The Uncommon Communicator

James Gable

The Uncommon communicator is the individual that has the enlightenment, to recognize in any situation, whether or not communication has occurred. This uncommon communicator takes ownership of the conversation and possess the skills to navigate and facilitate the conversation to mutual understanding. Taking on the experts as well as the Sophist of old to help bring clarity to the lost art of true communications.

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E99 - Mastering Communication for Effective Leadership with Rich Hopkins

The Uncommon Communicator

11/15/23 • 39 min

Are you ready to uncover the secret to effective leadership and transformative communication? Join us as we unravel these mysteries with Rich Hopkins, a man of many talents and immense influence. Bring your notepad as Rich, a seasoned keynote speaker, disability advocate, author, sales expert, and presentation coach, takes us behind the scenes of his TEDx journey and shares his empowering 'win anyway' mantra. This episode promises not just an inspiring story but also valuable insights into crafting powerful messages through effective communication.
Hop into this leadership deep-dive with Rich as he shares his journey in leading various Toastmasters teams. We're breaking down the merits and pitfalls of leading from the front, and the hidden value of leading from the back and middle. With Rich’s experiences, we shine a spotlight on the importance of nurturing other leaders and adapting your leadership style to different situations. It's not just about leading; it's about inspiring others to become leaders themselves.
We wrap up by exploring various leadership styles and communication methods. Rich offers practical advice on reducing cognitive load, promoting decision-making ownership, and communicating effectively. He shares his experiences of leading without realizing his inspiring influence and the remarkable power of vulnerability and authenticity. So, come along and learn to ask yourself the most important question, 'Are you living a life worth repeating?' We guarantee you’ll walk away from this episode with a fresh perspective on leadership and communication.
Check out Rich's website : https://www.richhopkins.com/
Tedx : https://www.ted.com/talks/rich_hopkins_your_victory_is_just_around_the_corner
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E95 - Adam Hoots: Respect and Communication

The Uncommon Communicator

10/25/23 • 48 min

Meet Adam Hoots, founder of Construction ACHE Solutions and a change-maker in the realm of construction. His dedication to shifting the perception of skilled trades and craft workers is awe-inspiring, and our discussion today promises to shed light on this, and the fascinating world of lean construction principles. A man of many languages, Adam emphasizes the power of words in building trust with colleagues, a trait that's been instrumental in his success. In fact, it was Adam's remarkable journey that inspired the creation of Uncommon Communicators podcast.
Join us as we dissect the complexities of lean construction with Adam. He guides us through his unique approach to making construction projects more efficient, through the application of lean principles. The conversation broadens to include the importance of visual communication and respect for people, both within and outside the industry. For those eager to understand lean construction better, Adam provides a sneak peek into his book, a comprehensive thesaurus of lean terms and visuals, simplifying the concept for all.
We conclude with an exploration of the impact and influence of visual communication in lean processes. Adam shares his experience of launching a superintendent-only network, influencing the NCCER's leadership program, and his preparation for a TEDx talk. We celebrate the power of communication, specifically in construction and how it shapes our world. Walk away with a new found respect for the trades, the importance of thorough preparation, and the invaluable role of communication. Join us on this enlightening journey and gain valuable insights from an industry expert.
Check out Adams Tedx talk here : Changing the way we think

