Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love

Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Our pleasure can be the fuel for abundant, sustainable work, service, and play throughout our long lives.

Our sexuality can be a wholesome pillar of our daily experience.

Our marriages can be fueled by desire rather than duty.

Monogamy can be the hottest place on earth.

It’s a confusing time to be a heterosexual, monogamous couple. The love and passion you desire may be more an inner urge than something you really see people around you living. But there are a growing community of devoted couples creating monogamy as a conscious spiritual crucible. There are couples using their marriages to fuel their leadership and service and activism. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. where we convene the conversations that unlock new possibilities in your life and relationship. I’m your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. Over the past 26 years, I’ve helped thousands of couples create the love and sex they desire. Kurt and I, in 23 years of marriage and adventures together before that, have suffered, avoided, dared, and triumphed in countless ways. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex and beyond starts with YOU, and it starts right now. Let’s tend your flame.

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The Elements of Power in Relationship

Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love

08/26/20 • 21 min

If you're like many ambitious women, you have big visions and deep desires for every area of your life. But if your RELATIONSHIP vision seems elusive, if you find yourself feeling frustrated, disappointed, and wondering “Is it me? Is it you? Or are we just not great together?” you’re not alone.

But here’s the good news: You are not the problem, your partner is not the problem, and you CAN have the relationship you envision! Creating the love and sex you want simply requires a new mindset and practicing a few key skills and habits. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. This is the only intimacy podcast exclusively for powerful women and those who love them.

I'm your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. I've been helping high-profile couples create what they desire in love and sex for more than twenty-three years, and I’ve been through my share of joys and pains in my own twenty-plus year marriage to Kurt. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex starts with YOU, and it starts right now.

In this episode we’ll talk about

How Driving and Receiving are two sides of the same coin... We can only do so much “making it happen” without a commensurate capacity to “let it in.”
Why “masculine” traits and “feminine” traits are a fallacy, even though there’s plenty of evidence for them, and what’s more true than that kind of gender essentialism
The twelve precise capacities every human possesses and needs to master to be fully powerful in love and elsewhere in life

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.
View the full show notes and transcript for this episode at https://lisenbury.com/episode/003

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Ready to bring about a transformation in your relationship to yourself, your body, and your partner? CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

Hit a Gift-Giving Home Run

Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love

12/19/20 • 24 min

When you want to really show your partner your love and feel appreciated in turn... You need to hit a homer with your gift or experience. But how? So many men, in particular, tell me their partners are hard to please or that gifts and holidays feel like no-win situations. This is supposed to be a season of joy, and this episode will help you create that.
In this episode:

Why gift giving is so frustrating
Discover the top 2 reasons gift giving is so stressful
Learn what gift giving mistakes NOT to make
Uncover the secret 7 steps to make a home run while gift giving
What to do when your gift giving doesn’t go as planned

And more.

Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Secret Society on Mighty Networks.
“When it comes to gift-giving, you are in a powerful position as a healer: you can draw out of your partner what they really desire and you can help heal those painful places where holidays push their buttons. It's such a beautiful role to play, if you can do so wholeheartedly.” -Michele Lisenbury Christensen
Hot Moments in This Episode:

The mistakes that lead to gift-giving misery 3:04
Make the decision to hit a home run 06:34
Learn how to start planning in advance. 7:06
Why your calendar is your friend 07:24
How to teach your beloved how to tell you what they want 11:08
Discover what to do when you swing and miss 12:59
The perfect questions to ask to bring you closer together 15:58

Thank you so much for listening. I'm Michele Lisenbury Christensen. This has been Sex. Love. Power. I'll be back here next week to help you begin to review 2020 - what a year, right? - and what’s happened in your couple this year, and look at your vision and habits for 2021 and what you desire and intend for your future. Until we speak, may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.

Expanding Erotic Intelligence

Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love

02/18/21 • 20 min

In this episode, we're having the conversation we need to have about the four keys to creating more of the heat and connection you want and the single practice I use to help couples expand all four things in their relationship, and in so doing, create the love and sex they really deserve.

If you've had a hard time initiating sex, or taking your partner up on their invitations, when they ask in the way they ask, even though you sincerely would like to have more sex, at least in the abstract, this is for you.

Or if you aren't sure how to ask for more of what you want or you think your partner could build more skill at touching and being present sexually, but it's hard to describe what that skillfulness would look like...This is for you.

Or if you notice that you have a hard time staying present in erotic situations: truly letting your partner in and allowing yourself to deeply receive their attention, their touch, and their care...This is for you.

If you face those challenges, you are in very good company. Nobody taught any of us how to have great sex, and a nourishing partnership with a grown up in these changing bodies and with these adult responsibilities: aging parents and growing kids and big careers....While we're trying to build a better world. It's a lot!

And I am determined that today's episode will help, because I would like you to get a handle on these four keys, so you can unlock the best sex of your lives. I know it's still ahead of you, whether you believe that yet or not. And in this episode, you will learn how to create it.

