It's Not Him-- It's YOU

04/22/19 • 25 min

Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

It’s so easy to berate your body when you don’t like how it looks, but that’s when we need to love it the most…

And the same goes for when you’re heartbroken!

We want so badly for the other person to love us in order for us to feel better, but the LESSON IS FOR US TO LOVE OURSELVES NO MATTER WHAT.

It’s NOT him-- it’s YOU and the MEANING you’re making out of him leaving, which is CAUSING YOU SO MUCH SUFFERING.

Sure, you might treat yourself to an amazing trip or a massage or a shopping spree as a way to be kind to yourself, but the ONLY way to FULLY heal is to change your story and MANAGE your MIND around your ex.

Claire LET her rock bottom ex have the power to decide her worth AND decide her lack of worth…

Instead of being in his business about the meaning behind his words vs actions, why not get so in love with you and start, thinking, feeling and behaving as the woman IN your ideal relationship.

How do you show up as if your ideal partner already here??

You could start to think feel and behave from THAT space, instead of thinking, feeling, and behaving from a place of rejection and unworthiness.

It’s NOT him—it’s YOU.
This is the best NEWS EVER.

It’s so easy to berate your body when you don’t like how it looks, but that’s when we need to love it the most…

And the same goes for when you’re heartbroken!

We want so badly for the other person to love us in order for us to feel better, but the LESSON IS FOR US TO LOVE OURSELVES NO MATTER WHAT.

It’s NOT him-- it’s YOU and the MEANING you’re making out of him leaving, which is CAUSING YOU SO MUCH SUFFERING.

Claire LET her rock bottom ex have the power to decide her worth AND decide her lack of worth…

Instead of being in his business about the meaning behind his words vs actions, why not get so in love with you and start, thinking, feeling and behaving as the woman IN your ideal relationship.

How do you show up as if your ideal partner already here??

You could start to think feel and behave from THAT space, instead of thinking, feeling, and behaving from a place of rejection and unworthiness.

It’s NOT him—it’s YOU.
This is the best NEWS EVER.

Previous Episode

Forgiveness without Apology

Claire talks about her past, being a natural-born fighter, and although she hasn't "perfected" forgiveness without an apology, she does take credit for how far she's come.

She touches on her THOUGHTS that cause her to feel anger, preventing her from forgiving one particular person at this point in time.

NOT forgiving is a CHOICE.

Forgiving also doesn't mean CONDONING someone's behavior... it's more about freeing YOU up.

Whatever you're judging about someone else is something you're not owning about YOU.

Explore shadow work and thought work from the book links below:

Super Hero of Love By Bridget Fonger
Dark Side of the Light Chasers By Debbie Ford
Loving What Is By Byron Katie

Your THOUGHTS about OTHERS and THEIR behavior is what causes you suffering.

You get to DECIDE how you want to view a situation!

If you feel stuck and don't know how to stop obsessing over someone else's behavior or feel out of control with your anger, MESSAGE CLAIRE.

Next Episode

NOW WHAT- Interview with writer Jen Pastiloff

Claire has the honor of having Jen Pastiloff as her FIRST guest!

Jen is the author of the upcoming bestseller, (100% it will be) ON BEING HUMAN.

Tune in to hear all of the magical gems Jen gifts us with about heartbreak on NOW WHAT? This is an episode and a book you DON’T WANT TO MISS.

Check out Jen’s amazing workshops coming up in France and Italy, also called ON BEING HUMAN at www.jenpastiloff.com. You can follow Jen on Instagram at @jenpastiloff

And most importantly you can order the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Being-Human-Memoir-Waking-Listening/dp/1524743569/ref=nodl_