BONUS: Responding to an Impossible Co-Parent
12/11/22 • 24 min
In this replay from season 1, Diane & Rick get real about dealing with a narcissistic co-parent. Phrases like crazy-making, gas-lighting. twisting words, and avoiding responsibility, are just a few of the many complaints made by the co-parent who is frustrated with a narcissistic co-parent. Diane and Rick address Paul from Phoenix who wants help with his. Although changing someone with personality flaws of any type is nearly impossible, using protective boundaries in communication can minimize conflict and add years to your life!
Here is a list of suggested responses to a narcissitic co-parent, including some of the ones we discussed on this episode:
1. “Your attempt to portray me in a negative light is noted.”
2. “I look forward to getting to a place in our co-parenting relationship where we can negotiate things. For the time being, I intend to follow the order
3. “This has nothing to do with the matter at hand,” (repeat question they're trying to distract you from).
4. “I know that is your perception, but it doesn’t make it reality.”
5. “I do not feel these misrepresentations warrant a response and I see no purpose to this email other than to increase conflict. As such, I am noting my objection and your attempts to portray me in a negative light.“
6. “I do not agree with your portrayal of the event in question.”
7. “Your recollection of events differs greatly from mine.”
8. “Your attempt to elicit a negative response from me has been noted.”
9. “I will keep you abreast of anything that affects our child as it comes up. Thanks for your concern.”
10. “Thanks for letting me know your thoughts, I’ll consider them.”
11. “I’m sorry you see it that way. Our different perceptions is one of the reasons we divorced.”
12. “I will continue to comply with the court ordered parenting plan as I believe consistency is in the best interest of our child."
13. In response to threats, “If that is what you feel you must do, I understand.”
14. “W
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CO-PARENT RESOURCES:
- Subscribe to Diane’s DAILY DEVOTIONAL FOR FRUSTRATED CO-PARENTS and get a 7-day FREE trial OR give it as a gift
- If you want to learn more about Diane & Rick’s D.R.A.G.O.N. method for finding co-parenting peace, purchase their book, I AM NON-IMPOSSIBLE
- THE CO-PARENT TOOLBOX , is Diane Dierks’ guide for co-parents
- CLICK HERE for FREE communication resources for co-parents
- For valuable co-parent workshop videos and products, visit our Non-Impossible STORE!
- To get a special discount on therapy visit BetterHelp
FOR DIVORCE PROFESSIONAL...
In this replay from season 1, Diane & Rick get real about dealing with a narcissistic co-parent. Phrases like crazy-making, gas-lighting. twisting words, and avoiding responsibility, are just a few of the many complaints made by the co-parent who is frustrated with a narcissistic co-parent. Diane and Rick address Paul from Phoenix who wants help with his. Although changing someone with personality flaws of any type is nearly impossible, using protective boundaries in communication can minimize conflict and add years to your life!
Here is a list of suggested responses to a narcissitic co-parent, including some of the ones we discussed on this episode:
1. “Your attempt to portray me in a negative light is noted.”
2. “I look forward to getting to a place in our co-parenting relationship where we can negotiate things. For the time being, I intend to follow the order
3. “This has nothing to do with the matter at hand,” (repeat question they're trying to distract you from).
4. “I know that is your perception, but it doesn’t make it reality.”
5. “I do not feel these misrepresentations warrant a response and I see no purpose to this email other than to increase conflict. As such, I am noting my objection and your attempts to portray me in a negative light.“
6. “I do not agree with your portrayal of the event in question.”
7. “Your recollection of events differs greatly from mine.”
8. “Your attempt to elicit a negative response from me has been noted.”
9. “I will keep you abreast of anything that affects our child as it comes up. Thanks for your concern.”
10. “Thanks for letting me know your thoughts, I’ll consider them.”
11. “I’m sorry you see it that way. Our different perceptions is one of the reasons we divorced.”
12. “I will continue to comply with the court ordered parenting plan as I believe consistency is in the best interest of our child."
13. In response to threats, “If that is what you feel you must do, I understand.”
14. “W
>>>>CONTACT US >>>>RATE THE SHOW >>>>VISIT OUR WEBSITE
CO-PARENT RESOURCES:
- Subscribe to Diane’s DAILY DEVOTIONAL FOR FRUSTRATED CO-PARENTS and get a 7-day FREE trial OR give it as a gift
- If you want to learn more about Diane & Rick’s D.R.A.G.O.N. method for finding co-parenting peace, purchase their book, I AM NON-IMPOSSIBLE
- THE CO-PARENT TOOLBOX , is Diane Dierks’ guide for co-parents
- CLICK HERE for FREE communication resources for co-parents
- For valuable co-parent workshop videos and products, visit our Non-Impossible STORE!
- To get a special discount on therapy visit BetterHelp
FOR DIVORCE PROFESSIONAL...
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CO-PARENT RESOURCES:
- Subscribe to Diane’s DAILY DEVOTIONAL FOR FRUSTRATED CO-PARENTS and get a 7-day FREE trial OR give it as a gift
- If you want to learn more about Diane & Rick’s D.R.A.G.O.N. method for finding co-parenting peace, purchase their book, I AM NON-IMPOSSIBLE
- THE CO-PARENT TOOLBOX , is Diane Dierks’ guide for co-parents
- CLICK HERE for FREE communication resources for co-parents
- For valuable co-parent workshop videos and products, visit our Non-Impossible STORE!
- To get a special discount on therapy visit BetterHelp
FOR DIVORCE PROFESSIONAL...
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In this replay of episode S1:E65, Diane and Rick discuss an email from Thomas in Ontario, who shares his dilemma about attending his toddler’s doctors appointments, while having to endure his co-parent’s drama or failure to inform him. Diane and Rick use the process outlined in their new journal (DRAGON) to unpack this complicated conflict and teach Thomas how to think differently about it.
God, doubt, and proof walk into a podcast... it goes better than you’d expect!
Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify
>>>>CONTACT US >>>>RATE THE SHOW >>>>VISIT OUR WEBSITE
CO-PARENT RESOURCES:
- Subscribe to Diane’s DAILY DEVOTIONAL FOR FRUSTRATED CO-PARENTS and get a 7-day FREE trial OR give it as a gift
- If you want to learn more about Diane & Rick’s D.R.A.G.O.N. method for finding co-parenting peace, purchase their book, I AM NON-IMPOSSIBLE
- THE CO-PARENT TOOLBOX , is Diane Dierks’ guide for co-parents
- CLICK HERE for FREE communication resources for co-parents
- For valuable co-parent workshop videos and products, visit our Non-Impossible STORE!
- To get a special discount on therapy visit BetterHelp
FOR DIVORCE PROFESSIONAL...
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