132. How to Be the CALM to Your Strong-Willed Child's Storm: Moving Beyond Theories to Application with Omaya + Andrew

11/28/23 • 67 min

Parents to a 4-year-old strong-willed son and an almost 2 year-old daughter, Omaya + Andrew are here to share the biggest mindset shifts they internalized that made it possible for them to go from constantly splitting up their family to avoid setting off their strong-willed child to watching their sibling relationship thrive and taking both kids hiking as a solo parent!
They reflected on what they've done well to parent together as true partners, processing the information in real time and tagging each other out in the moment.
But most importantly, they hope by hearing their story you'll not only feel incredibly validated, but realize how possible it is to make sense of all the theories when you have individualized insight.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The problem with spending your energy trying to rationalize with someone who’s behavior is by definition, irrational
What it really means to respond to the emotion, not the action
How empowering it is to move from avoidance to acceptance of your child's BIG emotions

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What to do with your fears that your child is the *worst* child of all the kids you know

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The problem with spending your energy trying to rationalize with someone who’s behavior is by definition, irrational
What it really means to respond to the emotion, not the action
How empowering it is to move from avoidance to acceptance of your child's BIG emotions

DON'T MISS:

What to do with your fears that your child is the *worst* child of all the kids you know

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IG: @parent_wholeheartedly
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131. Best GIFTS for Strong-Willed Kids (unconventional, practical and long-lasting ideas that are still fun to open!)

No matter the occasion, when buying a gift for the kid(s) in your life, you want to WOW them without breaking the bank or seeing your investments lying in the "toy graveyard" 2 months from now, taking up space or making a mess, never to be played with again.
I GOT YOU!
I've compiled a huge list of mostly unconventional items your strong-willed child will lose their mind for, and continue playing with for months or years to come! They're not super expensive, they're not super messy, they're not annoying, and they still retain the "fun to watch them open" factor!
The overall GOAL for gifts for strong-willed kids is that the gifts create a feeling of being BIG/grown up, getting to be the boss, feeling important or in control through play.

Remember, if we don't proactively give them outlets to get this very real need met, we leave it up to them and they'll find a way, it just won't be mutually beneficial.
// CLICK HERE TO VIEW THE BLOG POST //https://www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/blog/best-toys-for-strong-willed-kids
IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

My "5 Rules to Live By" when buying toys
Oodles of practical gifts you haven't thought of, like over 100+
Ideas that give strong-willed kids a huge sense of power + control!

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The 3 gifts that take the cake!

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133. [REPLAY] Boundaries with Parents with Jamie Cooper

Originally aired: October 13, 2020 (Ep. 26)
"You want your parents to be involved in your child's life, but at what cost?"
Both of Jamie's parents are alcoholics and are still in a gut-wrenching divorce that's been going on for years. She has been working daily to break the chain of trauma, and what once crippled her has made her so much stronger.
"It was a scary thing to realize that this is no longer something that only affects me. This affects my kids. I have to ensure my kids are safe."
Disappointment. Lies. Heartbreak. Guilt. Grief.
If you've ever been stuck trying to navigate boundaries with your extended family, this episode is for you. Get ready to take notes from Jamie's example.

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Failing Motherhood - 132. How to Be the CALM to Your Strong-Willed Child's Storm: Moving Beyond Theories to Application with Omaya + Andrew

Transcript

Omaya 0:00
It's hard to empathize with him all the time. But when I am successful in doing it; when I give him that hug before saying, "I can't believe you threw that", like, he melts into my body, I can see the tension in his body, like, melt away for a moment. And I know that I have touched the need that he needed in that moment. I didn't know how to do that before we saw this information. I knew in theory, but I didn't know how to do that.
Danielle Bettmann 0:29
Ever feel like yo