Co-Parent Dilemmas

Diane and Rick host a special 6-part-series for Season 2 of the podcast, showcasing a real-life and extremely difficult custody case. In this episode, they present the timeline that spans 7 years of court documents, police reports, child protective services involvement, and numerous professionals who sadly do not help the children, as they are literally growing up under the cloud of the court. This episode is the case overview. The following four episodes will feature a different professional each week who analyzes and comments on what went wrong. Want your friends to listen? Send them to www.CPDilemmas.com/hell
To view the Case from Hell timeline details and notes, follow this LINK.
We’ve created a special Facebook DISCUSSION GROUP to talk about this case since there will be SO much to unpack and analyze! Co-parents AND professionals are welcome.
Join Diane & Rick LIVE on Monday, November 14th at 6:30 to talk about this case via Zoom. All you have to do is become a Patreon VIP to gain free access.

For more info, in-depth information about our show, and a cool merchandise store for co-parents, visit our web site at https://www.CPDilemmas.com/store/
DON'T FORGET!
The print-version of theI Am Non-Impossible journal is NOW AVAILABLE on Amazon for a limited-time price of only $9.95 (Kindle version is $2.99). This is a great holiday gift for those in your life who are seeking co-parenting peace. ORDER YOURS NOW!CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics!
Have a co-parent dilemma? Email [email protected] or access us on our NON-Impossibles Facebook group.
Our podcast exists because of the support of listeners like you. Here are ways you can offer your continued support:

• SOBERLINK is an ongoing sponsor of Co-Parent Dilemmas. If you are concerned about substance abuse issues with your co-parent, Soberlink can help. Follow this LINK to get a $50 discount on Soberlink products.
• To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit www.BetterHelp.com/Dilemma
• Shop for cool NON-Impossible merchandise and purchase something fun! Producing a podcast takes hours of work, so support from our listeners makes us able to keep providing valuable content.
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Diane and Rick respond to a listener review that takes issue with the idea of giving difficult parents the benefit of the doubt. She wonders if that is encouraging further emotional abuse. They respond by explaining the difference between feeling a co-parent deserves the benefit and using it as simply a communication strategy for the child’s sake.
For more info and in-depth information about our show, visit our web site at https://www.CPDilemmas.comTo access the GAL article discussed on the show, CLICK HERE.
Want to know more about the DRAGON process? Order I AM Non-Impossible journal for a limited-time price of only $9.99 by going to this LINK ($2.99 for the Kindle version). The print version will be available on November 1st to everyone at a special limited-time price AND at a 25% off discounted price to all Patreon VIPs! Keep listening for more ordering info!
Become a CPDilemmas VIP patron and support our work with co-parents. Visit our Patreon page to get special listener perks like VIP access to our monthly live Q&A sessions and discounted merchandise!
Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook group

CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics!
Have a co-parent dilemma? Email [email protected]Our podcast exists because of the support of listeners like you. Here are ways you can offer your continued support:

• SOBERLINK is an ongoing sponsor of Co-Parent Dilemmas. If you are concerned about substance abuse issues with your co-parent, Soberlink can help. Follow this LINK to get a $50 discount on Soberlink products.
• To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit www.BetterHelp.com/Dilemma
• Shop for cool NON-Impossible merchandise and purchase something fun! Producing a podcast takes hours of work, so support from our listeners makes us able to keep providing valuable content.
• Think you might want to start a podcast? Buzzsprout is the best host for all your podcasting needs.

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Thomas from Ontario shares his dilemma about attending his toddler’s doctors appointments, while having to endure his co-parent’s drama or failure to inform him. Diane and Rick use the process outlined in their new journal (DRAGON) to unpack this complicated conflict and teach Thomas how to think differently about it.
For more info and in-depth information about our show, visit our web site at https://www.CPDilemmas.com
Want to know more about the DRAGON process? Order the Kindle version of the I AM Non-Impossible journal for a limited-time price of only $2.99 by going to this LINK. The print version will be available on November 1st to everyone at a special limited-time price AND at a 25% off discounted price to all Patreon VIPs! Keep listening for more ordering info!
Become a CPDilemmas VIP patron and support our work with co-parents. Visit our Patreon page to get special listener perks like VIP access to our monthly live Q&A sessions and discounted merchandise!
Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook group

CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics!
Have a co-parent dilemma? Email [email protected]Our podcast exists because of the support of listeners like you. Here are ways you can offer your continued support:

• SOBERLINK is an ongoing sponsor of Co-Parent Dilemmas. If you are concerned about substance abuse issues with your co-parent, Soberlink can help. Follow this LINK to get a $50 discount on Soberlink products.
• To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit www.BetterHelp.com/Dilemma
• Shop for cool NON-Impossible merchandise and purchase something fun! Producing a podcast takes hours of work, so support from our listeners makes us able to keep providing valuable content.
• Think you might want to start a podcast? Buzzsprout is the best host for all your podcasting needs.

