Episode 32: Attachment Bonds with Jim Farm

Have you ever wondered what is one of the greatest influences on your ability to trust yourself and others? In episode 32, we talk to Jim Farm about different attachment styles that form when we are young, and how they continue to influence every relationship that we have in our adulthood. Jim describes the four attachment styles: avoidant, anxious, disorganized, and secure. These styles continue throughout our life, unless we intentionally change them.

Jim explains how an insecure attachment can inhibit our ability to be vulnerable. This impacts our relationship with others and even things, which can lead to addiction. He also shares that trauma has an impact on our attachment bonds. Towards the end, Jim shares that no matter what attachment style we developed when we were young, we can learn how to be safe and accessible individuals in our adult life. Listen to this episode to learn more!

Key Takeaways

• A little about Jim and his work
• What attachment is for him
• What attachment styles are for him
• How to develop attachment styles for him
• His idea on the importance of understanding attachment styles for adults
• Attachment styles concerning addiction and trauma for him
• His bits of advice on unlearning insecure attachment
• Who he thinks are the safe people to go to
• Jim encourages the listeners to understand their relationship drivers

Book

• The Seven Desires of Every Heart by Debra Laaser - https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Desires-Every-Heart-ebook/dp/B001P0XPMO

Links

• Jim Farm on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jimfarmfaithfulandtrue/
• Faithful & True website - https://faithfulandtrue.com/

Bio:

Jim is the clinical director at Faithful & True. Jim has extensive counseling experience with individuals, couples and families in multiple community and ministry settings. He provides counseling to men struggling with sexual purity issues, couples moving toward relational healing and growth, and facilitates small groups at our Men of Valor Intensive Workshops. Jim received his Master of Divinity and a Master of Arts in Marriage & Family Therapy from Bethel Seminary.