114. Your Parenting "Report Card": How to Know if You're *Actually* Failing or Not
07/18/23 • 32 min
There are so many reasons to feel insecure, guilt, shame or fear as a parent. How do you know if you're doing okay or if you need to make a change?
If your child’s behavior is not your report card, what is?
In today's episode I share 3 questions to navigate that help you decide for yourself and your family what the right next step is for you. Many times it's simply letting an expectation go, forgetting about that unsolicited advice, and allowing other families to parent differently than you.
Use these questions alongside the day-to-day feedback to stay grounded in the decisions that are best for your kids, and help you truly hear and listen to your gut instinct as their parent.
IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...
- 3 Questions to ask yourself when doubting, questioning or worried about your parenting
- A strategic way to address all the "shoulds" in your head
- A way to re frame the adversity you face day-to-day
DON'T MISS:
- How I use my family's values to know when something needs to change
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Family Culture + Values from Mighty + Bright
// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //
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IG: @parent_wholeheartedly
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CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS
Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
There are so many reasons to feel insecure, guilt, shame or fear as a parent. How do you know if you're doing okay or if you need to make a change?
If your child’s behavior is not your report card, what is?
In today's episode I share 3 questions to navigate that help you decide for yourself and your family what the right next step is for you. Many times it's simply letting an expectation go, forgetting about that unsolicited advice, and allowing other families to parent differently than you.
Use these questions alongside the day-to-day feedback to stay grounded in the decisions that are best for your kids, and help you truly hear and listen to your gut instinct as their parent.
IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...
- 3 Questions to ask yourself when doubting, questioning or worried about your parenting
- A strategic way to address all the "shoulds" in your head
- A way to re frame the adversity you face day-to-day
DON'T MISS:
- How I use my family's values to know when something needs to change
// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Family Culture + Values from Mighty + Bright
// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //
Website: parentingwholeheartedly.com
IG: @parent_wholeheartedly
APPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/apply
FREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/call
START HERE:
CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS
Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
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113. Do I Homeschool my Neurodiverse Child? with Afsaneh Moradian
If your child has autism, ADHD, sensory processing, anxiety, and/or is strong-willed - you’ll resonate with so much of Afsaneh’s journey.
After teaching, writing curriculum and being a huge advocate for public schools (and criticisms of homeschooling), Afsaneh Moradian found herself homeschooling her neurodiverse child. She didn't feel like there was another viable option.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...
- The unique challenges to consider when homeschooling a child with different needs
- What it really means when your child resists direction (and how to handle it)
- How to be their best advocate, supporting who they are and working with it
- Indicators that homeschooling isn't working (for you or them)
DON'T MISS-
- How Afsaneh's book series encourages gender-less play in preschool
- Her experience supporting her non-binary child and their request to use they/them pronouns
// CONNECT WITH AFSANEH MORADIAN //
www.mlccoaching.com
Free Guide: Roadmap to Anti-Resistance
Instagram: @moradian.afsaneh
Book: Jamie is Jamie
Neurodiverse Homeschooling Summit: Empowering Moms to Conquer Homeschooling Challenges and Thrive with ConfidenceFREE VIRTUAL EVENT: July 16th - July 31st
www.mlccoaching.com/summit-registration
I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.
Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.
Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/call
START HERE:
CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS
Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
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115. Potty Training Success without the Stress with Allison Jandu
Are you on the never-ending potty training struggle bus?
I have good news and bad news. The bad news is there is NO one-size-fits-all way to potty train, especially if you have a strong-willed child. The good news is there is critical insight you can learn today to make it 10X smoother!
After over 5,000 hours of research, my guest today, Allison Jandu created Potty Training Consultant where she has helped 7,000 families potty train. She's created a community where moms can come together without judgment, ask the hard questions, and get evidence-based facts that drive potty success.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...
- Everything you need to know before you start
- Common pitfalls to avoid and misconceptions to debunk
- What to do if they're going #1 in the potty but not #2
DON'T MISS-
- How to mitigate stress when your potty training has a deadline
- Why accidents can be a good thing and a mantra to cling to
// CONNECT WITH ALLISON JANDU //
pottytrainingconsultant.comInstagram: @pottytrainingconsultant
I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.
Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.
Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/call
START HERE:
CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS
Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident
Failing Motherhood - 114. Your Parenting "Report Card": How to Know if You're *Actually* Failing or Not
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Danielle Bettmann 0:04
Ever feel like you suck at this job? Motherhood I mean, have too much anxiety. And not enough patience. Too much yelling, not enough play. There's no manual, no village, no guarantees. The stakes are high. We want so badly to get it right. But this is survival mode. We're just trying to make it to bedtime. So if you're full of mom guilt, your temper scares you. You feel like you're screwing everything up, and you're afraid to admit any of those things out loud. This
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