Failing Motherhood
Danielle Bettmann | Parenting Coach for Strong-Willed Kids
If you're riddled with mom guilt, your temper scares you, you're terrified you're screwing up your kids and are afraid to admit any of those things out loud....this podcast is for you. Hosted by Danielle Bettmann, parenting coach for families with 1-10-year-old strong-willed kids, Failing Motherhood is where shame-free vulnerability meets breakthroughs.
Every other week is a storytelling interview about one mom's raw and honest experience of growth that leads to new perspectives and practical strategies and every other week solo episodes focus on actionable insight into parenting your deeply feeling, highly sensitive, *spicy* child.
Here, we normalize the struggle, share openly about our insecurities, and rally around small wins and truths. We hope to convince you you're not alone and YOU are the parent your kids need. We hope you see yourself, hear your story, and find hope and healing.
Welcome to Failing Motherhood. You belong here!
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95. The Emotional Rollercoaster of Nursing a Toddler with Erin Harris
Failing Motherhood
02/21/23 • 73 min
Has your relationship with nursing ever led you to feel guilt, shame, confusion, sadness, love, and even grief? This episode is for you.
My guest today, Erin Harris, is a mom of two, founder of Nursing Mamas, and a lactation consultant who specifically equips parents nursing toddlers past one year.
Nursing toddlers is a whole new world compared to nursing a newborn, due to the shift from nursing on demand, to a toddler demanding to nurse. Erin shares so much insight into the emotional cycle of an extended breastfeeding parent, from love to burnout to guilt to grief to sadness and back again.
No matter where you are in your journey of feeding your child - there is no wrong way. I know you’ll learn so much through Erin’s story.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...
- Erin's opposite experiences nursing her two kids
- Key strategies that protect + preserve your nursing relationship
- How to successfully wean when you're ready - and how to know when that is
DON'T MISS-
- Erin + Scott's family mission statement
- The lessons Erin's strong-willed child taught her
// CONNECT WITH ERIN HARRIS//
FREE 30-min 1:1 Consult
Register for the next Extended Nursing Workshop
IG: @erin.nursingmamas
FB: Nursing Mamas
I believe in you & I'm cheering you on.
Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.
Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!
START HERE:
CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS
Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
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[TRAINING MODULE from Wholeheartedly CALM]
Failing Motherhood
03/28/23 • 21 min
I don't have an episode for you today - you get a glimpse into my program!
For the bad days / bad mornings / bad nights when things are just OFF...
Here's an acronym to help you remember 3 ways you can hit RESET.
When in doubt... BMW.
B - BREATHE
M - MUSIC
W - WATER
// Resources referenced in the training //
Free Meditation app - Insight Timer
Breathwork podcast on Spotify - The Breathwork Club
Spotify Premium - Family
Big Life Kids Podcast
Story Pirates
Audiobooks - Libby App - log in with your library card
// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //
Website: parentingwholeheartedly.com
IG: @parent_wholeheartedly
APPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/apply
FREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/call
START HERE:
CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS
Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
114. Your Parenting "Report Card": How to Know if You're *Actually* Failing or Not
Failing Motherhood
07/18/23 • 33 min
There are so many reasons to feel insecure, guilt, shame or fear as a parent. How do you know if you're doing okay or if you need to make a change?
If your child’s behavior is not your report card, what is?
In today's episode I share 3 questions to navigate that help you decide for yourself and your family what the right next step is for you. Many times it's simply letting an expectation go, forgetting about that unsolicited advice, and allowing other families to parent differently than you.
Use these questions alongside the day-to-day feedback to stay grounded in the decisions that are best for your kids, and help you truly hear and listen to your gut instinct as their parent.
IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...
- 3 Questions to ask yourself when doubting, questioning or worried about your parenting
- A strategic way to address all the "shoulds" in your head
- A way to re frame the adversity you face day-to-day
DON'T MISS:
- How I use my family's values to know when something needs to change
// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Family Culture + Values from Mighty + Bright
// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //
Website: parentingwholeheartedly.com
IG: @parent_wholeheartedly
APPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/apply
FREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/call
Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!
START HERE:
CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS
Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
10/17/23 • 50 min
Motherhood is hard for everyone, so how do you know when what you’re experiencing is not what everyone is experiencing?
Today’s guest, Becky Gleed is a busy working mom of two fun, spirited girls, a licensed marriage and family therapist and a certified perinatal mental health professional ! She owns and operates a private mental health practice right outside of Washington, D.C. specializing in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.
