Co-Parent Dilemmas

Diane Dierks & Rick Voyles

There are at least two sides to every conflict, and when it's between divorced or separated parents, sparks can fly. In each episode, co-parenting experts Diane Dierks and Rick Voyles answer listener questions and talk about the benefits and risks of letting go vs. holding on to the conflict in a variety of complex topics facing co-parents today. Do you hold on for the sake of the children or let go for the same reason? Episodes are released every Sunday at noon. Listeners can email [email protected] and pose a question/dilemma that may be answered on an upcoming episode. What do you do when the other parent won't be flexible with the parenting schedule? How do you respond to a co-parent who is constantly blowing up your phone with texts? Is it really important to talk to your children when they are at the other parent's house? And what about the parent who won't share important information with you about the children? Do you give in to the other parent's antics or should you hold your ground? Get answers to these questions and more on Co-Parent Dilemmas, wherever you get your podcasts.

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Goodpods has curated a list of the 10 best Co-Parent Dilemmas episodes, ranked by the number of listens and likes each episode have garnered from our listeners. If you are listening to Co-Parent Dilemmas for the first time, there's no better place to start than with one of these standout episodes. If you are a fan of the show, vote for your favorite Co-Parent Dilemmas episode by adding your comments to the episode page.

S1.E56. Daddy's Little Secret

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08/14/22 • 31 min

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One of the most difficult situations co-parents have to deal with is when there are secrets kept between them. Secrets are usually pretty important topics and should probably be disclosed to the other co-parent, and if the children are involved in this secret, it creates a whole new layer of issues. Children can’t understand why secrets are kept, or why they’re being told to keep them. It puts them in the middle of the entire secret, and naturally they internalize the blame, which can be detrimental to their emotional development. So what do you do if your child comes home with a secret from your co-parent?

Topics discussed in this episode:

What to do when your ex asks your child to keep a secret
Why you should take the world “why” out of your vocabulary when co-parenting
The effects on the child when keeping a secret from your co-parent
How your reaction to finding out a secret can affect children
Importance of asking how the child feels about the situation
How to take the children out of the middle of the secret keeping
Benefits of giving the benefit of the doubt

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S5.E17. Reunited after Alienation: Non-traditional Parenting is Key

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12/29/24 • 49 min

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Listener Ben has been awarded custody of his daughter after the court determined her mother was alienating her from dad. He asks how to best parent his daughter after the trauma of alienation. Diane & Rick break it down and provide helpful, non-traditional advice to help him climb this daunting mountain.
WHAT’S HAPPENING LINKS:
This week’s GOOD NEWS story
Diane’s new DAILY DEVOTIONAL FOR FRUSTRATED CO-PARENTS is releasing in January, 2025. To get 15% off, subscribe by Dec. 31st - CLICK HERE!

Attend the weekly Hump Day Wednesdays via Zoom for only $10/month (exclusively for Patreon VIPs). This is a great way to get your questions answered personally by Diane or Rick! Purchase a one-year Patreon VIP subscription and receive the I Am Non-Impossible journal.
If you’d like to be part of our Pediatrician/Co-Parent brainstorming session on Zoom, email Diane
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S5.E15. Who is Served by the Right of First Refusal?

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12/15/24 • 34 min

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Diane & Rick respond to recent social media posts about first right of refusal, a clause in some parenting plans that requires co-parents to give the other parent the option of being with the children when they are unable to fulfill their court-ordered parenting time. They explore the reasons behind this concept and question whether or not it is a good practice in high-conflict situations.
WHAT’S HAPPENING LINKS:
This week’s GOOD NEWS story
Diane’s new DAILY DEVOTIONAL FOR FRUSTRATED CO-PARENTS is releasing in January, 2025. To get 15% off, subscribe by Dec. 31st - CLICK HERE!

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S1.E54. When Do You Tell Your Date about Your Crazy Co-parent?

