Grappling with Beauty & Objectification // with Valerie Monroe and Debbie Saroufim

03/16/23 • 28 min

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her face at some point? My nose is too big. I don’t like my profile. My forehead is too big. I wish my lips were fuller.

Val Monroe, former beauty editor for O, The Oprah Magazine and writer of the popular Substack newsletter How Not to F*ck Up Your Face, and Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim, chat with host Carmelita Tiu about grappling with beauty standards, objectification, and how we can shift our perspectives as our bodies and faces change through our lives.

We cover:

What objectification means
Mirror meditation - what it is, why it works
The roots of beauty standards and our dissatisfaction
Sitting with discomfort
Feeling beautiful vs. being beautiful

Today's Guests

To learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit www.bodyrelationship.com and follow her on Instagram @bodyrelationship_coach. And check out her Parents Guide, for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies.

Want to feel happier about your appearance—especially as you age—you might like reading more about what Val has to say about it. Subscribe for free to How Not to F*ck Up Your Face at valeriemonroe.substack.com. You can find her on Instagram at @thisisvalmonroe.

About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu

Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.

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What woman hasn’t disliked part of her face at some point? My nose is too big. I don’t like my profile. My forehead is too big. I wish my lips were fuller.

We cover:

What objectification means
Mirror meditation - what it is, why it works
The roots of beauty standards and our dissatisfaction
Sitting with discomfort
Feeling beautiful vs. being beautiful

Today's Guests

About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu

Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

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AND - if you're a growth-oriented mom who wants to defy expectation and lead a legacy-worthy life, visit carmelitatiu.com to set up a 30 min complimentary coaching consult with me!

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Unpacking & Embracing Gender Equity (Encore) // with Annie Warshaw

What is equality? What is equity? What is gender equity? How can we embrace all of these?

In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Annie Warshaw, co-founder of Mission Propelle and a gender justice professor at Roosevelt University, unpacks gender equity in her chat with host Carmelita Tiu.

In this episode, Annie:

Answers the question, "What is gender equity?"
Explains how we can be aware of gender equity and encourage it
Tells us the 3 things that will make her feel like she’s raised her sons successfully
Helps us reframe our beliefs about old-school etiquette so we can foster more equitable gender roles
Talks about the importance of having a list of shared family values

To learn more about Annie Warshaw and her work:

for equity consulting and coaching, visit missionpropelle.com, or follow @mission_propelle on Instagram
for information about Youth Alliance Yoga, go to youthallianceyoga.com

Other references:

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How to Navigate & Challenge Beauty Standards // with Val Monroe & Debbie Saroufim

We cover:

The importance of diversifying what you see and media literacy
The myth of “figuring it out” and having it all together
Normalizing making informed choices
Social media - the good, the bad, and how much time Debbie spends on it ;)
The duality of our emotions - you can feel dislike something and that doesn't mean it needs change
Awesome parting thought from Val about what real beauty is

To learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit www.bodyrelationship.com , and follow her on Instagram @bodyrelationship_coach. And check out her Parents Guide, for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies.

About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu

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***Are you a dreamer, a bucket-list maker, a multi-hyphenate -- and a mom who's passionate about parenting with intention? If you're ready to step up and lead a legacy-worthy life, then coaching with me may be right for you. I offer 1:1 coaching packages, and in May 2023 I will be launching a moms collective for like-minded moms of girls and looking for founding members.