See The Upside - Overcoming Obstacles and Doing Life a Little Better Everyday - 30. Getting Love Right This Time Around with Relationship Coach Roy Biancalana

30. Getting Love Right This Time Around with Relationship Coach Roy Biancalana

03/10/22 • 70 min

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See The Upside - Overcoming Obstacles and Doing Life a Little Better Everyday

If you've been through divorce or a significant break up, you may have some work to do to get into Relationship Shape. Spending the time to understand yourself and the ways you show up in relationships can make ALL the difference between repeating old patterns and attracting a deep, intimate connection that brings incredible joy and fulfillment.

Roy's been there. Through his own relationship journey he learned how to look at himself, get honest and clear about the areas where he wanted to do better and developed a system to help others do the same.

In the interview we talk about:

Why it's not about "finding the right person" but rather looking within
How to know if you're emotionally available and how to know if someone ELSE is emotionally available
Why rebound relationships happen, what they mean and why they usually don't last
Why looking within is the key to healing from break ups and showing up authentically in future relationships
The way your past comes into play in relationships - how it can help and how it can cause problems
How to continue to grow and change while dating
How dating is like sports - it's all about letting go of the past and clearing your mind for success moving forward
Why pain isn't always bad and how to use it to grow and facilitate change
Why understanding what you are feeling is crucial to success in relationships and how to do it
How blame can keep you stuck and why forgiveness is the path to letting go

Full show notes and links: https://www.seetheupside.com/30-roy-biancalana

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Connect with Roy:
Website - https://coachingwithroy.com/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/coachingwithroy
Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-attracting-lasting-love-podcast/id1561528328

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In the interview we talk about:

Why it's not about "finding the right person" but rather looking within
How to know if you're emotionally available and how to know if someone ELSE is emotionally available
Why rebound relationships happen, what they mean and why they usually don't last
Why looking within is the key to healing from break ups and showing up authentically in future relationships
The way your past comes into play in relationships - how it can help and how it can cause problems
How to continue to grow and change while dating
How dating is like sports - it's all about letting go of the past and clearing your mind for success moving forward
Why pain isn't always bad and how to use it to grow and facilitate change
Why understanding what you are feeling is crucial to success in relationships and how to do it
How blame can keep you stuck and why forgiveness is the path to letting go

Full show notes and links: https://www.seetheupside.com/30-roy-biancalana

Connect with See The Upside:
Website - www.SeetheUpside.com
Instagram - @see.theupside
Facebook - See The Upside

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Previous Episode

29. Letting Go of Old Stories about How You Should Live and Creating an Authentic Life You Love - with Life/Divorce Coach Shannon McGorry

Big life change like divorce can be a challenge - but it’s also an opportunity.
In this interview with Shannon McGorry, divorce and life coach, we explore all the ways divorce can be an invitation to recreate our lives and tear down the roadblocks and limiting beliefs about how our life should be once and for all.

We break down how to live life authentically, fully and as the best version ourselves. We dig into how to let go of the things that are holding us back and step into happiness, fulfillment and purpose.

We cover:

How to handle the many emotions and interacting with people who don’t understand what you're going through
Should you get a therapist OR a divorce coach or can they work together to help you?
Realizing we need different kinds of support and guidance in different seasons
How divorce or change is the invitation to finally get to know ourselves and what we really want from life now
Why putting ourselves first is really in service to all
Opening yourself up to limitless possibilities of who you are, what you can be and how you can live your life
How jealousy/envy can actually be an invitation to what your true desires are
Why growth is so uncomfortable but how it drives you forward
Why how we model managing challenges affects how our children will understand resilience and strength

Link to full show notes: https://www.seetheupside.com/29-shannon-mcgorry

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Connect with Shannon:
Website - https://www.lovestrengthandgrace.com/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lovestrengthandgrace/
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Also Mentioned in this Episode:
Books:
The Moment of Lift by Melinda Gates
Option B – Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant
If the Buddah Dated - Charlotte Kasl

Next Episode

31. Making a Financial Comeback and Creating a Plan for Abundance - with Financial Clarity Advisor Tricia Daniel

Money is a tough topic for many people, and it happens to be one of the top reasons that couples get divorced. What if we looked at money differently? What if instead of NOT talking about money, we opened up and started connecting OVER money. What if we created friendships, relationships and lives that celebrated money and created abundance by getting intentional and open about our money.

In this episode we hear from Financial Clarity Advisor Tricia Daniel who has been through divorce twice and rebuilt her life personally and financially both times. Navigating these challenges made her realize that there are many women who struggle with finding financial balance and communication in their lives, and the only way to become empowered and find true financial freedom is to step up and get curious. The first crucial step involves understanding your money story and letting go of the beliefs that are holding you back and just being willing to learn.

In the interview we talk about:

The first crucial steps to take when rebuilding financially
Becoming aware of our money identity and how it influences our approach to money
The way adversity and challenge can turn into power and growth in money and in life.
How to merge finances them with another person and/or family.
Combining financial strengths and skills sets to become a money powerhouse
How to learn from our past financial relationship mistakes and do better in new relationships – hint – it’s all about communication.
Ways to integrate passive income into your financial strategy
What are weekly board meetings and how they can uplevel your financial success
Shifting your view of budgeting from restriction to a plan for abundance
The possibility and responsibility in money management
The power of showing the universe that you can handle and manage money and how it opens you up to more money
Wants vs needs - hint - YOU decide what they are!
Why asking questions is the best way to teach kids about how to spend, save and invest money
How to build wealth (hint! The key is investing!)

Full show notes and links: https://www.seetheupside.com/31-trica-daniel

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Connect with Tricia:
Website - www.triciadaniel.com
Instagram - @triciadanielMBA and @startingoverwealth
Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/starting-over-wealth-the-podcast/id1581497166

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