There are four things that dramatically accelerate a couple's ability to go deeper in love and sex. They include clarity, capacity, communication, and container, we're going to go into all four of them.
Full shownotes and edited transcript are at http://lisenbury.com/episode/024.

Join the conversation by listening, share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

Reveal Your Erotic Appetites

Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love

10/29/20 • 12 min

Amazing things happen when people tune in to Sex. Love. Power! This episode grew from a great story one listener shared with me. Our past episodes had her start opening up with her partner about her desires, tastes, and needs. This amazing woman listened and then just RAN WITH IT. I was so inspired that now I’m explicitly guiding you to do the same. Can’t wait to hear what unfolds at your house!

As you listen to this episode, you'll learn:

Why it is challenging to communicate to your partner that you want THEM to lead in the bedroom
The 3 key conversations you need to have with your partner about sex
How to get out of your mind and into your body
How to pinpoint your fantasies and how to share them

And more.

Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Secret Society on Mighty Networks.
"Sex is not superficial or shallow, or just for the newly in love. Sex is a gift that can keep on giving all our lives, infusing our days with vitality and pleasure and deep connection."

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:
As smart, make-it-happen women, we don't have a lot of space where turn on and desire are discussed with the depth and the precision and the soul that they and we deserve. 00:13

What's most important for YOU to feel to get out of your head and into your body. 02:47

Wanna know my secret on-ramp? It could work for you too. 03:29

Find out the one fantasy that many successful women have. 04:24

Your turn ons are as unique as your thumbprint. They are absolutely individual to you. Same with your partner. 08:52

I hope you find this episode helps you start some smokin’ hot conversations with your partner that help you reveal yourself and see them in a new light, too. It is my deep pleasure and privilege to help awaken the erotic intelligence in long-married people so you can live a passionate love story for your whole lives long.
Episode 4: Safe Surrender: Asking him to lead. Erotic transcendence

If you and your partner (or maybe just you, as far as you know!) long for more closeness, heat, and intimacy in your relationship, I am here to help. More fun than therapy, more effective than anything, clients say coaching with me permanently uplevels their love, sex, leadership and life. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.
Join the conversation by listening, share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

Men's Sexual Trauma

Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love

04/01/21 • 30 min

If you have a male partner who avoids sex or gets stuck in his head sometimes during sex or about sex, this episode is for you.

If you or your partner struggle with what the industry tends to call “sexual dysfunction” - which is so pejorative - I do not like any of the medical terms at all - from erections that don’t start or that don’t stay, to ejaculating before you’d like to, not ejaculation when you’d expect to... This episode is for you.

If you are or your partner is a man who is comfortable with sex as long as he’s in control or in charge, or as long as the attention is on the other person, not on him, this episode will be helpful.

And really for anyone who is a man, cares about a man, or walks through the world among men, I believe this episode is really important because it talks about something we don’t talk about: and that’s the underreported, underdiscussed epidemic of men’s sexual trauma.

This is such an important episode to me because time and again, my male clients will tell me “I’ve never told anybody about this” or “Nobody explains this the way you just did, and it feels like huge burden has been lifted.” I’m on a mission to lift that burden, to give that relief, to help as many men as possible to feel seen and understood and that they’re normal and they’re not broken and they’re not alone! So that’s why we’re going to talk about a couple of key things today:

What sexual trauma IS and how common it is among men
The ways sexual trauma is inflicted for men
Ways the conversation is silenced around men’s sexual trauma
Signs that you or a many you love is having a trauma response in the sexual realm

Join the conversation by listening, share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.
Full show notes & transcript at http://lisenbury.com/epsisode/030

Self-Regulation Toolkit Part 2: Fight or Flight

Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love

10/01/20 • 21 min

If you have a nervous system, you need this episode. It's the second part of an accessible and entertaining introduction to your nervous system and the crucial cranial nerve known as the Vagus Nerve.
If you ever:
- react strongly to your partner and want to fight or flee or both
- feel exhausted, at an emotional or energetic level, by your day
- feel like you just need time *alone* but seldom seem to get enough to want to reconnect
You'll learn how to notice what state you're in and discover specific ways to strengthen your vagal response so that, given time and care, you can gladly come back into connection.
As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

Part two of our conversation about your nervous system and how to make the most of it so that you can settle down.
How the nervous system is used to move ourselves from a frozen state to be able to access a "fight or flight" state and ultimately, to be able to access the most responsive, connected places.
Why the "fight or flight" response happens and how to recognize it in yourself and what to do when you're in it.
How the fight response ultimately not only affects your relationship and your love but also damages your bodies AND how YOU can to stimulate the vagus nerve so it will turn on a relaxation response

And more. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Secret Society on Mighty Networks.

“If you're locked in battle with your partner all the time, it's costing you. It's costing you physical health and longevity to be in that state. So if you think about it, by calling a timeout, or saying, "Let's take a break. We'll come back to this when we're calmer." That is, to your mind, escaping.