E93 - Mastering the Art of Networking and Communication with Keith Bailey

The Uncommon Communicator

10/11/23 • 54 min

Guess who's played a pivotal role in transforming the art of networking and communication? It's none other than Keith Bailey, co-founder of Articulated Intelligence. Brace yourself, because we've got him right here in our podcast, and he's ready to share his wealth of knowledge on the power of conversation and the subtleties of networking.
Keith takes us down memory lane, sharing a personal story about a cold call that didn't go as planned, but in turn, became a game-changer in his approach to networking. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the identity, culture, and mindset of the person on the other side of the conversation. Keith's wisdom doesn't stop there. He unravels the trifecta of networking success with his PEN (Prepare, Engage, Notice) acronym.
Here's a promise—you're about to discover the secrets of effective networking and communication. Keith shares his unique strategies including showing up early at networking events and re-establishing connections with people within your existing network. He also emphasizes the power of setting an intention before entering a conversation and taking the time to understand the person before their profession. So, buckle up friends, this is not just another podcast episode, it's your gateway to becoming a networking maestro. With Keith's expert guidance, you're about to redefine your approach to communication and networking.
Connect with Keith on linkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/developing-impactful-leaders-through-public-speaking?miniProfileUrn=urn%3Ali%3Afs_miniProfile%3AACoAAAdji9ABX3r5SCWIN0hzAxMq_S6I3HhiRFI&lipi=urn%3Ali%3Apage%3Ad_flagship3_search_srp_all%3BS%2Ffku2vnQNCH7El0pBOG8A%3D%3D

E89 - Actively Being Heard

The Uncommon Communicator

09/06/23 • 6 min

Active listening is something we talk about a lot as far as being a good communicator

Some characteristics of active listeners include good eye contact, undivided attention, and patience. The active listener’s demeanor helps the speaker feel respected

Empathic listeningThis type of listening includes the mechanics of active listening and takes the listener a step further. The empathic listener begins with the intent to immerse themselves fully in the other person and what they are experiencing.

Actively being heard Being heard and ensuring that the other person understands your perspective is crucial for effective communication and building positive relationships. Here are five ways to help you achieve this:

Active Listening:To be heard, first, become an active listener. Pay full attention to the speaker, maintain eye contact, and avoid interrupting them. Show that you're engaged in the conversation by nodding, making verbal acknowledgments like "I see" or "I understand," and asking clarifying questions when needed. This not only encourages the other person to share their thoughts but also signals your willingness to understand their perspective.

Empathize:Empathy is a powerful tool for ensuring the other person knows you care about their viewpoint. Try to put yourself in their shoes and understand their emotions and feelings. Acknowledge their emotions with phrases like, "I can see why you might feel that way," or "It sounds like this situation is important to you." By acknowledging their emotions, you validate their feelings and create a more open and receptive environment for sharing your perspective.

Use "I" Statements:When expressing your perspective, use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. For example, say, "I feel that..." instead of "You always..." This shifts the focus from accusing or blaming the other person to expressing your feelings and thoughts. It helps to avoid defensiveness and encourages a more open dialogue.

Clarify and Summarize:To ensure the other person understands your perspective, summarize what they've said and ask for confirmation. This not only demonstrates that you've been actively listening but also gives them an opportunity to correct any misunderstandings. Likewise, when you express your viewpoint, encourage them to summarize it back to you. This two-way clarification ensures that both parties are on the same page.

Be Patient and Respectful:
Patience and respect are fundamental when trying to be heard and understood. Give the other person time to express themselves fully, even if you disagree. Avoid interrupting or becoming defensive. Wait for an appropriate moment to present your perspective calmly and respectfully. Show that you value their input and are willing to engage in a constructive conversation.

In summary, being heard and ensuring the other person understands your perspective involves active listening, empathy, using "I" statements, clarifying, and summarizing, and maintaining patience and respect throughout the conversation. These strategies create a more open and empathetic communication environment, fostering better understanding and stronger relationships.

The UC Moment for today is ...... Establish yourself to actively be heard

E88 - Collective Bargaining with Big Ed

The Uncommon Communicator

09/04/23 • 33 min

The Uncommon communicator is the individual that has the enlightenment to recognize in any situation whether communication has occurred. This uncommon communicator takes ownership of the conversation and possesses the skills to navigate and facilitate the conversation to mutual understanding.

Welcome to the Uncommon Communicator podcast where we bring enlightenment to the topic of communication.

Ed Gable has been my long time brother, I feel like I have known him all my life. Along with being family and my big brother we also shared the family trade of Millwright. Ed has went on through the apprenticeship and after being a Journeyman, he decided to get into Union Leadership. We both share a love of Communication, influence and negotiation. As a Union representative he understands the ins and outs of collective bargaining, but also carries enough tactical empathy to listen to and understand all sides of the table.

