Relationships Inside Out

Sex and intimacy, both holding the potential for so much pleasure but also so much pain. Sex therapy, a specialized type of therapy that focuses on strengthening our intimate and sexual selves, helps with understand any barriers or fears that inhibit our most intimate experiences, as well as provide tools to live a fully satisfying sexual life. We are eager for you to tune into this episode and hear from a certified sex therapist about how sex therapy could be in incredible resource for you or someone you love!

Join us as we welcome our next guest, Abby Neuberg, MA, LMFT, LPC, Certified Sex Therapist, to talk about sex therapy! Abby explains what to expect in sex therapy, common concerns that sex therapists can help individuals and couple address, and some tools to improve intimacy and sex. We are all prone facing challenges with our intimate and sexual selves at various points in our lives, but we don’t have to struggle alone! Que: sex therapy!

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In two weeks, we go into part one of our part series on boundaries, starting with enmeshment! Later topics include: trauma, military families, gender roles, parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, and so much more!

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Some resources related to this topic:

• What Is Sex Therapy?
• Sex Therapist: What They Do and When to See One
• How to Pick the Right Sex Therapist
• American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (Referral Directory)

Think about the last time you went to a restaurant or sat with your partner on the couch. What do these two have in common? Phones! Phubbing, or phone snubbing, is a growing phenomenon where we spend more time on our phones or electronic devices than we do actually connecting with those around us. Eye contact, verbal communication, attunement to emotions, and physical contact are essential for true, deep connection. Phubbing can leave the other person feeling alone, disconnected, devalued, and unimportant, including with our partner.

Join us as we explore phubbing. In our desire to stay ever connected with the outside world or “check out” for a bit, we lose depth and quality in our relationships nearest to us. By staring at our phones constantly, even while eating or having a conversation, we are communicating to the other person that we do not prioritize them or value what they have to say. In this episode, we offer insights into the true impact phones are having on our relationships, as well as tips to notice and correct our phubbing behaviors. You and your partner deserve better!

Please head on over and check out episode 63, Phubbing Your Partner. If you find this episode, or any of our other episodes, helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]!

In two weeks, we will discuss infertility with Dr. Randi Smith. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

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Some resources related to this episode:

• Introducing 'Phubbing'
• 'Phubbing' Is Hurting Your Relationships. Here's What It Is
• Phubbing - The #1 Phone Habit to Drop for Better Relationships
• Why the Phenomenon of "Phubbing Is Like Relationship Mold
• Why Too Much Cell Phone Usage Can Hurt Your Family Relationships
• Smartphones, Social Media Use and Youth Mental Health

Compassion fatigue is emotional and physical exhaustion as a result of giving compassion to others who are experiencing stress or trauma. While giving compassion and support to others, it can be tricky to manage our own needs and boundaries. Compassion fatigue can sneak up on people, leading to exhaustion, irritability, blunting of empathy or other emotions, detachment, self-blame, cynicism, or rumination. If you are someone who finds themselves in the position of caring for another and are experiencing any of these symptoms, tune in and join us for this important conversation.

Join us as we illuminate this often-unrecognized condition of compassion fatigue. We not only provide understanding of what this means, but also ways to improve symptoms and prevent compassion fatigue in the future. When we care for some in need, we are at risk of forgetting about or neglecting our own needs. This puts not only our physical health at risk, but also our mental health. Let us give guidance to prevent you from falling into the trap of compassion fatigue!

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In two weeks, we aim to improve your motivation! Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

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Some resources related to this topic:

• Compassion Fatigue: The Toll of Caring Too Much
• Burnout Vs. Compassion Fatigue
• Compassion Fatigue among Healthcare, Emergency, and Community Service Workers: A systematic Review
• Compassion Fatigue in Adult Daughter Caregivers of a Parent with Dementia
• Caring for Aging Populations: Examining Compassion Fatigue and Satisfaction

Emotion regulation: the ability to notice, identify, and manage our emotions before they escalate. Emotion regulation is a skill, one we must intentionally learn and practice to use effectively. While we expect everyone to possess this skill, we rarely are given the opportunity to see it modeled and thus learn its intricacies. Failure to regulate our emotions not only impacts us individually, but also our partners, family, children, friends, coworkers and much more. Join us as we unpack emotion regulation and tools for success, both individually and in our partnerships!

Join us as we discuss emotion regulation in couples. Couples are expected to have disagreements, but with proper tools, those disagreements should be brief, productive, and eventually resolved. If you notice that you and you partner tend to escalate or even shut down during disagreements, this episode is for you! We must gain the tools to soothe our own bodies while also supporting our partner in soothing their body and regulate the dyadic dynamic together. Let’s break the cycle of fighting together through some of our tangible tools and move towards a more regulated self and partnership!

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In two weeks, we will lift the veil on trauma therapy. Later topics include: parenting, self-acceptance, domestic violence, premarital tips for relationship success, navigating milestones as a couple, how to have tough conversations, self-awareness in relationships, and so much more!

For more updates and helpful resources, follow us on Facebook at @RelationshipsInsideOutllc!

Some resources related to this episode:

• What is Emotion Regulation?
• How Emotion Regulation Skills Promote Stability
• 9 Science-Based Emotion Regulation Skills
• 3 Proven Techniques to Regulate Your Emotions
• Dyadic Coping: A Systemic-Transactional View of Stress and Coping Among Couples: Theory and Empirical Findings
• The Relationships Between Dyadic Coping and Marital Quality: A 2-Year Longitudinal Study
• Stress, Dyadic Coping, and Relationship Satisfaction:

You NEVER do anything right. You ALWAYS let me down. Why can’t you just do what I asked? I am jealous of my friend’s husband who actually helps out around the house. You are such a disappointment. You never do things right. How did I get stuck with you as my partner?

Let’s get honest. Have you ever said any of these comments or maybe been on the receiving end of these critical statements? You are not alone... the vast majority of us have. Criticism is often learned starting at the same time we learn to tie our shoes, but it does not have to follow you for life. You and your loved ones deserve better!

Join my colleague, Dr. Gregory Seibert, LMFT, and I, Dr. Kimberly Murray, LMFT, as we get critical about being critical. We breakdown what unhealthy criticism looks like, the impact it can have on relationships, and ways to shift these toxic patterns on Episode 10 of our podcast, Relationships Inside Out. Criticism takes two to tango. Let us help you and your partner learn about each of your roles in this unhealthy pattern, as well as healthy ways to conquer the criticism!

Please head on over and check out episode 10, Let’s Get Critical, as well as our past episodes. If you find any of them helpful to you, please share with those that you love! Let us know what you think about what you want us to talk about next by emailing us at [email protected]!

Next Tuesday, we explore the role our family and growing up experiences have on ALL of us today (yes, not even you are exempt!), and how to appreciate the things we loved about those experiences and adjust the things we didn’t. Later topics include: navigating the transition into parenthood, anxiety, battling personal insecurities, self-compassion, boundaries, managing family relationships, and so much more!