In today’s episode we talk about how the egregious policies and lack of support she witnessed while working in emergency psychiatric care for moms informed the work she does now. We covered the breadth of mental health and mood disorders postpartum parents experience and why it’s critical to seek support sooner than later.
In a world that equates busyness with success, how do we differentiate when productivity is a mental health concern? Becky shares key indicators, next steps and power thoughts for moms struggling with high functioning anxiety, and insight on when and why to get help.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...
- How to recognize the root of what's driving your productivity
- Why you need to differentiate your identity from your symptoms
- What happens years down the road when you DON'T get help
DON'T MISS-
- Key take home messages to remind yourself of often
// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Postpartum Support International: postpartum.net
// CONNECT WITH BECKY GLEED //
Website: rebeccamgleedlmft.com/
Instagram: @employedmotherhood
Audible Promo Code: 2NSL4SARSEWAC
I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.
Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.
Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/call
Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!
START HERE:
CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS
Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
132. How to Be the CALM to Your Strong-Willed Child's Storm: Moving Beyond Theories to Application with Omaya + Andrew
Failing Motherhood
11/28/23 • 67 min
Parents to a 4-year-old strong-willed son and an almost 2 year-old daughter, Omaya + Andrew are here to share the biggest mindset shifts they internalized that made it possible for them to go from constantly splitting up their family to avoid setting off their strong-willed child to watching their sibling relationship thrive and taking both kids hiking as a solo parent!
They reflected on what they've done well to parent together as true partners, processing the information in real time and tagging each other out in the moment.
But most importantly, they hope by hearing their story you'll not only feel incredibly validated, but realize how possible it is to make sense of all the theories when you have individualized insight.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...
- The problem with spending your energy trying to rationalize with someone who’s behavior is by definition, irrational
- What it really means to respond to the emotion, not the action
- How empowering it is to move from avoidance to acceptance of your child's BIG emotions
DON'T MISS:
- What to do with your fears that your child is the *worst* child of all the kids you know
// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //
Website: parentingwholeheartedly.com
IG: @parent_wholeheartedly
APPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/apply
Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!
START HERE:
CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS
Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
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133. [REPLAY] Boundaries with Parents with Jamie Cooper
Failing Motherhood
12/05/23 • 63 min
Originally aired: October 13, 2020 (Ep. 26)
"You want your parents to be involved in your child's life, but at what cost?"
Both of Jamie's parents are alcoholics and are still in a gut-wrenching divorce that's been going on for years. She has been working daily to break the chain of trauma, and what once crippled her has made her so much stronger.
"It was a scary thing to realize that this is no longer something that only affects me. This affects my kids. I have to ensure my kids are safe."
Disappointment. Lies. Heartbreak. Guilt. Grief.
If you've ever been stuck trying to navigate boundaries with your extended family, this episode is for you. Get ready to take notes from Jamie's example.
Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!
START HERE:
CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS
Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
The Mistakes I Made Managing My Child's Anxiety with Lynn McLaughlin
Failing Motherhood
05/23/23 • 57 min
How often do you get to hear a mom vulnerably share from hindsight all the regrets she has AND the ways she's grown and found self-compassion?!
Lynn McLaughlin is a former teacher, principal, and superintendent turned author and college educator while being a mom to three kids age 24-28. Her middle child was a volatile child with BIG emotions and eventually debilitating anxiety, and Lynn had no idea how to help.
Lynn is able now to look back and share ways she would've shifted from swooping in and enabling out of fear and worry to modeling and building coping skills.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...
- How to shift your response from being responsive to being proactive
- The importance of reflection, mindfulness and modeling as parents
- Clarity on when to help and when to back off
- The messages you send based on how you react
- How Lynn no longer blames herself, yet changed her behavior
Interview: How to Avoid Falling Down the Parenting Well with Torie Henderson
// CONNECT WITH LYNN MCLAUGHLIN //
Taking the Helm Podcast is on VoiceAmerica Talk Radio Network LIVE every Wednesday at 10 am EST. Call into the show at 866-472-5792.
Children's Book Series: The Power of Thought
IG: @lynnmcla
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Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.
Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/call
Support the show
*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
163. Building a New Dream After an Autism Diagnosis with Brittney + Shannon (Moms Talk Autism)
Failing Motherhood
08/20/24 • 60 min
Today I’m sitting down with Brittney and Shannon, two out of the four moms from Moms Talk Autism, a podcast where good friends share their journeys figuring out in real time how to best support their kids and themselves, discussing school, family balance, siblings, grief, therapies, social issues, behaviors, delays, diagnosis advocacy, marriage, and more.
