Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

I want to share with you that it is possible! Mr. Right does exist! Your thoughts create feelings. Your feelings drive actions. And those actions yield you results. So before you can begin to think about a relationship with Mr. Right and what that looks like, you have to believe that he totally exists. You have this idea of your ideal partner, and you have to think about how you feel being in that ideal relationship and you have to believe that it is possible that that person exists. Then you have to go and be the woman that person would want you to be, and you can create the ideal relationship you’ve been looking for.

Topics in this episode:

• It’s not what we do, it’s what we think.
• Shift the perspective
• Lack mentality
• Creating a belief plan
• In my ideal relationship, what am I thinking and feeling?
• Cognitive dissonance
• To here Stacey Boehman’s podcast, How to Make Money as a Life Coach, go here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/make-money-as-a-life-coach/id1296610610

As I mentioned, I only have one spot left for a new client. If this resonated with you and you’re interested in my 6-month one-on-one coaching program, go to

https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/healing-heartbreak-program

This year has been so much about creating and transformation for me, which included creating 20 clients and the belief man plan where I was committed to thinking, feeling, and behaving as Claire in her ideal relationship. In my belief plan, I thought about the qualities my ideal man would have, but I never thought about emotional safety. Looking back at past relationships where I didn’t have that safety, I know that it’s because I wasn’t creating the space for it. In this episode I share why it is important to have emotional safety, and how to get it back.

I recently created a video about calling in Mr. Right and how you can do it. To see the video, subscribe and then email me: [email protected]

Topics in this episode:

• We are always triggered by the things we feel vulnerable about
• Projecting based on past experiences. To hear more on projecting versus gut feelings, please revert back to my episode with my former therapist, Ashley Graber: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/10/28/is-it-my-gut-or-my-projection-with-ashley-graber
• Triggers still come up, even when we have emotional safety
• Emotional availability
• Owning your truth and your needs
• How to give yourself safety and security
• “I’m going to choose me”
• Ask yourself: how do I take the best care of me?

If this is a result you are craving, I highly recommend you reach out to me for my six-month one-on-one program and start healing these stories that are holding you back from creating the life of your dreams.

At the start of 2019, I decided that this would be the year that I would dedicate to growing my business, and to start dating again. Now that I have reached my goal of having 20 clients, I knew that it was time to create space for Mr. Right. I am a huge believer that your thoughts create results, which is why I have been working on a belief plan for creating him and the relationship I want. As a result, I am attracting men because my brain has been so focused on how I know I’m going to think, feel, and behave when he is here. Part of getting to that point is to know when I am in a trigger, and how to move through it, and that’s what I want to talk to you about in this episode.

Topics in this episode:

• How I got from rock bottom to where I am now. To hear more about my heartbreak story, please listen to episode 5
• What comes up for me?
• Adjusting your capacity
• What it feels like within your body to be in a trigger
• You can be triggered even when things are good
• Be in your body. Find your feet on the ground.
• Pain is not bad. Pain is neutral. Pain is an inevitable part of the human experience.

I do have 2 spots opening up, so if you are interested in digging deeper into this work, please go to my website and reach out.

https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/healing-heartbreak-program

It’s so easy to berate your body when you don’t like how it looks, but that’s when we need to love it the most…

And the same goes for when you’re heartbroken!

We want so badly for the other person to love us in order for us to feel better, but the LESSON IS FOR US TO LOVE OURSELVES NO MATTER WHAT.

It’s NOT him-- it’s YOU and the MEANING you’re making out of him leaving, which is CAUSING YOU SO MUCH SUFFERING.

Sure, you might treat yourself to an amazing trip or a massage or a shopping spree as a way to be kind to yourself, but the ONLY way to FULLY heal is to change your story and MANAGE your MIND around your ex.

Claire LET her rock bottom ex have the power to decide her worth AND decide her lack of worth…

Instead of being in his business about the meaning behind his words vs actions, why not get so in love with you and start, thinking, feeling and behaving as the woman IN your ideal relationship.

How do you show up as if your ideal partner already here??

You could start to think feel and behave from THAT space, instead of thinking, feeling, and behaving from a place of rejection and unworthiness.

It’s NOT him—it’s YOU.
This is the best NEWS EVER.

Claire calls BS on anyone who claims they've never thought they need a man to make them happy or complete the perfect picture.

Even if we INTELLECTUALLY understand that other people don't make us happy, it's so human and natural for us to want a significant other or ANY person we love to "make" us happy.

Claire talks about her client, Sarah, who recently had the rug pulled from underneath her when her boyfriend broke up with her abruptly... this is coming off the heels of some serious conversations about moving her kids into a home with him in the near future.

Sarah shows up for the work and believes in Claire's approach that our thoughts create our results... BUT she had a GOOD argument:

Her man made her happy by taking her out to nice dinners, having great sex, going on romantic getaways...things her wonderful girlfriends couldn't give her in the same way he could.

Claire dishes on why Sarah is STILL responsible for her own happiness, regardless of if she's single or not, and offers her a CRUCIAL FIRST STEP in order to cultivate this AUTHENTICALLY.

Check out Brooke Castillo's work in her book SELF COACHING 101 and learn more about the thought model tool Claire references in every episode and applies on herself and her clients.