
The Good Mom Myth, The Anxiety Trap, and Why You Feel Like You’re Failing with Olivia Scobie author of Impossible Parenting (1 of 3)
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11/12/23 • 16 min
Ever feel like you’re flunking motherhood? Like no matter how much you love your kids, you just can’t seem to live up to the impossible standards of being a “good” mom? You’re not alone—and you’re definitely not failing.
In this episode, I sit down with Olivia Scobie, author of Impossible Parenting, to talk about the toxic myths of modern motherhood, why some parenting phases feel harder than others (hello, Potato Phase), and why moms are allowed to dislike the newborn stage just as much as the teenage years (even if society says otherwise).
🌿 We’re breaking down:
✔️ Why motherhood feels like a rigged game
✔️ The Good Mom Myth and why it fuels anxiety
✔️ How to separate parenting work from the parent-child relationship
✔️ Why not loving every stage doesn’t make you a bad mom
✔️ How to outsource, set boundaries, and stop the shame spiral
💡 You’re not failing. You’re just in a clunky spot. And that’s okay.
🔥 Let’s keep the conversation going! 🔥
💌 Join The Motherload newsletter → https://www.kaylahuszar.com/blog/impossible-parenting-1
📲 Follow me on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/kayla.huszar/
📖 Grab Olivia’s book, Impossible Parenting → https://amzn.to/43hC6Hp
💛 If this episode hit home, don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE with a fellow mom who needs to hear this. You’re doing better than you think. ❤️
Mentionable's
Olivia (MSW, RSW, MA) is an Ontario-based queer social work counselor specializing in perinatal mood, reproductive trauma, parental mental health, and provider burnout. With a commitment to continuous learning, she is currently pursuing a PhD in Health Policy and Equity, focusing on the reproductive trauma experiences of LGBT+ birthers. Olivia is the co-founder of Canadian Perinatal Mental Health Trainings and the founder of Postpartum Support Toronto (now Perinatal Wellbeing Ontario). Her belief in eating dessert every day, telling your story, and barrier-free access to healing services shapes her approach to supporting parents.
Additionally, you can find more resources and information on perinatal mental health on the Canadian Perinatal Mental Health Trainings website, as well as on their Instagram page (@perinatalmentalhealthtrainings) and Facebook page (Canadian Perinatal Mental Health Training).
Meet Kayla Huszar, the Host of the Chill Like a Mother Podcast
Kayla Huszar is a Registered Social Worker and Expressive Arts Therapist who helps mothers reconnect with their authentic selves through embodied art-making. She encourages moms to embrace the messy, beautiful realities of their unique motherhood journeys. Whether through the podcast, 1:1 sessions or her signature Motherload Membership, Kayla creates a brave space for mothers to explore their identities beyond parenting, reconnect with their intuition, and find creative outlets for emotional expression and self-discovery.
Thank you for letting me be a part of your day—kids running amok and all! If this episode helped you feel a little more chill, please leave a rating or review. Your feedback helps the podcast reach more moms who need to hear it.
Ever feel like you’re flunking motherhood? Like no matter how much you love your kids, you just can’t seem to live up to the impossible standards of being a “good” mom? You’re not alone—and you’re definitely not failing.
In this episode, I sit down with Olivia Scobie, author of Impossible Parenting, to talk about the toxic myths of modern motherhood, why some parenting phases feel harder than others (hello, Potato Phase), and why moms are allowed to dislike the newborn stage just as much as the teenage years (even if society says otherwise).
🌿 We’re breaking down:
✔️ Why motherhood feels like a rigged game
✔️ The Good Mom Myth and why it fuels anxiety
✔️ How to separate parenting work from the parent-child relationship
✔️ Why not loving every stage doesn’t make you a bad mom
✔️ How to outsource, set boundaries, and stop the shame spiral
💡 You’re not failing. You’re just in a clunky spot. And that’s okay.
🔥 Let’s keep the conversation going! 🔥
💌 Join The Motherload newsletter → https://www.kaylahuszar.com/blog/impossible-parenting-1
📲 Follow me on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/kayla.huszar/
📖 Grab Olivia’s book, Impossible Parenting → https://amzn.to/43hC6Hp
💛 If this episode hit home, don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE with a fellow mom who needs to hear this. You’re doing better than you think. ❤️
Mentionable's
Olivia (MSW, RSW, MA) is an Ontario-based queer social work counselor specializing in perinatal mood, reproductive trauma, parental mental health, and provider burnout. With a commitment to continuous learning, she is currently pursuing a PhD in Health Policy and Equity, focusing on the reproductive trauma experiences of LGBT+ birthers. Olivia is the co-founder of Canadian Perinatal Mental Health Trainings and the founder of Postpartum Support Toronto (now Perinatal Wellbeing Ontario). Her belief in eating dessert every day, telling your story, and barrier-free access to healing services shapes her approach to supporting parents.
Additionally, you can find more resources and information on perinatal mental health on the Canadian Perinatal Mental Health Trainings website, as well as on their Instagram page (@perinatalmentalhealthtrainings) and Facebook page (Canadian Perinatal Mental Health Training).
Meet Kayla Huszar, the Host of the Chill Like a Mother Podcast
Kayla Huszar is a Registered Social Worker and Expressive Arts Therapist who helps mothers reconnect with their authentic selves through embodied art-making. She encourages moms to embrace the messy, beautiful realities of their unique motherhood journeys. Whether through the podcast, 1:1 sessions or her signature Motherload Membership, Kayla creates a brave space for mothers to explore their identities beyond parenting, reconnect with their intuition, and find creative outlets for emotional expression and self-discovery.
Thank you for letting me be a part of your day—kids running amok and all! If this episode helped you feel a little more chill, please leave a rating or review. Your feedback helps the podcast reach more moms who need to hear it.
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Moms! STOP Foreboding Joy: How I Invite Fear/Grief In For Tea
Has joy become a total stranger in your life? Are you letting fear steal your happiness?
This episode turns towards fear and joy; when you can't feel joy because of fear, it's called "magical thinking." It stops us from fully embracing positive emotions.
Listen to a heartwarming story about a soon-to-be dad so overwhelmed by fear that he couldn't feel any joy during his partner's pregnancy. Kayla also opens up about her own dance with fear and grief. She teaches us how to have a cozy tea party with it (face it and navigate through all the different emotions).
On top of that, we've got some super practical techniques to share with you, like mindfulness, journaling, and connecting with others. It's like diving headfirst into a wild emotional roller coaster that combines fear and joy.
And don't forget, fear is just a normal part of life. You'll unlock a new level of joy and happiness by facing it head-on.
Ah Ha Moments:
- How magical thinking can cause fear of feeling joy
- Strategies to challenge fear-based beliefs
- Even when it's uncomfortable, you must stay with the feeling (and invite it for tea)
- You can start overcoming the fear of joy and experiencing all of the emotions being human has to offer.
Meet Kayla Huszar, the Host of the Chill Like a Mother Podcast
Kayla Huszar is a Registered Social Worker and Expressive Arts Therapist who helps mothers reconnect with their authentic selves through embodied art-making. She encourages moms to embrace the messy, beautiful realities of their unique motherhood journeys. Whether through the podcast, 1:1 sessions or her signature Motherload Membership, Kayla creates a brave space for mothers to explore their identities beyond parenting, reconnect with their intuition, and find creative outlets for emotional expression and self-discovery.
Thank you for letting me be a part of your day—kids running amok and all! If this episode helped you feel a little more chill, please leave a rating or review. Your feedback helps the podcast reach more moms who need to hear it.
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Intrusive Thoughts, Mom Math and Postpartum Mental Health with Olivia Scobie author of Impossible Parenting (2 of 3)
Are you a parent struggling with those pesky intrusive thoughts, making your fears and doubts even louder? Our super cool guest, Olivia, the author of Impossible Parenting, dives into this complex issue, sharing some awesome insights on how to handle these sneaky mental health struggles.
We share our own experiences and also the fear and shame that these thoughts can bring. We explore the importance of challenging these thoughts and maybe even considering therapy, providing a really thoughtful perspective on managing mental health as a parent.
Ah ha postpartum mental health moments:
- Shedding light on all the crazy challenges of becoming a mom
- The many many risk factors for pregnant people developing a perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs)
- How PMADs mess with your thoughts and emotions
- Creating a positive parenting identity
- Reflecting on how societal messages mess with our perception of being a "good parent"
And just when you think you've heard it all, we've got a little preview for you of an upcoming episode about yelling at kids. It's a topic that's actually pretty common, even though not many people like to talk about it. We'll be diving into the guilt that comes with losing your temper and how having unrealistic expectations can make that guilt feel even worse.
So come along with us on this enlightening journey as we try to keep our cool and take care of our mental health while navigating the ups and downs of parenting.
Mentionable's
If you're looking to explore further, Olivia's book, "Impossible Parenting: Creating a New Culture of Mental Health for Parents," offers valuable insights and can be found here.
Additionally, you can find more resources and information on perinatal mental health on the Canadian Perinatal Mental Health Trainings website, as well as on their Instagram page (@perinatalmentalhealthtrainings) and Facebook page (Canadian Perinatal Mental Health Training).
Olivia (MSW, RSW, MA) is an Ontario-based queer social work counselor specializing in perinatal mood, reproductive trauma, parental mental health, and provider burnout. With a commitment to continuous learning, she is currently pursuing a PhD in Health Policy and Equity, focusing on the reproductive trauma experiences of LGBT+ birthers. Olivia is the co-founder of Canadian Perinatal Mental Health Trainings and the founder of Postpartum Support Toronto (now Perinatal Wellbeing Ontario). Her belief in eating dessert every day, telling your story, and barrier-free access to healing services shapes her approach to supporting parents.
Meet Kayla Huszar, the Host of the Chill Like a Mother Podcast
Kayla Huszar is a Registered Social Worker and Expressive Arts Therapist who helps mothers reconnect with their authentic selves through embodied art-making. She encourages moms to embrace the messy, beautiful realities of their unique motherhood journeys. Whether through the podcast, 1:1 sessions or her signature Motherload Membership, Kayla creates a brave space for mothers to explore their identities beyond parenting, reconnect with their intuition, and find creative outlets for emotional expression and self-discovery.
Thank you for letting me be a part of your day—kids running amok and all! If this episode helped you feel a little more chill, please leave a rating or review. Your feedback helps the podcast reach more moms who need to hear it.
Chill Like a Mother Podcast - The Good Mom Myth, The Anxiety Trap, and Why You Feel Like You’re Failing with Olivia Scobie author of Impossible Parenting (1 of 3)
Transcript
I feel like I deeply know you . After reading your book ,
Kayla HuszarI just like crushed it in like
Kayla Huszarthree nights , four nights . I don't even remember when I started it it's Thursday , right . I think I started it on the weekend and yeah , it was . It was lovely and
Kayla HuszarIf you like this episode you’ll love
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