Our conversation highlights their individual stories, Brittney with four kids - two with Autism, both with very different needs and Shannon with an 18 year old and 10 y/o daughter with Autism. They offer honesty, wisdom and advice for other parents in the trenches with them - where there’s no rulebook and a lot of pressure, spanning from protecting your peace, finding your people, and building a new dream.
As we wrap up, they reflect on the beautiful ways they’ve changed as people as a result of parenting their kids.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...
- Trusting your gut when you know something is wrong
- "My child has not changed, your perception of them has..."
- Moments that are gut-wrenching alongside moments of gratitude
DON'T MISS-
- Diversifying your friendship portfolio
// CONNECT WITH MOMS TALK AUTISM //
Website: https://www.momstalkautism.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momstalkautism/
Link Tree: https://linktr.ee/momstalkautism
Apple Podcasts
Shannon's Instagram
Brittney's Instagram
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Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!
START HERE:
CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS
Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
Puberty Prep for BOYS
Failing Motherhood
04/02/24 • 2 min
This week I am partnering with my friend Amy Lang, (from episode 80 of my Failing Motherhood podcast) one of the most respected experts on talking to kids about sexuality and relationships, to bring you a class all about your boy* and puberty!
I know if you've found this podcast, you're an intentional parent. You take your role seriously and you have questions. Well, Amy has answers!
Join us for Puberty Prep for Moms of BOYS
but you'll have to act fast!
It's tomorrow, Wednesday, April 3rd, 2024
10:00 - 11:30 AM Pacific / 12:00 - 1:30 PM Central / 1:00 - 2:30 PM Eastern
ONLY $29
***If you can't make it LIVE, register and the recorded replay will be sent to you to watch with your partner at your convenience!
REGISTER HERE -
https://www.tickettailor.com/events/amylang/1193666
What’s covered:
- What will happen to their bodies and brains
- How to navigate challenging behaviors and big feelings
- How to show them they can trust you (even though you don’t have their parts)
- How to talk about:
- Masturbation
- Wet Dreams
- Taking care of their body
- P*rn (tiny bit about this)
Hope to see you there!
// CONNECT WITH AMY LANG //
https://birdsandbeesandkids.com/
REGISTER HERE -
https://www.tickettailor.com/events/amylang/1193666
*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
82. Embracing Delegation with Yoky Matsuoka
Failing Motherhood
11/08/22 • 58 min
Our current reality is impossible, my friends. Among many things, moms spend as much as 97 hours a week on household and parenting tasks. It's especially hard during the holiday season, and a quarter of moms say they have zero time for themselves. The village we used to be able to rely on is gone. And my guest today has set out to rebuild it!
She has been described as a mechanical engineer, neuroscientist, bioengineer, robotics expert and computer scientist all in one. Yoky Matsuoka is the founder and CEO of Yohana, a wellness company designed to help families prioritize well-being. She created the Yohana membership, launching nationwide this month, which is a concierge service for families that uses AI and real humans to tackle the family to-do list.
Yoky has inspired a STEM Barbie, earned the MacArthur Genius award, and been included in the Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls book series!
IN THIS EPISODE, SHE SHARES...
- The way her life coach pushed through her resistance to putting her oxygen mask on first
- The breaking point that led her to start Yohana
- All the ways Yohana can take things off your to-do list this holiday season
DON'T MISS -
- How to create a ME List and truly prioritize it
- The perspective that will enable you to get past the hurdle of needing to do everything all by yourself
- Her powerful vision on using the next generation as our WHY for embracing delegation NOW
// CONNECT WITH YOKY MATSUOKA/
Personal IG: @yokymatsuoka
Biz IG: @joinyohana
Yohana - the first-ever concierge service for families - launches nationwide on 10/26. To help parents through the holidays, Yohana will be available to families across the country at the flat rate of $149 for the rest of the year (10/26-12/30) -- a savings of 40%.
Sign up before 11/23 at www.yohana.com with the code holidayhelper.
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FAQ
How many episodes does Failing Motherhood have?
Failing Motherhood currently has 201 episodes available.
What topics does Failing Motherhood cover?
The podcast is about Mom, Health & Fitness, Parenting, Kids & Family, Fatherhood, Motherhood, Mental Health, Podcasts, Kids and Parenthood.
What is the most popular episode on Failing Motherhood?
The episode title '13. Codependency Recovery with Leslie MacNabb' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Failing Motherhood?
The average episode length on Failing Motherhood is 46 minutes.
How often are episodes of Failing Motherhood released?
Episodes of Failing Motherhood are typically released every 7 days.
When was the first episode of Failing Motherhood?
The first episode of Failing Motherhood was released on May 12, 2020.
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