Your Emotional Safety Isn't His Job

11/25/19 • 28 min

Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

This year has been so much about creating and transformation for me, which included creating 20 clients and the belief man plan where I was committed to thinking, feeling, and behaving as Claire in her ideal relationship. In my belief plan, I thought about the qualities my ideal man would have, but I never thought about emotional safety. Looking back at past relationships where I didn’t have that safety, I know that it’s because I wasn’t creating the space for it. In this episode I share why it is important to have emotional safety, and how to get it back.

I recently created a video about calling in Mr. Right and how you can do it. To see the video, subscribe and then email me: [email protected]

Topics in this episode:

We are always triggered by the things we feel vulnerable about
Projecting based on past experiences. To hear more on projecting versus gut feelings, please revert back to my episode with my former therapist, Ashley Graber: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/10/28/is-it-my-gut-or-my-projection-with-ashley-graber
Triggers still come up, even when we have emotional safety
Emotional availability
Owning your truth and your needs
How to give yourself safety and security
“I’m going to choose me”
Ask yourself: how do I take the best care of me?

If this is a result you are craving, I highly recommend you reach out to me for my six-month one-on-one program and start healing these stories that are holding you back from creating the life of your dreams.

I recently created a video about calling in Mr. Right and how you can do it. To see the video, subscribe and then email me: [email protected]

Topics in this episode:

We are always triggered by the things we feel vulnerable about
Projecting based on past experiences. To hear more on projecting versus gut feelings, please revert back to my episode with my former therapist, Ashley Graber: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/10/28/is-it-my-gut-or-my-projection-with-ashley-graber
Triggers still come up, even when we have emotional safety
Emotional availability
Owning your truth and your needs
How to give yourself safety and security
“I’m going to choose me”
Ask yourself: how do I take the best care of me?

Previous Episode

Tough Self-Love Without Shame

I pride myself on being a badass coach, and I also pride myself on being a very flawed human. I feel a lot of fear when I am opening up again, but I show up and I do the daily thought work, and I’m really loud and proud about that. In this episode, I discuss how to be tough on yourself, without shaming yourself. On the other end of the spectrum, it can also be really easy to let ourselves off the hook. So I also share why it is important for us to work hard and be hard on ourselves, in order to reach our goals.

Topics in this episode:

When we set higher goals for ourselves, there’s going to be a chance that we fail.
Plugging a circumstance into the thought model
How to be hard on yourself, without shaming yourself
The layers of shame within, “I’m still not over him”
The new, intentional, thought-model
Redirecting the care to yourself
The committed practice of thought models

I have room for two new clients right now. Message me if you are ready to table the shame and put the pedal to the metal, and do the work to get you to where you want to go. It is totally possible. I am living proof that this work works. Email me at

[email protected]

Next Episode

Heartbreak For The Holidays

I want to send so much love to you who are feeling extra heavy in their hearts this holiday season. We have all been through it, and I think these painful times are opportunities to show up, rise to the occasion, learn your deeper lesson, and completely thrive and soar because of it. This does not have to be every holiday season. I want to help give you tools to be able to get through the pain and this holiday season with strength and compassion. I love and believe in this work because I am a product of the product. This can be you as well.

Topics in this episode:

Defining clean pain versus dirty pain
Being compassionate with yourself
Rewriting shame stories
Consciously moving through the pain
Give yourself the closure you need
Decide that your 2020 is going to be different
How therapy can play a role in your healing. To hear more about the healing I went through, check out the conversation I had with my former therapist, Ashley Graber https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/10/28/is-it-my-gut-or-my-projection-with-ashley-graber

I want you to be able to be clear and feel capable and certain about what your life can look like, and what you can create in your love life, work-life, and financial life. All of it is within yourself. If you are ready go to https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/, subscribe and connect with me. I do have a couple of spots left. Let’s wrap up 2019 with clarity and certainty about where you are right now, and exactly where you want to go. Let’s make 2020 your best year yet.

Message me if you are ready. Have a beautiful holiday and be kind and gentle and so loving to yourself because you are so worth it.