What is Collective bargaining?

Collective bargaining is a negotiation process in which a group of workers, often represented by a labor union, chooses a representative to advocate for better terms of employment.

This representative undertakes negotiations on their behalf.

Pros:

Gives workers a larger voice.

Improves quality of life

Encourages Cooperation

Cons:

Has the potential to not fully represent the group.

To collectively bargain in a personal situation, you become the spokesman or representative.

It’s better to have one clear voice in a situation, someone that can remain calm and communicate clearly and concisely.

The UC Moment for today is ......

Use your skills to collectively bargain and advocate for those around you.

E72 - Reciprocity

The Uncommon Communicator

04/26/23 • 22 min

Reciprocity in its simplest terms refers to a give-and-take relationship where two or more people exchange information or actions in a balanced and mutually beneficial way.

The automatic response that reciprocity creates is a feeling of obligation to return a favor or provide a similar action or information in response to what was given. When someone gives us something, we feel a natural urge to give something back in return.

To leverage this automatic response in conversations, it can be helpful to start by giving something of value to the other person. This can be in the form of sharing information, providing a resource, or offering help in some way. By doing so, you create a sense of obligation in the other person to reciprocate, which can lead to a more productive and engaging conversation.

It's important to note, however, that leveraging reciprocity in conversations should not be done in a manipulative way or with the expectation of receiving something in return. Instead, it should be done with a genuine desire to create a balanced exchange of information and build a mutually beneficial relationship with the other person. By using reciprocity in a genuine and authentic way, you can create a more positive and productive communication environment.

Example:

The game of catch: Reciprocity in communication can be compared to playing catch with someone. Each person takes turns throwing and catching the ball, creating a balanced exchange. If one person were to keep the ball to themselves, the game would not work. Similarly, in communication, if one person dominates the conversation and does not give the other person a chance to speak, the conversation becomes unbalanced and ineffective.

Here are some of the main points to keep in mind regarding reciprocity in communication:

1. Two-way communication: Reciprocity requires a back-and-forth exchange of information between two or more individuals. It is not just about one person transmitting information while the other passively receives it.

2. Active listening: Effective reciprocity in communication requires active listening, which means paying attention to what the other person is saying, asking clarifying questions, and providing feedback.

3. Trust: Trust is an essential element of reciprocity in communication. When individuals trust each other, they are more likely to engage in open and honest communication.

4. Respect: Mutual respect is another key component of reciprocity. Individuals need to respect each other's viewpoints and opinions, even if they disagree.

5. Shared understanding: Effective communication requires a shared understanding of the topic being discussed. Reciprocity helps to build this shared understanding by allowing individuals to clarify their thoughts and ideas and ask for clarification from others.

6. Positive outcomes: When reciprocity is present in communication, it can lead to positive outcomes such as increased understanding, improved relationships, and better decision-making.

E69 - The Brutally Honest Conundrum

The Uncommon Communicator

04/05/23 • 25 min

Why do we use the words "brutal" and "honest" together?

If we examine the definitions, brutal means “savagely violent,” and honest means “morally correct.” Interesting, right? How two very different things are associated so closely together.

In our society, the term “brutally honest” is often accepted as a positive quality. Take a second to pause and think about your dealings with someone who is “brutally honest.” Is it really a good thing?

The Brutally Honest Conundrum

When someone declares themselves “brutally honest,” they get an easy out. By adding the word "honest" after "brutal," they are informing you that they are about to hurt you, but that you should not experience any hurt because they're just being honest. That is a twist that's not only confusing and unfair, but it's also likely to make you feel that you're wrong for experiencing the hurt. That's gaslighting.

It’s the equivalent of phrases like these:

Not to be rude, but...
No offense, but...
You wanted my opinion, so you can’t be upset.

And when these phrases are spoken, the person gets an unfair opportunity to say what they think or feel without taking the time to formulate their message in a more thoughtful way.

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The brutally honest are unfiltered. We know exactly what they’re thinking as they’re thinking it. While sometimes it can be nice to not have to guess what someone is thinking, most times we don’t need to hear each and every thought the people around us have.

The receiver of the brutally honest message is left dealing with the hard “truth” alone because the curt way it’s delivered does not offer a safe space to keep the conversation going.

What if there’s a way around this? What if there’s a way to deliver an honest message without causing more damage and hurt? Luckily enough, there is. It’s "truth with compassion."

Truth With Compassion

Truth with compassion involves expressing your truth with the intention of promoting awareness rather than hurt. When a message is perceived as hurtful, the person you’re attempting to communicate with is more likely to shut down or go on the defensive. Basically, brutal honesty shuts down communication. Truth with compassion encourages communication.

Here’s how to do it:
1. Stop and think about the message you want to communicate. Understand what you want to express before vocalizing it.

2. Reflect upon who you are communicating with. What is their personality like? Do they have certain sensitivities? How can you express yourself in a way that they will hear you?

3. Pick the best time and place to communicate the words you’ve decided are most effective.

The Uc Moment : Timing , Constructiveness and What is your intention?

E65 - Ego ergo Egotism

The Uncommon Communicator

03/08/23 • 31 min

The Uncommon communicator is the individual that has the enlightenment to recognize in any situation whether communication has occurred. This uncommon communicator takes ownership of the conversation and possess the skills to navigate and facilitate the conversation to mutual understanding.

Welcome to the Uncommon Communicator podcast, your host James Gable and Brandon Thompson are here to bring enlightenment to the topic of communication.

In this week's episode we discuss Ego. What it is and how to guard our conversations.
Ego, in psychoanalytic theory, that portion of the human personality which is experienced as the “self” or “I” and is in contact with the external world through perception. It is said to be the part that remembers, evaluates, plans, and in other ways is responsive to and acts in the surrounding physical and social world. – At least is Sigmund Freud’s definition

Egotism is defined as the drive to maintain and enhance favorable views of oneself and generally features an inflated opinion of one's personal features and importance distinguished by a person's amplified vision of oneself and self-importance. It often includes intellectual, physical, social, and other overestimations. The egotist has an overwhelming sense of the centrality of the "me" regarding their personal qualities.

First let’s talk Ego:

· Ego helps establish moral standards

· Becomes a defense mechanism

· Isn’t overwhelmed by its own drives but can direct them into useful channels

· A lack of ego can lead to an inferiority complex , the individual becomes less capable of productive work.

· Ego weakness underlies the inflated sense of self. Leading to Egotism
Egotism:

Egotism is closely related to an egocentric love for one's imagined self or narcissism – indeed some would say "by egotism we may envisage a kind of socialized narcissism". Egotists have a strong tendency to talk about themselves in a self-promoting fashion, and they may well be arrogant and boastful with a Grandiose sense of their own importance. Their inability to recognize the accomplishments of others leaves them profoundly self-promoting; while sensitivity to criticism may lead, on the egotist's part, Narcissistic rage at a sense of insult.

Top 5 ego based communication killers :

1) Interrupting when someone is in the middle of a thought.

2) Interjecting Stories into other’s comments or discussions.

3) The 90 Second Rule. – Has the other person spoke in the last 90 seconds

4) Disconnected Comments

5) Disregarding others' opinions
The UC Moment :

Check yourself before you wreck yourself

E63 - Prioritize the Pie

The Uncommon Communicator

02/22/23 • 27 min

The Why and the how

Why :

1. According to a study by the Harvard Business Review, workers who prioritize their tasks are 90% more likely to be successful in achieving their goals.

2. A study by the American Psychological Association found that people who prioritize their tasks are less likely to experience stress and burnout.

3. According to a survey by the online project management tool, Wrike, setting priorities can increase productivity by as much as 25%.

By adopting habits and strategies that promote effective prioritization, individuals can achieve their goals and reduce stress and burnout. The statistics mentioned above provide evidence that prioritization is a valuable tool for success.

