145 [Hotseat] How to Lead By Example & Be Relatable, Not Preachy

11/12/19 • 24 min

Quiet Messenger: Redefining leadership & messaging for introverts & sensitive souls

Ever had people think you’re so lucky for the body/health/marriage/lifestyle you work hard for?

Kristen is another smart, big-hearted woman coach in the fall round of my quarterly Messenger Mastermind. (Enrolling now for January & April.)

She wants to inspire allied healthcare professionals who are burned out to take intentional action in their lives. But as a mom and healthcare practitioner herself, it can feel like she’s not in the club if she’s not stressed out or chooses not to eat the donut. “You’re so healthy. You have it all together. You have so much willpower.”

They think because she’s on the other side of it, she doesn’t understand.

They don’t think they can do what she’s done. So they don’t listen.

Her question: “How do I lead by example without sounding preachy?”

My advice? Listen in.

Kristen & I talk about:

How to go deeper than “hey I did this and so can you” when your people are stuck thinking they can’t get to where you are
Why before they’re going to hear all your solutions, your people need to feel like you actually understand the problem
How to “show not tell” with your personal story to help someone go from “that’s easy for healthy people” to being empowered to make changes
The power of deep empathy for your people
How to create a foundation of understanding and find THE moment with the most resonance in your story

Deeper support from me:

What’s your Messenger Archetype? Take the quiz.
I lead Messenger Masterminds for women coaches ready to feel solid in their messaging so they can call in their people and next level of impact. Intimate + Invite-Only + Intensive. Enrolling for January and April. Only 6 spots in our next cohort.
Follow me on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and deeper stories around this conversation.

What’s your top takeaway from this episode? Take a screenshot of your podcast app, share your takeaway + tag me on Instagram to let me know. (And so I can shout you out!)

Warmth, Adria

Ever had people think you’re so lucky for the body/health/marriage/lifestyle you work hard for?

Kristen is another smart, big-hearted woman coach in the fall round of my quarterly Messenger Mastermind. (Enrolling now for January & April.)

They think because she’s on the other side of it, she doesn’t understand.

They don’t think they can do what she’s done. So they don’t listen.

Her question: “How do I lead by example without sounding preachy?”

My advice? Listen in.

Kristen & I talk about:

How to go deeper than “hey I did this and so can you” when your people are stuck thinking they can’t get to where you are
Why before they’re going to hear all your solutions, your people need to feel like you actually understand the problem
How to “show not tell” with your personal story to help someone go from “that’s easy for healthy people” to being empowered to make changes
The power of deep empathy for your people
How to create a foundation of understanding and find THE moment with the most resonance in your story

Deeper support from me:

What’s your Messenger Archetype? Take the quiz.
I lead Messenger Masterminds for women coaches ready to feel solid in their messaging so they can call in their people and next level of impact. Intimate + Invite-Only + Intensive. Enrolling for January and April. Only 6 spots in our next cohort.
Follow me on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and deeper stories around this conversation.

What’s your top takeaway from this episode? Take a screenshot of your podcast app, share your takeaway + tag me on Instagram to let me know. (And so I can shout you out!)

Warmth, Adria

Previous Episode

144 REPLAY How to Uncover Your True Message (or Your Next Evolution)

You know you have something BIG to say, just not what.

Maybe it's become clear that what you've been talking about no longer feels congruent and you’re pivoting...

Or you're ready to claim what you want to be known for and applying for a TEDx talk.

Either way, you're in the right place.

Today is all about uncovering your true message (or the next evolution of it). After all, to use your voice and share your truth, you first need clarity on what you’re saying.

And because I know this is deep work, I created something super special for ya to go along with this episode.

It’s my new Message Clarity Kit and it’s totally free.

Get immediate FREE access here.

Download it to walk you step-by-step through the process I’m sharing today. You can even listen back to this episode later while doing the quick exercises in the Message Clarity Kit.

Deeper support from me:

What’s your Messenger Archetype? Take the quiz.
My Messaging Intensives are for coaches wanting to land on a clear, cohesive way to express the story of their work and their place in it.
Follow me on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and deeper stories around this conversation.

Links From the Episode

Warmth,Adria

Next Episode

146 REPLAY 5 Steps to Copy that Moves Your People to Sign Up

Have you ever spent hours writing an email invite or sign up page and then released your baby into the world... and gotten crickets?

It can feel so FRUSTRATING and discouraging.

This year, in addition to my beloved Messenger Masterminds, I’ve taken on copywriting projects for women whose missions I really believe in.

I’ve noticed there are certain intentions I set to move people to action.

It’s about:

Them feeling seen.
What I’m saying feeling relevant to them.
Them resonating with what I’m saying.
Them feeling like what I’m talking about is important and urgent.

...And so they sign up or click to the next step.

In episode 146 of Unforgettable, I break down:

The top reasons your copy may not be landing for your people
The vital difference between copy and messaging (this will change your whole perspective on marketing)
What you can do to write copy that moves your people to sign up for your thing

Deeper support from me:

What’s your Messenger Archetype? Take the quiz.
I lead Messenger Masterminds for women coaches ready to feel solid in their messaging so they can call in their people and next level of impact. Intimate + Invite-Only + Intensive. Enrolling for January and April. Only 6 spots in our next cohort.
Follow me on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and deeper stories around this conversation.

Links From the Episode

Warmth,Adria