Helping vs enabling what Christmas has brought up in the Therapy room.

01/22/24 • 13 min

This week I'm talking about enabling behaviour. It's going to be one of those topics you might want to switch off from because the thing about therapy is it's not always comfortable, but the reality is nothing amazing happens in our comfort zone. Enabling is about avoiding the uncomfortable avoiding that difficult conversation and doing what we can to keep the peace.
This means accepting the short-term gain but will inevitably lead to long-term pain and before you say no I dont do that listen. We nearly all do and when we break those cycles we can transform our whole life and live more authentically.
This is the hard work we do in Therapy but its the work that breaks generational cycles, ends people pleasing and poor boundaries ruling your life and helps you raise children emotionally intelligent children.
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Previous Episode

Why I love January

I'm back after a bit of a Hiatus (loss in motivation/Christmas overwhelm).
And what better day for my first episode of 2024 than Blue Monday?
Ive decided to make all the new episodes 15 minutes so you can squeeze them in when you get them in during a quiet car ride, if you get the chance to make dinner in peace or when you're working out or going for a walk.
This week is my top tips to reframe January as I have learned to love January.
I used to dread this cold dark month and now it's one of my favourites as I can see it for the calm quiet start to the year where I get to plan all the exciting things I want to do with my year.
This isn't rocket science it's just reframing and I promise even if you get 1 thing from this it could make January a bit moe manageable.
If you are back in a job you hated this month, it is when you have time to plan your escape.
If you are feeling festively plump now is the perfect time to focus on feeling good about yourself because no one wants to go out.
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Next Episode

Learning to be a Good Enough Mum- Accepting we cant control everything.

6 years and 2 kids and I dont know how many clients down one thing I can safely say I see again and again that sucks away our joy is trying to control and micromanage everything our children do.
It makes sense when you become a Mum you feel completely out of control so the obvious thing to try and control is our kids. Their sleep, diet, schedules and behaviour can become the benchmark of whether we are succeeding or failing in life.
This episode is about letting go and accepting children like adults are all different and how we can enjoy Motherhood so much more when we let go.