How:

1. Focus on one thing at a time: It can be tempting to multitask, but research has shown that multitasking can lead to decreased productivity and lower quality work. Instead, focus on one task at a time and complete it before moving on to the next one.

2. Set clear goals: Setting clear goals can help you stay focused and motivated. When you have a clear understanding of what you want to accomplish, it is easier to prioritize your tasks accordingly.

3. Use time-management techniques: Time-management techniques, such as the Pomodoro Technique, can help you stay focused and productive by breaking your workday into manageable chunks of time.

4. Prioritize tasks based on urgency and importance: As mentioned in my previous answer, it's important to prioritize tasks based on their urgency and importance. This can help you ensure that you are completing tasks in a timely and effective manner. Triage is a great term for this. Service the gunshot wound over the sprained ankle and the others will work themselves out.

Learn to say "no": Saying "no" can be difficult, but it is an important skill to develop if you want to prioritize effectively. If you are constantly taking on more than you can handle, it can be difficult to focus on the tasks that are most important.

What is the Pomodoro Technique?

The Pomodoro Technique is a time-management method that involves breaking work into intervals, typically 25 minutes in length, separated by short breaks. Here are the key points of the Pomodoro Technique:

Choose a task to work on
Set a timer for 25 minutes
Work on the task until the timer ring
Take a short break (usually 5-10 minutes)
After every fourth Pomodoro, take a longer break (usually 15-30 minutes)
Repeat the cycle until the task is completed

Here's how the Pomodoro Technique can be applied to setting priorities:

1. Create a to-do list

2. Determine the urgency and importance of each task

3. Prioritize tasks based on urgency and importance: Use the Pomodoro Technique to work on your highest-priority tasks first.

4. Use the breaks to evaluate progress

5. Stay focused: During each Pomodoro, stay focused on the task at hand. Avoid distractions, such as social media or email, that can interrupt your concentration and derail your progress.

By using the Pomodoro Technique to prioritize tasks, individuals can break their workday into manageable chunks of time, focus on their most important tasks, and avoid becoming overwhelmed or distracted.
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E108 - The UC Playbook: Raw Vs. Candid Conversation

The Uncommon Communicator

01/17/24 • 13 min

Ever found yourself sugarcoating words until your message loses its edge? Lance Furiyama joins us to champion the raw power of communication, where frankness can unexpectedly cut through noise and foster effectiveness. We navigate the origins of Lance's forthright style, deeply rooted in the unadorned cadences of Pigeon English, and unpack how a touch of authenticity can make for compelling conversations. A personal anecdote brings to life a moment where Lance's genuine approach sparked a memorable UC moment, reminding us all of the transformative impact of staying true to our voices.
This episode also serves as your compass in the complex terrain of radical candor, guiding you through the nuance of honesty blended with empathy. Seven essential tips lay the groundwork for conversations that resonate with clarity, usefulness, and respect. As we navigate the dance between embracing change and preserving authenticity, we delve into how candid exchanges, when handled with care, can cultivate growth and enrich relationships. Join us for an exploration that promises to equip you with the finesse of radical candor, a tool that when wielded wisely, can usher in profound personal and communal metamorphoses.:
Here is a link to episode 22 were we discussed Truth , lies and candor: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2zS3NFp0pU&list=PL58DOlv5Vk2OHipHnbwDL_dMKhYA6B9jv&index=86&pp=gAQBiAQB

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How many episodes does The Uncommon Communicator have?

The Uncommon Communicator currently has 118 episodes available.

What topics does The Uncommon Communicator cover?

The podcast is about Enlightenment, Personal Growth, Leadership, Self Help, Podcasts, Self-Improvement, Education, Public Speaking, Coaching and Communication.

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The episode title 'E102 - Stoicism and Communication with Felipe Engineer-Manriquez' is the most popular.

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The average episode length on The Uncommon Communicator is 30 minutes.

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Episodes of The Uncommon Communicator are typically released every 7 days.

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The first episode of The Uncommon Communicator was released on Nov 21, 2021.

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