for the free resources that go along with this lesson. This video is about How to Get People to Take You More Seriously and the 4 secrets revealed both in this video and in the upcoming part 2 to this series. Do you ever wonder why people don't take you more seriously, or as seriously as they seem to take other people? In today's effective communication skills training course video, communication skills expert, author, trainer, and keynote speaker Dan O'Connor gives you the 4 secrets you can use right now to get people to take you more seriously at work, at home, and everywhere else. I've broken down this free communication skills online training course below so you can find your way through it and easily review this communication skills course again and again after you download your free course materials at the link provided at the end of the communication skills course online video. 1:40 What to look for 1:57 Brad Smith 2:24 Deborah Birx 3:19 Anthony Fauci 3:57 Andrew Cuomo 4:34 The 4 things we'll focus on 5:30 Ending on an up-note 5:50 Watch Your Melody 8:34 The second thing--hand gestures 11:35 The importance of melody 12:30 What to do about your melody 13:44 How to re-train yourself to use your hands properly 14:57 Advanced body language techniques 15:27 Where to go for more 15:47 The free materials that go along with this lesson 16:23 The one tip I can give you no matter what message you have to send from now until the end of time ****COMMUNICATION SKILLS TRAINING LESSONS PLAYLISTS Full-Length Lessons: https://goo.gl/bDCLjB Energy Vampires: https://goo.gl/Mn3LzF Miraculous Principles: https://goo.gl/JSAFWR Q & A: https://goo.gl/zDPyVp Power Phrases: https://goo.gl/tLnh1F Videos: Most Recent Upload: https://goo.gl/2YG4fJ Most Popular: https://goo.gl/ch1BeY https://www.danoconnortraining.com for more free videos on how to communicate with Americans and more. https://danoconnortraining.com/shop/ For Dan's entire Step Out of the Shadows and Speak! Communication Skills Training Program. Facebook: https:www.facebook.com/communicationtraining Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/EVSlayer Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dandanhesyourman Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/danoconnortraining/ Website: https://www.danoconnortraining.com Store: https://www.danoconnortraining.com/all-dan-oconnors-communication-products-video-online-downloadable/ Blog: https://www.danoconnortraining.com/communication-skills-training-blog-2/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/danoconnorspeaker/ These professional development classes online and personal development courses are great self-help books in audio and video format like audible, but these lessons are free. If you'd like to check out his entire communication skills video and audio program, you'll find it here: https://danoconnortraining.com/shop/ Body language secrets, reading body language, body language tells, signs, and more like on TedTalks-- you'll learn it all, and these lessons are great for autistic people of all ages. If you like these communication skills courses for free online, make sure to check out Dan's effective communication skills training videos and online courses website -link below- where you'll find: -Communication skills training videos for free -Effective communication skills courses online -Audio programs on communication skills -Books about communication in the workplace -Customer service skills lessons -Funny customer service videos -Webinars on communication and customer service -Help Dealing with Difficult People and more. A little more about this online communication skills training course in English for free: -Buy The Dealing with Difficult People Book on Amazon.com: http://amzn.to/2vgARZN -Free 7-day pass to Dan's Weekly Communication Skills Course Online: https://www.onlinecommunicationtraining.com -Download Your Free Copy of Dan's Latest Full-Length Video Program On Communication Skills: https://danoconnortraining.com/best-of-danger-and-power-phrases/ -Check Out Dan's Other Critically-Acclaimed Book, Say This--Not That!!: http://amzn.to/2uTOQn9 Both of Dan's books sold on Amazon boast a 4.-out-of-5-star rating; something you don't see often, especially with books about hoe to improve your communication skills. -Check out Dan's website here: https://danoconnortraining.com Of course, Dan's most popular communication skills training program in English is Step Out of the Shadows and Speak!! Tactical Communication Learning System. You can find that here: https://danoconnortraining.com/shop/ Dan can be reached at [email protected]. You can learn more about him and his training on his website, www.DanOConnorTraining.com, or you can call him at 877-570-1573 701-205-4141 if calling from outside the US.