042: Teaching Kids To Apologize

04/01/20 • 30 min

We talk a lot about B- parenting and with that comes a lot of mistakes and blunders and imperfections from both parties. Living in compassion and grace and empathy for ourselves allows us to give that gift to our kids. Today I talk about the 4 Rs of an apology developed by the Gottman Institute which is the leader on relationships and great to model this for our kids. The 4 Rs are Responsibility Repair No Repeat Remorse Read more about it here: https://www.gottman.com/about/john-julie-gottman/ Zap me back to tell me your biggest takeaway from this episode. Subscribe on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/harmony-in-the-home/id1471554293 Subscribe on Android: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/kelly-hutcheson/harmony-in-the-home Join my FREE parenting bootcamp: https://mailchi.mp/038b02da043a/freebootcamp Let’s Connect! Here’s where you can find me: Learn more at https://www.coachingkelly.com Find me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/kelly.hutchesonFind me on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/kelly.stouthutcheson

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041: Buffering

I want to teach you about an important concept called Buffering. Buffering is any kind of activity that you take a part in that is an effort to escape negative emotions that creates a negative result . Sometimes we think we need to be happy all the time and should never feel negative emotion. So then if we feel a negative emotion then we feel like something has gone wrong and want to “buffer” away from that emotion. Feeling pain and negative emotion is part of our human experience and when we resist negative emotion then that emotion will only get stronger and intense. It is kind of like when I tried to resist laughing in this video with my best friend in high school. https://tinyurl.com/ResistingEmotion When i tried to stop laughing, we only laughed harder. The same idea works with negative emotions....what we resist will only persist! Zap me back to tell me your biggest takeaway from this episode. Subscribe on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/harmony-in-the-home/id1471554293 Subscribe on Android: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/kelly-hutcheson/harmony-in-the-home Join my FREE parenting bootcamp: https://mailchi.mp/038b02da043a/freebootcamp Let’s Connect! Here’s where you can find me: Learn more at https://www.coachingkelly.com Find me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/kelly.hutcheson Find me on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/kelly.stouthutcheson

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043: 50:50

Lots of emotions are swirling around these days and I’m going to teach you a 50/50 concept I learned from Brooke Castillo. When we know that the human experience involves 50% negative emotion and the other 50% being positive emotions then we aren’t so scared and resistant to emotions. When we let go of the idea that we should feel happiness all of the time then we can let go of that expectation and lean into the negative emotions with joy too. Rather, we can have compassion, grace, kindness and be gentle with ourselves instead of beating ourselves up for feeling an emotion; or even worse blaming another person or circumstance for our emotions. When we know that our emotions come from a sentence in our mind then we can feel the range of those emotions like a see saw and give equal air time for both sides of the coin. Subscribe on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/harmony-in-the-home/id1471554293 Subscribe on Android: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/kelly-hutcheson/harmony-in-the-home Join my FREE parenting bootcamp: https://mailchi.mp/038b02da043a/freebootcamp Let’s Connect! Here’s where you can find me: Learn more at https://www.coachingkelly.com Find me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/kelly.hutchesonFind me on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/kelly.stouthutcheson