But Really, How Are You?

Body image is the picture we create in our mind about ourselves. It can be positive or negative, constant or ever-changing. Our parents, culture, friends, and even our thoughts contribute to how we form our body image. Are there things you would like to change about the way you look? And if those things changed, how would that impact your life? These are some of the questions we talk about in this episode with Dr. Katherine Iscoe, a leading expert in cultivating positive body image.
In this episode, we talk about the everyday struggles for men and women and how key factors and beliefs influence our self-view. Dr. Katherine also talks about how we can generate resilience in the face of stress and how to look for the much-needed ways to care for ourselves during challenging times. If you want to learn the first steps towards changing your view of your self-image, listen to this episode!
Key Takeaways

• Dr. Katherine on how prevailing negative body image is
• How negative body image affects one’s life for her
• Her idea of gender differences in negative body image
• Dr. Katherine on the impact of the brain on negative body image
• How do family and social media affect negative body image for her
• Her idea of gaining control over thoughts: its process and next steps
• She talks about self-care versus self-obsession
• Embracing body change for her
• What she thinks about doing things for yourself versus doing things for others
• She advises on how to change confidently
• Her theory of body confidence
• How to apply the step approach in the pandemic for her
• How she turns stress into strength
• Her advice on the importance of helping and being helped
• Managing energy for her

Book

• Body Confidence: The Scientific Approach on How to Shine from Within - https://www.amazon.com/Body-Confidence-Scientific-Approach-Within/dp/0646598635
• Untamed by Glennon Doyle - https://untamedbook.com/

Link

• Dr. Katherine Iscoe’s LinkedIn - http://au.linkedin.com/in/dr-katherine-iscoe-23601719
• Dr. Katherine Iscoe’s website - www.drkatherine.com
• Dr. Katherine Iscoe’s instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr_katherine/?hl=n

Bio:
Dr Katherine Iscoe is a “Mindset Mentor”, and self-proclaimed shoe addict, with a mission to activate a person’s dormant potential through education, inspiration & a touch of tough love.
She is also a proud published author, an experienced and passionate speaker and the co-founder of the technology company MyFiziq Limited - an ASX-listed company with a multi-million-dollar market capitalisation.
Her unique approach to catalysing change, often described as an “educational and humorous roller coaster ride”, is informed by extensive research, personal experiences and academic qualifications including Bachelor of Arts in Health Sciences (Summa Cum Laude), Master of Science in Exercise Physiology and Health Sciences, a Doctorate in Exercise Physiology and Biotechnology and a Post-graduate Certificate in Counselling.
Most recently, Katherine has launched a series of new programs for individuals and teams, as well as mentoring for ambitious people wanting to make that next significant step towards their dream goals, while continuing to nurture a community that aims to bring together people from all walks of life, who inspire, support and nudge each other to accomplish great things.

When emotions arise, oftentimes we try to figure out how to fix them, rather than asking what they are trying to tell us. However, our emotions are not separate from or intelligence or logic. In fact, emotions are messengers telling us about what we may need or events to pay attention to.

In Episode 38, we speak with Karla McLaren on the purpose of emotions. She explains the importance of connecting with them and how it benefits our well-being. Karla dives into the specific messages that anger, sadness, grief, anxiety, frustration, happiness and hope are telling us. Karla also researches empathy, and she shares her model of how true empathy works. By the end of this episode, you will learn that emotions aren’t something that need to be fixed, but instead they need to be understood. If you want to grow in your understanding of emotions, this is the episode for you!

Key Takeaways

• Karla’s work and the things that she does
• Her explanation on what emotions are and what it tells
• How she thinks emotions are related to intelligence and logic
• On connecting with emotions
• The benefits of investigating emotions for her
• Her view on how emotions work
• The effects of working in an unhealthy work or social environment for her
• Sharing her communication practices for workers to create small areas of engagement
• Her view on what empathy is
• Her explanation of the six aspects model of empathy
• Her opinion on what sadness and grief are and what it tells us
• What frustration vs anger is for her
• How can people work on handling anger for her
• What hope and happiness are for her
• How she thinks understanding emotions help us deal with life differently
• Her four families of emotions to knowing emotions
• How understanding emotions helps in handling problems for her
• How she thinks people tune in to empathy despite feeling fatigue
• The message that she wants to leave with the listeners

Link

• Karla McLaren on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/karla-mclaren-m-ed-17b947a2/
• Karla McLaren on Twitter - https://twitter.com/KarlaMcLaren
• Karla McLaren Website - https://karlamclaren.com/
• As Well App - https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.greencircleinitiatives.aswell&hl=en_IN&gl=US
• Green Circle Initiatives Website - https://www.greencircleinitiatives.com/

Book

• Practices for Embracing Anxiety by Karla McLaren M.Ed. - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52079401-practices-for-embracing-anxiety
• Power of Emotions at Work by Karla McLaren M.Ed. - coming out in August 2021

Bio:

Karla McLaren, M.Ed. is an award-winning author, social science researcher, and empathy pioneer. Her lifelong work focuses on her grand unified theory of emotions, which revalues even the most “negative” emotions and opens startling new pathways into self-awareness, effective communication, and healthy empathy.

Karla is the author of Embracing Anxiety: How to Access the Genius of this Vital Emotion (2020), The Dynamic Emotional Integration® Workbook (2018), The Art of Empathy: A Complete Guide to Life’s Most Essential Skill (2013), and many audio learning programs and online courses.

Financial wellbeing is an important factor that influences our emotional wellness. Financial stress happens to everyone, but there are ways to cope with the anxieties that might arise because of it. Understanding our own views and beliefs around money is the first step toward financial wellbeing.

On this episode, Dr. Megan McCoy joins us to discuss the various psychological views individuals hold about money called money scripts. She shares how our beliefs around money impacts our relationships, how we deal with financial stress, even how we raise our kids, and more!

Dr. McCoy will leave you with a better understanding of financial psychology and equip you with tools to start you on your wellness journey.

Key takeaways

• A little bit about herself and what she does
• What financial therapy is
• Difference between financial stress and financial anxiety
• The different views people have about money
• The four different money perspectives/viewpoints
• How different beliefs about money affects your decision-making
• What financial infidelity is
• How COVID-19 has impacted families and money
• Practical ways to talk about money with your significant other
• Family beliefs around money
• Appropriate age to talk to your kids about money
• How charitable giving can help with long-lasting happiness
• Other ways you can increase happiness through money
• Why it pays to spend purposely
• Ways to combat financial anxiety
• How to separate your identity from your financial psychology
• Resources she recommends

Links

• Dr. Megan McCoy - https://www.hhs.k-state.edu/ahs/people/meganmccoy/
• Dr. Megan McCoy Email - [email protected]
• Financial Therapy Association Website - https://www.financialtherapyassociation.org
• Find a Financial Therapist - https://www.financialtherapyassociation.org/find-a-ft
• Kristy Archuleta - https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Kristy_Archuleta
• Virginia Satir - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Virginia_Satir
• Michelangelo Phenomenon - https://dictionary.apa.org/michelangelo-phenomenon

Books

• Money Script by Brad Klontz, Ted Klontz, and Rick Kahler - https://www.amazon.com/Money-script-Korean-Brad-Klontz/dp/896866420X
• Surviving Debt: Expert Advice for Getting Out of Financial Trouble by National Consumer Law Center - https://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Debt-Getting-Financial-Trouble/dp/1602481768
• Peoplemaking by Virginia Satir - https://www.amazon.com/Peoplemaking-Condor-Books-Virginia-Satir/dp/0285648721
• Facilitating Financial Health: Tools for Financial Planners, Coaches, and Therapists by Brad Klontz, Ted Klontz, and Rick Kahler - https://www.amazon.com/Facilitating-Financial-Health-Planners-Therapists/dp/1941627870
• Mind Over Money: The Psychology of Money and How to Use it Better by Claudia Hammond - https://www.amazon.com/Facilitating-Financial-Health-Planners-Therapists/dp/

Caution! We are in the middle of a world pandemic, if you didn’t already know. There are warning signs everywhere about what we need to do to protect ourselves and others. But did you know that being warned of danger over and over again can lead to a phenomenon called “Caution Fatigue”? We can also experience another challenge called “Compassion Fatigue” especially those who care for others such as parents, teachers, and frontline workers.
In this episode we talk with Heather Erickson, the Director of Behavioral Health Services at Amery Hospital and Clinic, on the subject of Caution Fatigue and how it is different from Compassion Fatigue. Heather shares how to recognize and name what we are experiencing and how to work through these feelings.
Key takeaways

• A little bit on the work she does
• Her definition of caution fatigue
• Biology behind compassion fatigue and how it affects the brain
• How the pandemic has affected healthcare workers in general
• What trauma is
• How trauma/caution fatigue affects the body
• How is compassion fatigue similar/different from caution fatigue
• How caution/compassion fatigue affects the emotions
• How stuffing emotions affects the body
• How caution/compassion fatigue affects relationships
• How to show compassion towards others
• Practical things you can do to be mindful and focus on the present
• Her message for the listeners

Heather Erickson Bio:
Heather Erickson has been working in the mental health field for the last 18 years. She holds a Masters Degree in social work and has always enjoyed positions that have involved both clinical work with patients/clients as well as system/program development and oversight. She has spent the last 5 years as the Director of Behavioral Health Services at HealthPartners’ Amery Hospital & Clinic in Amery, WI. She has recently become interested in the science of our fight-of-flight system – both how/what activates it, and how we can work to effectively intervene to allow our parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems to work together most effectively when faced with complex issues or concerns, such as that of COVID-19. Heather is also interested in organizational resilience and wellness, and has made this a major focus in her current position given the toll of COVID-19 on the healthcare workforce.

What is it in life that you are bothering to care about? With the onset of COVID-19, life can sometimes seem even more mundane and purposeless. But every person needs a reason, a bother if you will, to care about and to give you purpose in your life.
Join us for our discussion with Jennifer Louden as we learn about her most recent book, Why Bother: Discover the Desire for What’s Next. Jennifer gives simple and practical ideas to help open yourself up to finding what it is you want to do in life.
This episode is meant to inspire you to think outside of the box about what your life could look like and how you can feel a little more alive. It’s important to discover the deeper callings inside of you that create meaning in your life. It is never too late to discover what you should bother about in life.
Key takeaways

• What desire looks like and why you should bother
• What a “why bother” period looks like
• Where she was at when she tried to discover her desire and how she did it
• How to separate desire from being enough as a person
• Some things that get in the way of bothering
• Her thoughts on expectations around change
• The next step people need to take in the process
• How to go about being seen
• Why it’s important to be seen
• Her thoughts on spirituality
• The essence of bothering

Books

• Woman’s Comfort Book: A Self-Nurturing Guide for Restoring Balance in Your Life by Jennifer Louden - https://www.amazon.com/Womans-Comfort-Book-Self-Nurturing-Restoring/dp/0060776676
• Why Bother: Discover the Desire for What’s Next by Jennifer Louden - https://www.amazon.com/Why-Bother-Discover-Desire-Whats/dp/1989603122

Jennifer Louden Bio

Jennifer Louden is a personal growth pioneer who helped launch the concept of self-care with her 1992 bestselling debut book The Woman’s Comfort Book. She is the author of six additional books, including The Woman’s Retreat Book, The Life Organizer and Why Bother? With close to a million copies of her books in print in nine languages, Jennifer is a sought-after speaker, addressing audiences across the USA, Canada and Europe. She is a former columnist for Whole Living, a Martha Stewart magazine, and has appeared on a number of television and radio shows and podcasts—including The Oprah Winfrey Show. Her work has been featured in People, USA Today, CNN, and Brené Brown’s books Daring Greatly and Dare to Lead.

As an entrepreneur and educator, Jennifer has offered women’s retreats for over 25 years, and her email newsletter reaches 20,000 subscribers weekly. She lives in Boulder County, Colorado.