Ep. 90 This Too Shall Pass with Julia Samuel

02/24/20 • 48 min

This week on the Calmer You Podcast I speak with Julia Samuel, Author of Grief Works and her new book This Too Shall Pass.
We chat about:
* What is the ‘fertile void’?* How busyness stops us from healing * How to handle changes in your life * What to say to someone who is grieving* The particular struggles that millennials face
Transcript
Chloe: Hello, and welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge. Welcome. I am a coach, a hypnotherapist, and I'm the author of The Anxiety Solution and Brave New Girl.
On today's Podcast
And today, on the podcast, I've got the wonderful Julia Samuel, MBE, who is a psychotherapist, and she's also the author of two books; Grief Works, and her latest book, This Too Shall Pass, which is all about how to navigate changes. And you know, we're so scared of change, aren’t we? On one hand, we really want change, we want transformation. And on the other hand, how many of us can get stuck keeping things the same because change just feels too scary, and it feels safer to stick with what we know even though it's uncomfortable.
So, we
talked about this whole topic of change. We discussed what's known as the
fertile void, and I love how Julia explains this and how we can cultivate this
in our lives, and it can help us to handle changes in our lives. We talked
about how business stops us from healing and what we need to do instead. We
also get into the topic of grief and what to say to someone who's grieving and
how to handle that yourself about something that's affecting you at the moment.
We also touch on the particular struggles that millennials and those of a
similar generation face. So, I want to let you know that I have some free
resources for confidence, self-esteem, and anxiety. If you want to grab those
freebies, head over to my website, CalmerYou.com/Free, and I'll send you lots of resources, worksheets,
downloads, updates about the podcast. Head over to CalmerYou.com/Free. So, let's get into the interview with Julia Samuel.
Welcome, Julia. Thank you so much for joining me. How are you today?
Julia:
Really well. Lovely to meet you, Chloe.
Chloe: Could
you please share with us what it is that you do and how you came to do the work
that you do today?
More about Julia Samuel
Julia: So, I'm a psychotherapist and I've been a psychotherapist for 30 years. 25 years I worked in the NHS at a big NHS hospital supporting families when babies died and children died. So, I was the counselor for pediatrics and maternity.
From there, I helped started or established and launched a charity called Child Bereavement UK, which was supporting families when a child died or when a child's bereaved. From there, I sort of taught a lot and lectured a lot. I've gone into private practice in the last few years, about the last five years. And I wrote another book before and this is my second book. So, I'm a seasoned therapist and a new author. So, one is kind of an old hat and the other feels exciting and scary. And I'm not even sure I can call myself an author.
Chloe:
Amazing. And I can't imagine work more, I don’t know, intense than working with
people that have lost a child. I think that's incredible that you've done that
work. What was that like?

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Ep 91 Find your voice and get out of your head with Caroline Goyder

This week on the Calmer You podcast I speak with voice coach and author of Find Your Voice, Caroline Goyder. She knows a thing or two about how to find your voice and get out of your head.
We chat about:
* What is confidence?* Why nerves are good* How to overcome blushing or shaking when you’re speaking* How to improve your confidence when it comes to speaking* Phone phobia * And lots more!
Transcript
Introduction
Chloe: Hello and welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge, I’m a coach, a hypnotherapist and I'm the author of “the anxiety solution, and brave new girl” and this podcast is all about helping you to become your calmest happiest and most confident self. Today on the podcast, I have the pleasure of speaking to Caroline Goyder who is a voice coach, and she's the author of the new book “Find your voice.” She is also a Ted x. Speaker and her Ted Talk has had 7 and a half million views which is really incredible. In this episode we're talking all about confidence, particularly confidence when it comes to speaking, whether that’s speaking on a stage, speaking up in a meeting or speaking on the phone.
And this is I hope such a reassuring chat because both Caroline and I
have struggled in this area before, we both admitted to having blushed in the
past. And so it's really coming from a place of her having experienced the
nervousness and the fear that comes along with speaking, and having learned a
lot about herself, made a lot of progress and she actually gets to help other
people with that as well. So we talk about Caroline's definition of confidence,
and I think this is really interesting, not what you might be expecting. We
talk about why nerves are actually a good thing and why there's nothing to be
ashamed about if you do experience nerves before speaking, it's actually
completely normal and I hope this conversation helped to normalize even more
and how to know there's nothing to be ashamed of.
We talk about how to overcome the specific things that can hold us back
from speaking like blushing or shaking or speaking to the fast and Caroline
shares lots of tips on growing your confidence in general, when it comes to
speaking, phone phobia and people who experience this will know what I'm
talking about if you're scared of being on the phone in front of the people in
the office for example or if you're someone that maybe doesn't like to answer
the phone when people call, if it's an unknown number for example, I'm one of
these people by the way.
And we just got into loads of helpful ideas around the topic of speaking confidence, and finding your voice. So if you want to get some free resources from me on growing your confidence, boosting your self-esteem, calming anxiety, I've got loads of freebies on my website for you, if you had over to calmeryou.com/free and to enter your email address there, I'm going to send you mp3’s, worksheet, podcast updates and loads more. So head over to Calmeryou.com/free, so let's get into the interview with Caroline Goyder.
Chloe: So welcome Caroline, thank you so much for joining me, how are you?
Caroline Goyder: I'm good, pleasure to be here.
Chloe: Please can you tell us what it is you do and how you came to do that you
today?
What is a Voice Coach?