Ad music credit: Blackcrystal by Audiorezout is licensed under a Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License

Tamika from Alabama wonders why her co-parent persists in finding the bad in her, especially since she is trying so hard to be a good co-parent. Diane & Rick break it down and discuss how grieving parents or high conflict people use cognitive distortions as a strategy to get sympathy or attention. They also talk about the I Am Non-Impossible journal and an exciting series of episodes coming in November, called the Case from Hell.
For a list of Cognitive Distortions discussed in this episode, see this LINK.
For more information about our show, visit our web site at https://www.CPDilemmas.com
To PRE-ORDER the Kindle version of the I AM Non-Impossible journal for a limited-time price of only $2.99, go to this LINK. It will be delivered as an eBook on October 15th to those who pre-ordered. The print version will be available on November 1st to everyone at a special limited-time price AND at a 25% off discounted price to all Patreon VIPs!
Become a CPDilemmas VIP patron and support our work with co-parents. Visit our Patreon page to get special listener perks like VIP access to our monthly live Q&A sessions and discounted merchandise!

Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the private NON-Impossibles Facebook group

CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics!
Have a co-parent dilemma? Email [email protected]Our podcast exists because of the support of listeners like you. Here are ways you can offer your continued support:

• SOBERLINK is an ongoing sponsor of Co-Parent Dilemmas. If you are concerned about substance abuse issues with your co-parent, Soberlink can help. Follow this LINK to get a $50 discount on Soberlink products.
• To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit www.BetterHelp.com/Dilemma
• Shop for cool NON-Impossible merchandise and purchase something fun! Producing a podcast takes hours of work, so support from our listeners makes us able to keep providing valuable content.

Ad music credit: Blackcrystal by Audiorezout is licensed under a Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License

In this replay from season 1, Diane & Rick get real about dealing with a narcissistic co-parent. Phrases like crazy-making, gas-lighting. twisting words, and avoiding responsibility, are just a few of the many complaints made by the co-parent who is frustrated with a narcissistic co-parent. Diane and Rick address Paul from Phoenix who wants help with his. Although changing someone with personality flaws of any type is nearly impossible, using protective boundaries in communication can minimize conflict and add years to your life!
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Here is a list of suggested responses to a narcissitic co-parent, including some of the ones we discussed on this episode:
1. “Your attempt to portray me in a negative light is noted.”

2. “I look forward to getting to a place in our co-parenting relationship where we can negotiate things. For the time being, I intend to follow the order

3. “This has nothing to do with the matter at hand,” (repeat question they're trying to distract you from).

4. “I know that is your perception, but it doesn’t make it reality.”

5. “I do not feel these misrepresentations warrant a response and I see no purpose to this email other than to increase conflict. As such, I am noting my objection and your attempts to portray me in a negative light.“

6. “I do not agree with your portrayal of the event in question.”

7. “Your recollection of events differs greatly from mine.”

8. “Your attempt to elicit a negative response from me has been noted.”

9. “I will keep you abreast of anything that affects our child as it comes up. Thanks for your concern.”

10. “Thanks for letting me know your thoughts, I’ll consider them.”

11. “I’m sorry you see it that way. Our different perceptions is one of the reasons we divorced.”

12. “I will continue to comply with the court ordered parenting plan as I believe consistency is in the best interest of our child."

13. In response to threats, “If that is what you feel you must do, I understand.”

14. “We have reached an impasse of opinion.”

15. “I am not willing to do that, but thanks for asking.”

16. “You may access that information at your convenience by signing up for the school’s online portal.”

17. “Interesting.”

18. “If I don’t hear back from you by May 1st, I will assume we are in agreement on this matter.”

19. “Please provide a copy of the ________________ that you reference.”

20. “Your allegations are untrue, but I do not wish to engage in an argument.”

CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics!Do you have a co-parent dilemma? Email [email protected]
Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook group