E65 - Ego ergo Egotism

03/08/23 • 31 min

The Uncommon communicator is the individual that has the enlightenment to recognize in any situation whether communication has occurred. This uncommon communicator takes ownership of the conversation and possess the skills to navigate and facilitate the conversation to mutual understanding.

Welcome to the Uncommon Communicator podcast, your host James Gable and Brandon Thompson are here to bring enlightenment to the topic of communication.

In this week's episode we discuss Ego. What it is and how to guard our conversations.
Ego, in psychoanalytic theory, that portion of the human personality which is experienced as the “self” or “I” and is in contact with the external world through perception. It is said to be the part that remembers, evaluates, plans, and in other ways is responsive to and acts in the surrounding physical and social world. – At least is Sigmund Freud’s definition

Egotism is defined as the drive to maintain and enhance favorable views of oneself and generally features an inflated opinion of one's personal features and importance distinguished by a person's amplified vision of oneself and self-importance. It often includes intellectual, physical, social, and other overestimations. The egotist has an overwhelming sense of the centrality of the "me" regarding their personal qualities.

First let’s talk Ego:

· Ego helps establish moral standards

· Becomes a defense mechanism

· Isn’t overwhelmed by its own drives but can direct them into useful channels

· A lack of ego can lead to an inferiority complex , the individual becomes less capable of productive work.

· Ego weakness underlies the inflated sense of self. Leading to Egotism
Egotism:

Egotism is closely related to an egocentric love for one's imagined self or narcissism – indeed some would say "by egotism we may envisage a kind of socialized narcissism". Egotists have a strong tendency to talk about themselves in a self-promoting fashion, and they may well be arrogant and boastful with a Grandiose sense of their own importance. Their inability to recognize the accomplishments of others leaves them profoundly self-promoting; while sensitivity to criticism may lead, on the egotist's part, Narcissistic rage at a sense of insult.

Top 5 ego based communication killers :

1) Interrupting when someone is in the middle of a thought.

2) Interjecting Stories into other’s comments or discussions.

3) The 90 Second Rule. – Has the other person spoke in the last 90 seconds

4) Disconnected Comments

5) Disregarding others' opinions
The UC Moment :

Check yourself before you wreck yourself

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Welcome to the Uncommon Communicator podcast, your host James Gable and Brandon Thompson are here to bring enlightenment to the topic of communication.

First let’s talk Ego:

· Ego helps establish moral standards

· Becomes a defense mechanism

· Isn’t overwhelmed by its own drives but can direct them into useful channels

· A lack of ego can lead to an inferiority complex , the individual becomes less capable of productive work.

· Ego weakness underlies the inflated sense of self. Leading to Egotism
Egotism:

Top 5 ego based communication killers :

1) Interrupting when someone is in the middle of a thought.

2) Interjecting Stories into other’s comments or discussions.

3) The 90 Second Rule. – Has the other person spoke in the last 90 seconds

4) Disconnected Comments

5) Disregarding others' opinions
The UC Moment :

Check yourself before you wreck yourself

Previous Episode

E64 - The Review

Giving or writing a review is very different from feedback or giving an evaluation. A review is for the masses. Your giving your review to others so you can either enrich them, avise them or plain tell them to look the other way. This falls clearly into a communication category and requires some skills and tactics.
Here are 8 tips on giving a great review :

Provide useful, constructive feedback. Constructive is the operative word. If its a positive rivier or its about telling a hard truth or opinion, it can be provided in a manner that is helpful.
Be detailed, specific and honest. Details are important. A simple ...It's good doesn't benefit anyone. Give specific details of why you liked or disliked it. and most of all be honest.
Keep it civil and friendly. There is no reason to let your emotions get in the way. A lot of times , reviews that are just rude or angry get thrown out with the overly glossy ones.
Make sure you are reviewing the correct company, domain or URL. Many bad reviews have been applied to the wrong recipient.
Talk about a range of elements. You can talk about the product itself, but also include customer service. Having a bad product replaced with fantastic customer service will turn a bad review into a positive experience. share it.
Don't get personal. Leave out names, emails or phone numbers. No reason to drag it into the mud ( refer to #3)
Update your review as needed. Sometime the review is written after a bad experience and the owner goes the extra mile to make it up. Celebrate the humanness of that.
Proofread your review. A poorly written review will be tossed out by a lot if people, including this Uncommon communicator.

This tips should improve your ability to give and receive reviews with the right intention. Adding another tool to your toolbox of ownership of your conversations.