163. Building a New Dream After an Autism Diagnosis with Brittney + Shannon (Moms Talk Autism)

08/20/24 • 59 min

Today I’m sitting down with Brittney and Shannon, two out of the four moms from Moms Talk Autism, a podcast where good friends share their journeys figuring out in real time how to best support their kids and themselves, discussing school, family balance, siblings, grief, therapies, social issues, behaviors, delays, diagnosis advocacy, marriage, and more.

Our conversation highlights their individual stories, Brittney with four kids - two with Autism, both with very different needs and Shannon with an 18 year old and 10 y/o daughter with Autism. They offer honesty, wisdom and advice for other parents in the trenches with them - where there’s no rulebook and a lot of pressure, spanning from protecting your peace, finding your people, and building a new dream.

As we wrap up, they reflect on the beautiful ways they’ve changed as people as a result of parenting their kids.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Trusting your gut when you know something is wrong
"My child has not changed, your perception of them has..."
Moments that are gut-wrenching alongside moments of gratitude

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Diversifying your friendship portfolio

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As we wrap up, they reflect on the beautiful ways they’ve changed as people as a result of parenting their kids.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Trusting your gut when you know something is wrong
"My child has not changed, your perception of them has..."
Moments that are gut-wrenching alongside moments of gratitude

DON'T MISS-

Diversifying your friendship portfolio

I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.
Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.
Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/Apply

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162. They Don't Hate YOU, They Hate...

Have you ever been told, "I HATE YOU" by your child?
Or even worse "You're not coming to my birthday party!"
Parents of strong-willed kids (esp. mom) can become the scapegoat for the anger they harbor, and it can lead to parents hearing things like “You don’t love me”.

This often causes a spiral into permissiveness to avoid conflict, anxiety, and/or a lot of self-doubt as a parent.

Spoiler Alert: They don’t hate you. They hate feeling crazy and all alone with their BIG emotions. And we do too.

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IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

My CRAZY week and what led me to resent my husband
7 things they hate MORE than you
The prerequisite to building the momentum that’s needed to problem solve forward together

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How to interpret and respond when your child says “I HATE YOU!”

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// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Episode 111 (June 2023): “Why are they so angry?”

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164. Surviving Until or Without Qualifying for a Diagnosis [Danielle on Moms Talk Autism]

A special gift for you this week, courtesy of our friends at Moms Talk Autism. Not only did they join me for last week’s episode, but they interviewed me on their show and were kind enough to share it with our audience so I could share it here.

My work specializes in helping families who are struggling with Neurodivergent traits in their child but don’t have a diagnosis yet or whose child does not meet the criteria for a specific diagnosis.

In this episode of Moms Talk Autism, I share what traits to look for in your child and what to do when you’re in the messy middle, in hopes this conversation is a helpful stepping stone to finding solutions for your family.

After you tune into this episode, don’t forget to head over to Moms Talk Autism and check it out... lots of great vulnerable conversations, topics and resources for families with Neurodivergent and Autistic kids!

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IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The dichotomy of strong-willed kids at HOME v. at school
Jean's 1st hand experience of this with her daughter 20 years ago
The powerful catalyst of community

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When it feels like you're in an abusive relationship with your child

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Failing Motherhood - 163. Building a New Dream After an Autism Diagnosis with Brittney + Shannon (Moms Talk Autism)

Transcript

Brittney Crabtree 0:00

You have this expectation, this picture in your mind of what your family is going to be like, right? And either you are going through or you receive that diagnosis - of whatever it is, and that dream, that picture, that beautiful expectation, is then shattered into a million pieces, right? And it's life altering. And we always like to remind people, your child has not changed, but your perception of them has, right? Your expectation of what their life is going to