The Lighthouse Within: Resilience For Life Changes - Am I Forcing It or Fighting for It? How to Know When to Let Go or Keep Going

Am I Forcing It or Fighting for It? How to Know When to Let Go or Keep Going

02/10/25 • 30 min

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The Lighthouse Within: Resilience For Life Changes

Are you pushing too hard for something that isn't meant for you? Or are you holding on because it's truly worth fighting for?

In this episode ofThe Lighthouse Within, host Ambar Paloma is helping you navigatethe delicate balance between forcing an outcome and fighting for what truly aligns with you.

You’ll explore:

How to recognize when you're forcing something out of fear vs. fighting for something with intention.
The biggest red flags that signal you’re forcing something and how to pivot with clarity and trust.
How embracing flow can help you navigate life transitions with confidence, ease, and emotional intelligence.
Why self-improvement isn’t about struggling, it’s about alignment, resilience, and allowing what’s meant for you to unfold.

Ambar also breaks down how desperation-based goals keep us stuck and why shifting to anabundance mindset can completely transform how you approach success, relationships, and major life changes.

By the end of this episode, you'll feellighter, clearer, and more empowered to navigate setbacks, make mindset shifts, and trust thatnothing truly meant for you will ever pass you by.

Ready to stop forcing and start flowing? Hit play and let’s dive in.

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Episode Chapters:
00:00 –Introduction & Episode Overview
00:54 –The Struggle Between Forcing & Fighting
03:20 –Personal Story: The Breakup That Changed Everything
07:32 –Desperation vs. Inspiration: How Are You Setting Your Goals?
12:32 –Red Flags: Signs You’re Forcing Something
20:20 –Green Flags: Signs You’re Fighting for Something Worthwhile
25:42 –Embracing Flow: Letting Go & Trusting Life’s Timing
27:55 –Final Reflection: A Message of Ease, Trust, & Surrender

Are you pushing too hard for something that isn't meant for you? Or are you holding on because it's truly worth fighting for?

In this episode ofThe Lighthouse Within, host Ambar Paloma is helping you navigatethe delicate balance between forcing an outcome and fighting for what truly aligns with you.

You’ll explore:

How to recognize when you're forcing something out of fear vs. fighting for something with intention.
The biggest red flags that signal you’re forcing something and how to pivot with clarity and trust.
How embracing flow can help you navigate life transitions with confidence, ease, and emotional intelligence.
Why self-improvement isn’t about struggling, it’s about alignment, resilience, and allowing what’s meant for you to unfold.

Ambar also breaks down how desperation-based goals keep us stuck and why shifting to anabundance mindset can completely transform how you approach success, relationships, and major life changes.

By the end of this episode, you'll feellighter, clearer, and more empowered to navigate setbacks, make mindset shifts, and trust thatnothing truly meant for you will ever pass you by.

Ready to stop forcing and start flowing? Hit play and let’s dive in.

✨ Your Next Step:Grab your FREE copy of ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Clarity Compass ⁠⁠⁠⁠ to help you navigate uncertainty with confidence and clarity.

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Four Empowering Shifts To Release Control And Trust The Process

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Are you stuck in the "how"? If you’ve been overthinking, clinging to control, or feeling like your dreams are always just out of reach, this episode is for you.

In this heartfelt and transformative episode of The Lighthouse Within, Ambar Paloma dives deep into the art of letting go: letting go of how you think your dreams should happen and learning to trust the process instead. Through personal stories, relatable moments, and actionable advice, Ambar unpacks how to navigate uncertainty with resilience, faith, and joy.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode: - How to embrace life’s detours and stop obsessing over rigid plans. - Why clinging to "how" blocks you from seeing the opportunities right in front of you. - The importance of grieving setbacks and making space for what’s next. - How to focus on your current assignment, prepare for your dream, and show up fully in the process.- Why life’s magic is found in the journey, not just the destination.

Life isn’t waiting for you in some distant, perfect future—it’s happening now.

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Timestamps to Guide Your Journey:

00:00 Welcome Aboard: Introduction & Episode Overview

01:47 The Clarity Compass: Your Guide To Get Back On Track

02:55 From Failed Plans to Wildest Dreams

06:07 Resilience in Action: Handling Setbacks

12:06 Finding Purpose: A New Direction

18:48 Practical Steps to Focus on the Process

26:06 Final Thoughts & Grounding Message

Next Episode

Your Smart Guide For Work Life Balance

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Be honest—are you doing the absolute most but still feeling like it’s not enough? Running on fumes, drowning in to-dos, and wondering why am I like this? 😩 If overcommitting, burnout, and saying yes when you mean heck no are your toxic traits, then this episode of The Lighthouse Within is your intervention.

Host Ambar Paloma is help you break the overcommitment cycle and break free. She dives into 5 common reasons you keep overcommitting (courtesy of time management coach Anna D. Kornick)—from FOMO and validation chasing to people-pleasing and prioritizing money over mental health.

Ambar also gets real and raw about how launching this very podcast left her spiraling into overcommitment—and how she finally reset, refocused, and reclaimed her peace. Now? She’s handing you the cheat code to do the same.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

The 5 biggest reasons we overcommit (and how to stop ASAP)
How to use the Clarity Compass to separate anxiety from intuition, get clear on your values, and more.
The ‘Mama I Made It’ vision—because clarity = confidence
How the 12 Week Year method can keep you on track (without overwhelm)
Boundaries, delegation, and prioritization—aka, your new holy trinity
A powerful wake-up call to protect your energy, time, and sanity

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00:00 Welcome to the Ultimate Voyage to Resilience

00:21 The Five Reasons We Overcommit

01:38 Ambar's Personal Story of Overcommitment

03:51 The Clarity Compass: Navigating Anxiety and Intuition

07:23 Defining Your 'Mama I Made It' Vision

11:41 Creating a Balanced Schedule

16:58 Overcommitting to Feel Needed or Avoid Conflict

21:34 Time Is Your Most Precious Resource

24:16 Closing Meditation