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07/31/22 • 28 min

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Aaron asks an interesting email question about when it is best to reveal to a new dating partner that you have a very difficult co-parent. Diane & Rick not only address Aaron’s concerns, but talk about dating with children in general. Good co-parenting boundaries and protecting children from unnecessary loss are also explored.
SOBERLINK is an ongoing sponsor of Co-Parent Dilemmas. If you are concerned about substance abuse issues with your co-parent, Soberlink can help. Follow this LINK to get a $50 discount on Soberlink products.
To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit www.BetterHelp.com/Dilemma
Become a CPDilemmas VIP patron and support our work with co-parents. Visit our Patreon page to get special listener perks like VIP access to our monthly live Q&A sessions!
Shop for cool NON-Impossible merchandise and purchase something fun! Producing a podcast takes hours of work, so support from our listeners makes us able to keep providing valuable content.
CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics!Do you have a co-parent dilemma? Call our voicemail number at 1-234-DILEMMA (1-234-345-3662) or email [email protected]
Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook group

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S1.E44. Teen Heartbreak: An estranged father’s dilemma

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05/22/22 • 33 min

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Andy writes in about his alienated 16-year-old daughter and the hurt and pain of not having a relationship with her. He wonders if she is becoming a narcissist like her mom and if it would simply be better to give up on her. Diane & Rick discuss this very painful and difficult situation, offering advice about how to keep the door open without having to experience the constant rejection.
SOBERLINK is an ongoing sponsor of Co-Parent Dilemmas. If you are concerned about substance abuse issues with your co-parent, Soberlink can help. Follow this LINK to get a $50 discount on Soberlink products.
Become a CPDilemmas VIP patron and support our work with co-parents. Visit our Patreon page to get special listener perks like VIP access to our monthly live Q&A sessions!
Shop for cool NON-Impossible merchandise and purchase something fun! Producing a podcast takes hours of work, so support from our listeners makes us able to keep providing valuable content.
CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics!Do you have a co-parent dilemma? Call our voicemail number at 1-234-DILEMMA (1-234-345-3662) or email [email protected]
Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook group To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit www.BetterHelp.com/Dilemma

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S1.E40. Don’t Make Me Go There! Remarriage and visitation resistance

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04/24/22 • 34 min

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William emails to ask what to do when his 12-year-old consistently complains about having to go to mom’s house. Diane & Rick speculate on the many possibilities for the resistance, including the mother’s recent remarriage. They help the listener with skills to discern the truth and respond appropriately.
SOBERLINK is an ongoing sponsor of Co-Parent Dilemmas. If you are concerned about substance abuse issues with your co-parent, Soberlink can help. Follow this LINK to get a $50 discount on Soberlink products.
Become a CPDilemmas VIP patron and support our work with co-parents. Visit our Patreon page to get special listener perks like VIP access to our monthly live Q&A sessions!
CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics!Do you have a co-parent dilemma? Call our voicemail number at 1-234-DILEMMA (1-234-345-3662) or email [email protected]
Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook group To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit www.BetterHelp.com/Dilemma

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S1.E36. The Two Faces of My Child

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03/24/22 • 31 min

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A second voicemail from Lydia illuminates a common issue -- a child who acts one way at home, but quite differently on a phone call while at the other parent's home. What is really going on here? Diane and Rick discuss the phenomenon of the Chameleon Effect in children of divorce.

Read more about the chameleon effect on children in the book, Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce by Elizabeth Marquardt
More resources about child development and divorce:
—DEVELOPMENTAL NEEDS OF CHILDREN OF DIVORCE—AGES AND STAGES: HOW TO MONITOR CHILD DEVELOPMENT—CHILD DEVELOPMENT: MILESTONES AND PARENTING TIPSSOBERLINK is an ongoing sponsor of Co-Parent Dilemmas. If you are concerned about substance abuse issues with your co-parent, Soberlink can help. Follow this LINK to get a $50 discount on Soberlink products.
Become a CPDilemmas VIP patron and support our work with co-parents. Visit our Patreon page to get special listener perks like VIP access to our monthly live Q&A sessions!
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S3.E13. Playing Nice with Your Co-Parent after an Affair: Not!