- Dr. Jessica Pullins

HOT MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:

Recap of part 1 and making the most of your nervous system so you can settle down (01:40)

Ways the nervous system reacts to a perceived threat and how to make the choice that is safest for your body (04:18)

Why even though we may not want to hurt people our nervous system may uncharacteristically act out & do so (06:19)

How recognizing, "Nothing good can come" can save a relationship (08:26)

The harmful cascade of stress chemicals when we are our nervous system is in a state of fight or flight (10:27)

How you can soothe your nervous system on your own by rubbing and pulling on your ears or smoothing your face with your hands (16:16)

Join the conversation by listening, share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

Self-Regulation Toolkit Part I: Regulating The Freeze Response

Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love

09/24/20 • 30 min

If you have a nervous system, you need this episode.
And particularly if you ever:
- react strongly to your partner and want to fight or flee or both
- feel exhausted, at an emotional or energetic level, by your day
- freeze up and find yourself unable to speak, move forward, or interact
This intro to what's REALLY going on, and what you can do about it, can be life-changing. It's self-care, it's relationship elevating, it's good.

Time Alone Together Ambivalence

Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love

06/30/22 • 20 min

Do you find yourself saying, "We're so busy, I feel like roommates?” Or maybe you say, "We know we need to go on dates, but we never seem to get around to it. And then if we do go, a lot of times we get into a fight." Today on Sex. Love. Power., we're talking about spending more time together. Whether that's talking, having fun, or getting naked together. We're going to cover how to recognize the resistance so you can break through those totally understandable obstacles and actually get more closeness and heat between you.

As you listen to this episode, we’ll talk about:

Why time alone together matters for your relationship in the long-term
The reasons you don’t spend time together, even if you know you should
How to keep alone time from turning into a conflict
The habits that are keeping you from truly connecting and new ones you can form

And more.
E.g. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.
“We need to have more fun together. In order to help us resolve some of these conflicts. It's not the other way around, where we have to resolve these conflicts before we can have fun together.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

The six reasons time together can be uncomfortable [5:44]
What to do if you don’t have anything to talk about together [8:51]
Why you are disappointed with the time you spend with your partner [13:23]
Why you might want to start with being alone with yourself first [17:05]

I hope that you are inspired to experiment with these ideas just a little bit, and then build from there so that you can give and receive more joy or pleasure and more care.
If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

Too Nice: The Doormat-Bulldog Cycle in Relationship

Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love

02/25/21 • 17 min

If you or your partner is nice, nice, nice, almost toooo nice... and then periodically explodes with out-of-the-blue anger, this episode is for you.

Or if the person doesn’t ever explode, but there’s a way their nice-nice-niceness doesn’t feel quite authentic, or seems forced... We’re going to talk about that, too.

The dynamics we’re discussing today ... I get it. You’re not alone! AND today’s episode will help, because I’m breakin’ it all down:

How leadership was the first place I saw and named this dynamic, and what I’ve learned about its roots since that time more than 15 years ago
What drives this seesaw between being over-accommodating in one extreme and being harsh, critical, or aggressive in the other
How trauma reactions relate to the doormat stance and the bulldog position alike
How - in the next episode - I'll share how to root out these patterns in yourself and ask for your partner to excavate them if you see them in your relationship

Join the conversation by listening, share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

Full shownotes are at http://lisenbury.com/episode/025.

Self-Regulation Toolkit for Painful Times

Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love

07/14/22 • 32 min

These past few weeks have been tough on our nervous systems. Many people are hurting and bewildered. I wondered how I could best help through the podcast, and what came to me was that this popular episode, recorded with my friend Jessica Pullins, PhD, is the best set of tools I can give you to help you pull yourself and others through when your heart and mind are reeling.

If you have a nervous system, you need this episode.

And particularly if you ever:

Rreact strongly to your partner and want to fight or flee or both
Feel exhausted, at an emotional or energetic level, by your day
Freeze up and find yourself unable to speak, move forward, or interact

This intro to what's REALLY going on, and what you can do about it, can be life-changing. It's self-care, it's relationship elevating, it's survival skills. It's good.
As you listen to this episode, you'll learn about:

The nervous system state we must be in for connection to work, and the three other states we’re always moving in and out.
Why stonewalling, withdrawal, or non-responsiveness in relationship aren’t always a partner being unloving or deliberately withdrawn and what’s sometimes REALLY going on instead.
How, sometimes, what looks like depression is just a nervous system state of “freeze” and what you can do about it.

And more. E.g. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.
"If you can find strategies to get back into your body via the senses, that will get you grounded and calm. THAT'S WHAT GROUNDING IS."

- Dr. Jessica Pullins
Hot Moments in This Episode:

Recognizing when its a state vs when it’s a trait (11:24)
When otherwise articulate people lose the ability to speak (13:33)
Common triggers of freeze states (16:03)
Learning to notice freeze response by noticing it in your partner and others (27:27)

I hope you find this episode helps you see some of your own and your partner’s experiences in a refreshing new light. I hope it helps you remember your exquisite beauty, divinity, and intrinsic aliveness. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

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