How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies // by Carmelita Tiu

10/05/21 • 10 min

“I’m Speaking.” We all remember that simple-yet-powerful Kamala Harris statement, right?

We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they’re interrupted by someone else? Will they choose politeness over being heard? Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that they’ll offend?

Listen to hear:

The different social norms for boys and girls
Disparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settings
When to interrupt back
The 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya Chemaly
Sample phrases illustrating different ways to interrupt
What to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interrupting

Key mentions/concepts:

Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, by Soraya Chemaly. www.sorayachemaly.com
"10 Simple Words Every Girl Should Learn," by Soraya Chemaly. Retrieved from www.rolereboot.org.
"The Art of Interruption, Or 'how to speak up without feeling like an asshole' (#BullCon14 Guest Post)" by Julie Fogh and Casey Erin Clarke of Vital Voice.

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“I’m Speaking.” We all remember that simple-yet-powerful Kamala Harris statement, right?

Listen to hear:

The different social norms for boys and girls
Disparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settings
When to interrupt back
The 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya Chemaly
Sample phrases illustrating different ways to interrupt
What to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interrupting

Key mentions/concepts:

Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, by Soraya Chemaly. www.sorayachemaly.com
"10 Simple Words Every Girl Should Learn," by Soraya Chemaly. Retrieved from www.rolereboot.org.
"The Art of Interruption, Or 'how to speak up without feeling like an asshole' (#BullCon14 Guest Post)" by Julie Fogh and Casey Erin Clarke of Vital Voice.

Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

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Previous Episode

5 Confidence-Boosting Tips for Your Daughter // by Briana Beazley

Have you noticed a confidence dip in your tween or teen girl? You aren’t dreaming...it’s a real thing.

Today's article, "5 Steps to Helping Our Daughters Grow Up With More Confidence," comes from Briana Beazley. Briana is founder of NadiaGirl, a tween girls clothing brand focused on empowering young girls by creating comfortable clothing that fits well, to help them feel more confident.

When Briana’s daughter was entering her tween years, shopping for her was discouraging and frustrating. There were limited options, and the clothes were not age-appropriate, didn’t fit well, or were poor quality. She saw how this impacted her daughter’s confidence and decided to do something about it. Soon after that, Nadia Girl was born, and Briana began writing about issues affecting tween girls.

In this episode, you’ll learn ways you can help boost your daughter’s confidence, such as normalizing failure, encouraging risk taking, and more.

Key mentions/concepts:

"The Confidence Code for Girls," by Claire Shipman, Katty Kay, and JillEllyn Riley. www.confidencecodegirls.com
Enclothed Cognition - see How Clothing Choices Affect and Reflect Your Self-Image, by Jill Ferguson. Retrieved from www.huffpost.com.
For high quality, sustainable clothes with a proprietary fit made for tween girls’ changing bodies, visit www.nadiagirl.com, and follow NadiaGirl on Instagram @nadiagirl.

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Next Episode

When Your No Is A Yes - Understanding Boundaries // with Julia Hogan

Do you say no, then feel guilty? Or maybe you say yes, then feel resentful? These feelings are part of the important but difficult task of setting and managing boundaries. Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with author and therapist, Julia Hogan.

Julia explains: