The Emotional Intelli-Gents Podcast: Navigating Leadership with Emotional intelligence - Ep 20: No More People Pleasing - Conquer the Fear of Other People's Opinions

Ep 20: No More People Pleasing - Conquer the Fear of Other People's Opinions

10/18/23 • 34 min

The Emotional Intelli-Gents Podcast: Navigating Leadership with Emotional intelligence

In this episode, we delve into the complexities of FOPO, a modern-day phenomenon amplifying our innate fears of judgment from others. We explore its evolutionary roots, highlighting the human instinct to seek societal acceptance. We share our personal encounters with FOPO, emphasizing how it has influenced various aspects of our lives, including this very podcast journey as well as discuss the exacerbating role of social media in the age of constant feedback loops and digital validation. This episode touches upon the spectrum of FOPO's impact, from workplace dynamics to individual decision-making. We also offer insights and strategies for listeners to identify, confront, and potentially overcome this looming fear, advocating for self-awareness and genuine self-expression.

Key Takeaways:

Defining FOPO
- The fear of being judged by others, often leading to altered behavior, decision-making, and expression. It's a type of social anxiety that stems from a deep-seated desire for societal acceptance.
Modern Implications
- In today's digital age, platforms like social media amplify the effects of FOPO, especially with the constant feedback loop users experience. This can lead to an addiction-like dependence on validation from peers or the general public.
Root Causes and Impacts:
- Historically, humans have craved social acceptance as a survival mechanism, leading to a natural desire for approval and acceptance.
- Individuals vary on the FOPO spectrum, with some being profoundly affected and others being largely indifferent. The majority, however, lie somewhere in between.
- Workplaces, with performance reviews and team dynamics, can amplify FOPO feelings.
Overcoming FOPO:
- The episode aims to provide listeners with techniques and insights to manage and potentially overcome FOPO. Both hosts emphasize the importance of seeking support, understanding the roots of these feelings, and implementing coping strategies.

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Key Takeaways:

Defining FOPO
- The fear of being judged by others, often leading to altered behavior, decision-making, and expression. It's a type of social anxiety that stems from a deep-seated desire for societal acceptance.
Modern Implications
- In today's digital age, platforms like social media amplify the effects of FOPO, especially with the constant feedback loop users experience. This can lead to an addiction-like dependence on validation from peers or the general public.
Root Causes and Impacts:
- Historically, humans have craved social acceptance as a survival mechanism, leading to a natural desire for approval and acceptance.
- Individuals vary on the FOPO spectrum, with some being profoundly affected and others being largely indifferent. The majority, however, lie somewhere in between.
- Workplaces, with performance reviews and team dynamics, can amplify FOPO feelings.
Overcoming FOPO:
- The episode aims to provide listeners with techniques and insights to manage and potentially overcome FOPO. Both hosts emphasize the importance of seeking support, understanding the roots of these feelings, and implementing coping strategies.

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Previous Episode

Ep 19: Interview with Bill Carson: Prioritizing Mental Heath First Aid and Psychological Safety in the Workplace

Ismail and Sameer are joined by a very special guest on Episode 19 of the Emotional Intelli-Gents Podcast, Mr. Bill Carson. Bill Carson dives deep into topics that are very near and dear to his life’s work as a resilience coach, emotional and social intelligence coach, and well-being coach. The podcast episode centers on how employers can meet the demands of today’s workforce with effective upskilling for psychological risk management, and sharing practical ways leaders can implement mental health first aid into their leadership approach.

About Bill Carson:

Bill Carson is a passionate Mental Health Advocate who speaks from a lived experience of mental health challenges of depression, anxiety and addictions for over 30 years.
Bill experienced childhood traumas of major heart surgery at four, death of his father at five, domestic violence during his teens, and major illness of his first wife.
In 2016, Bill healed himself of anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts and began his journey as a mental health advocate.
Bill Carson is committed to giving back and currently volunteers his time as a Lifeline Telephone Crisis Supporter and trains leaders and managers in various industry sectors on Mental Health First Aid.

Topics covered in Episode 19 of the Emotional Intelli-Gents Podcast include:

What are the primary psychological risks prevalent in today’s workforce?
What are some psychological or emotional signs of stress that leaders should be paying attention to?
How can leaders provide mental health first aid to their teams in a manner that is effective and promotes safety within the team?
What is the business case for companies to invest in upskilling their leaders in the area of effective psychological management?
How much do leaders need to know about or understand mental health issues for them to properly address them when they are noticed in the workplace?

You can find Bill Carson at the follow places:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/bill-carson-4a645618/

https://inspirelearning.au/

Link to Bill Carson’s recent book release: Safe Conversation For Work and Life: https://a.co/d/5sXrNxy

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Next Episode

Ep 21: Interview with Joshua Freedman - CEO of 6 Seconds - Exploring Emotional Intelligence Trends

In this Episode, we cover a myriad of really interesting topics with our special guest, Joshua Freedman. The Episode taps into how Joshua’s company, 6 Seconds’, data-driven approach to determine the psyche of today’s workforce.

Some questions and insights you will find in Episode 21:

What most businesses get wrong about emotional intelligence and how to fix it.
How organizations can better interpret and implement EQ within their organization.
What “disruption” is required to get organizations to see the benefits of EQ and begin making necessary changes.
The generational EQ differences and how they impact business performance.
To what degree has EQ improved/deteriorated over the past 25 years.
The practicality of work from home in today’s digital age.

More about Joshua Freedman:

Joshua Freedman's journey into the world of emotional intelligence began with a profound fascination with human behavior and a burning desire to understand the role of emotions in shaping our lives. Over the years, he has dedicated himself to researching, teaching, and advocating for EQ as a critical skill for personal and professional success.

Key Achievements:

Co-Founder of 6 Seconds: Joshua co-founded 6 Seconds in 1997, along with his father, Dr. David Freedman. This nonprofit organization has since become a global leader in EQ research, assessment, and education. It offers a range of programs and resources to help individuals and organizations develop their emotional intelligence.
Author and Speaker: Joshua Freedman is a prolific author and sought-after speaker on the topic of emotional intelligence. He has written several books, including "At the Heart of Leadership" and "Insight." His books have been translated into multiple languages and have had a profound impact on leaders, educators, and professionals worldwide.
EQ Practitioner: Joshua is not just an advocate for emotional intelligence; he is also an experienced practitioner. He has worked with numerous organizations, including Fortune 500 companies, educational institutions, and government agencies, helping them integrate EQ into their leadership and development programs.
Global Impact: Under Joshua's leadership, 6 Seconds has expanded its reach to over 200 countries, impacting millions of lives. The organization collaborates with a vast network of EQ practitioners and educators, spreading the message of emotional intelligence far and wide.
Research and Innovation: Joshua Freedman's commitment to research and innovation is evident in his work at 6 Seconds. He continually seeks to advance the field of emotional intelligence, conducting groundbreaking research and developing cutting-edge tools and assessments.

Joshua Freedman, as the CEO of 6 Seconds, has dedicated his life to promoting emotional intelligence as a pathway to a better world. His passion, expertise, and unwavering commitment to this cause have inspired countless individuals and organizations to embrace the power of emotions for personal and collective growth. Joshua's work continues to shape the way we understand and practice emotional intelligence, leaving a lasting legacy of positive change in its wake.

Link to 6 Seconds: https://www.6seconds.org/

6 Seconds on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/6secondseq/?hl=en

Connect with Joshua Freedman on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/freedman/

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