Sex, Gender, Expression, Orientation & Showing Up for Your Child's Journey // with Elaine Farris
06/28/22 • 26 min
Episode 42 is all about fundamental LGBTQ concepts, and ways we can support our kids and others who may be on their own journey, discovering who they are. Elaine Farris joins host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu and shares:
- What the definitions are for assigned sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation
- How these terms relate to one another
- Why acceptance is not the goal
- The importance of using pronouns
- How to support your child while being careful not to push them
Guest Bio:
Elaine is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist based in Ann Arbor, Michigan, whose passion is working with individuals within the LGBTQ+ community, and the neurodivergent community, which often overlap. She works under an intersectional, feminist, and anti-oppressive framework.
Email: [email protected]
In this episode – references and additional resources:
- The Trevor Project
- Previous Episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them:
- Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa (Ep. 35)
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Episode 42 is all about fundamental LGBTQ concepts, and ways we can support our kids and others who may be on their own journey, discovering who they are. Elaine Farris joins host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu and shares:
- What the definitions are for assigned sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation
- How these terms relate to one another
- Why acceptance is not the goal
- The importance of using pronouns
- How to support your child while being careful not to push them
Guest Bio:
Elaine is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist based in Ann Arbor, Michigan, whose passion is working with individuals within the LGBTQ+ community, and the neurodivergent community, which often overlap. She works under an intersectional, feminist, and anti-oppressive framework.
Email: [email protected]
In this episode – references and additional resources:
- The Trevor Project
- Previous Episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them:
- Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa (Ep. 35)
Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them
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Previous Episode
Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham
In Episode 41 of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Cai Graham chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about connecting with our tweens and teens, and coping.
Some highlights:
- The importance of being vulnerable in front of their kids
- Why we shouldn’t beat ourselves up for the challenges we feel when raising tweens & teens
- 3 questions to ask your tweens & teens every day
- Healthy ways to cope
Guest Bio:
Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen ToolboxTM️. She is a mum of two fantastic young adults in their late 20’s - so she has been deep in the parenting trenches.
Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN ToolboxTM️ Series which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence.
To learn more about Cai Graham:
- Visit www.caigraham.com
- Follow her on Instagram @caigraham
- Find her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent & Teen Toolbox
- Her Amazon bestselling book: The Teen Toolbox
Check out Cai’s videos:
- Breathing Techniques: www.caigraham.com/breathing
- 3 Questions to Ask Your Teen: www.caigraham.com/threequestions
- Tapping (EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique): www.caigraham.com/tapping
In this episode – references and additional resources:
Previous episodes of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them related to this topic that you may find helpful:
- Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens, and How to Respond // with Cai Graham (Ep. 40)
- Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa (Ep. 35)
- Are Your Thoughts Fooling You? Reframing Negative Thoughts and Cognitive Distortions // with Julia Hogan (Ep. 20)
Brad Yates
- YouTube channel for Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), aka tapping
- Brad Yates’ book for kids, “The Wizard’s Wish”
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Next Episode
Empower Girls With These 10 Phrases (Encore) // by Wendy Snyder
Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman? An “abracadabra” to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way?
While sadly there’s no such thing, Wendy Snyder, Positive Parenting Teacher, Family Coach and founder of A Fresh Start Family, offers us some guidance in her article, "10 Important Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters.”
The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say things better, to better support our daughters.
- I love you no matter what.
- You are absolutely beautiful, inside and out.
- You are strong, and you’ve got this! I’m here to support you.
- How do you feel?
- Gosh, I love my ______ (body part)! What is your favorite part of your body?
- Oh yeah? Tell me more.
- How can you be a light in this situation?
- You have a strong desire to feel powerful and that is GOOD!
- How will you be the change you want to see?
- I am not ok with _____, or I’d like you to ______.
To learn more about Wendy and A Fresh Start Family, visit:
- Website: www.freshstartfamilyonline.com
- Instagram: @freshstartwendy
- Podcast: The Fresh Start Family Show
- Got a strong-willed child? Check out the free guide, "How to Raise Strong Willed Kids With Integrity" and "10 Firm and Kind Phrases to Use When Your Child Isn't Listening."
- You can also enroll in a free class on power struggles - save your seat by visiting www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/powerstrugglesclass .
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Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them - Sex, Gender, Expression, Orientation & Showing Up for Your Child's Journey // with Elaine Farris
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Welcome to know them. Be them, raise them. Uh, show to help busy, mindful, and growth oriented moms of girls stay informed and inspired. Especially through their daughters, tween and teen years. I'm your host Carmelita to. If you'd like what you hear or you find something helpful in the podcast, please hit, subscribe or follow. Tell your friends and leave a review on apple podcasts or Spotify. You may think subscribing and reviews
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