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04/02/23 • 48 min

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Diane & Rick welcome podcaster Karen McMahon on this episode to discuss Lauren’s email about co-parenting with her cheating ex. What is the expectation when you have been betrayed? How do you help your children who also may feel angry about it? Also discussed is the difference between a therapist and a coach. The three hosts discuss how to find good professionals in the midst of betrayal.
To listen to Karen’s podcast, go to www.journeybeyonddivorce.com. She also facilitates a high-conflict divorce support group. For more info, go to https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsgTo learn about the International Coaching Federation mentioned on this episode, go to https://coachingfederation.org/
Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook groupBECOME a Patreon VIP and get special discounts on upcoming workshops and merchandise. www.Patreon.com/CPDilemmasDON’T FORGET!
The print-version of theI Am Non-Impossible journal is NOW AVAILABLE on Amazon for a limited-time price of only $9.95 (Kindle version is $2.99). This is a great holiday gift for those in your life who are seeking co-parenting peace. ORDER YOURS NOW!

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S3.E16. How Did I End Up with a Control Freak?

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04/23/23 • 42 min

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Diane & Rick explore the characteristics of “good” people who fall prey to coercively controlling partners. They discuss the need to emotionally manage the reaction of their partners, to be a good co-parent, and to be fully understood as the traps that are exploited by a narcissistic ex. They also role play a toxic interchange to explore how to shut down an unwanted conversation.
Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook groupBECOME a Patreon VIP and get special discounts on upcoming workshops and merchandise. www.Patreon.com/CPDilemmasDON’T FORGET!
The print-version of theI Am Non-Impossible journal is NOW AVAILABLE on Amazon for a limited-time price of only $9.95 (Kindle version is $2.99). This is a great holiday gift for those in your life who are seeking co-parenting peace. ORDER YOURS NOW!

CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics!
Have a co-parent dilemma? Email [email protected] or access us on our NON-Impossibles Facebook group.
Our podcast exists because of the support of listeners like you. Here are ways you can offer your continued support:

SOBERLINK is an ongoing sponsor of Co-Parent Dilemmas. If you are concerned about substance abuse issues with your co-parent, Soberlink can help. Follow this LINK to get a $50 discount on Soberlink produ

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S4.E33. Should I Send the Kids to a Toxic Household?

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04/07/24 • 41 min

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Diane & Rick respond to a listener’s question about withholding parenting time due to a history of domestic violence and continued toxicity in their other home. What are the steps to determine safety issues? How do parents balance protecting children with the risk of being accused of parental alienation? The co-hosts break it down.
WE HAVE A NEW RESOURCES PAGE ON THE WEBSITE! Visit www.CPDilemmas.com/resources to view the email protocol, 20 Responses to Difficult Co-Parents, and other documents discussed on the podcast.
We are excited to announce a new benefit for listeners who become Patreon VIPs (for only $10/month)! Diane will be hosting support groups online every Wednesday at noon (EST) for an hour. You can come to one or come to all.
Each week of the month will focus on a different subject:
1st Wednesday of each month: Staying Grounded in the Midst of Parental Alienation2nd Wednesday of each month: Dealing with the Trauma of False Accusations3rd Wednesdays: Surviving the Narcissistic Co-Parent4th Wednesdays: Confronting Post-Separation Control and Abuse
CLICK HERE to become a Non-Impossible VIP, and the Zoom link will be sent to you each week.

If you have a problematic paragraph in your parenting plan that you would like the hosts to review, email it to [email protected].
To get a copy of the communication protocol order, CLICK HERE.The digital version of our Communication Protocol Workshop is available for purchase. Click here to

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FAQ

How many episodes does Co-Parent Dilemmas have?

Co-Parent Dilemmas currently has 187 episodes available.

What topics does Co-Parent Dilemmas cover?

The podcast is about Parenting, Kids & Family, Divorce, Narcissist, Conflict, Podcasts, Self-Improvement and Education.

What is the most popular episode on Co-Parent Dilemmas?

The episode title 'S2.E6. Case from Hell: Sarah speaks out and a listener discussion' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on Co-Parent Dilemmas?

The average episode length on Co-Parent Dilemmas is 36 minutes.

How often are episodes of Co-Parent Dilemmas released?

Episodes of Co-Parent Dilemmas are typically released every 7 days.

When was the first episode of Co-Parent Dilemmas?

The first episode of Co-Parent Dilemmas was released on Jul 16, 2021.

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Co-Parent Dilemmas

Diane Dierks & Rick Voyles

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