Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way
Mary Wagstaff
What kind of Woman do you want to be? The answer holds the key to releasing alcohol and reclaiming what you’ve lost on the road to empowerment.
Stop Drinking and Start Living – The Feminine Way helps women effortlessly release alcohol by reconnecting with their feminine energy and stepping fully into leadership.
Hosted by Mary Wagstaff, holistic alcohol coach and embodiment facilitator, this show goes beyond sobriety to explore how feminine wisdom and embodied practices make you a more intuitive, empowered, and magnetic leader—in your work, family, and life.
Mary knows firsthand what it takes to outgrow alcohol and reclaim the energy, clarity, and confidence to lead with ease. Because you’re not quitting drinking—you’ve simply outgrown it.
Each week, you’ll uncover what’s keeping you disconnected and stuck in cycles of numbing—and learn to replace it with pleasure, presence, and purpose.
The feminine way is an invitation to lead differently. Tune in every Wednesday and step into the woman you were meant to be.
Want to drink less without deprivation? Learn the six cheat phrases to calm your urges and end the inner battle. Grab your free guide here: https://marywagstaffcoach.com/urgetracking
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Ep. #68 How Much Is Too Much?
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way
01/06/21 • 28 min
How many times have you googled, "Am I am alcoholic"? or some version of that? As we start seeing the illusions of the old models of power over and limiting beliefs, fade into the back ground, the invitation in the aquarian age, is to stop asking permission. You decide how much is too much. Dismantling alcohol mean stepping into your power and standing in your truth. To stop needing the right thing to say to someone when they ask why you aren't drinking. To be able to love yourself, the other AND tell the truth. The aquarian age is about living 5D, where paradox is the way of life. It's way more fun. You don't need to break the rules, there are none. The are all illusions. It's not either or, it's both and. The truth is, alcohol is stripping you of your life light, your prana, your grace, the holy spirit within. Whether it's one drink a week or 20, there is an unnatural alteration. We aren't saying NO to alcohol. The future of joyful living is evolving past the need to alter ones natural state of being. FAST TRACK TO FREEDOM FROM ALCOHOL IN 40 DAYS! Get on the list, find out the detail and start the process HEREIf you are ready for support NOW, with high level, 1:1 coaching. Schedule a complimentary alignment session HEREThank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me.
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There Is A Life Beyond Moderation & Deprivation.
We Focus On What You Are Moving Towards, Not What You Are Moving Away From.
The Exhausting Trap Of Moderation Ends Now With My No Shame Approach Using The Proven Five Shifts Process. Follow the path of 100's of Women, Click HERE to join today!
Accountability is the key to lasting change. I’m here to not only help you eliminate the desire to drink but to fall in love with your alcohol-free life. You've taken in all the information, now it's time for implimentation Book your free consultation now. 💫
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
Ep. #202 The Belief That Made Alcohol Famous
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way
12/14/22 • 33 min
I have determined there is ONE belief that fuels our entire mindset in the western world about alcohol.
It’s so powerful that is has you trying to solve all of your problems and create fun with alcohol.
It has you overriding your own intuition.
Shaming yourself for not figuring it out.
Negotiating rules with yourself to keep alcohol around for even, just one drink.
It has you making yourself sick.
Fighting with your partner.
Waking you up at 3 am.
Creating problems where there are none.
Putting thoughts in other peoples head about what they think about you.
Not doing your best at work.
Quitting on yourself, again and again.
Most importantly, it has you forgetting who you are, what matters most and what you are capable of.
This ONE belief is so powerful, that even AA put it into their big blue book.
They use it to help people quit drinking.
It is actually the belief that keeps so many who do stop drinking in deprivation.
In my experience, it’s the ONE belief that is the FARTHEST from the truth.
But this ONE belief is not a FACT, it’s a thought.
And you get to choose to believe it or not.
Listen to today’s podcast episode to find out what it is, what what thought you want to start believing instead.
- The ONE thought that has you and the western world sold on alcohol.
- What to do with your mind if you aren't drinking.
- Why constraining your attention is important.
- The impact of not drinking you are neglecting.
- How to create evidence from the end result.
- The crucial ingredient to change.
- How moderation keeps you in the same mindset that has you drinking.
- Why things don't seem fun without alcohol.
There Is A Life Beyond Moderation & Deprivation.
We Focus On What You Are Moving Towards, Not What You Are Moving Away From.
The Exhausting Trap Of Moderation Ends Now With My No Shame Approach Using The Proven Five Shifts Process. Follow the path of 100's of Women, Click HERE to join today!
Accountability is the key to lasting change. I’m here to not only help you eliminate the desire to drink but to fall in love with your alcohol-free life. You've taken in all the information, now it's time for implimentation Book your free consultation now. 💫
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
Ep. #16 Cultivating Self Trust
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way
04/29/20 • 44 min
The current theme in all of my work in some form, is creating self trust. As simple as it sounds, the concept runs deep and the implications of how it will not only change your relationship to alcohol, but shape your life are astounding. If the definition of Trust is a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something, in our case, the self. How will we ever tap into innate wisdom when alcohol completely overrides, every factor that defines trust? The paradigm has been: full speed ahead, or fake it until you make it, but that is all changing right before our eyes. The holistic approach to change, mind, body, soul, is the only way for a full lived life to occur. To really know thy self. The way to cultivate trust is through stopping, slowing down and tuning in. There are many ways to "start" a practice or for a new routine, changing your relationship to alcohol must be met with a mental interruption to the outer world and an invitation to ask yourself, what is really my opinion on the way things are going? What do I have control over? Do I really know what I even value in life? This episode will give you practice tools to help you on the journey of cultivating deeper self trust. Reach out for a strategy session when you are ready: [email protected]
Ep. #84 Permission To Not Be Broken w/ Erin Vanderkooy
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way
04/28/21 • 68 min
Ep. #82 The Reason You Think You Can't Is The Solution
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way
04/14/21 • 52 min
The reason you think you can’t change your relationship to alcohol is the solution to success.
The perceived obstacle are ALWAYS the reason to say YES!
You have to be willing to be resourceful to get the result you want.
The human brain makes decisions based on the past.
Part of your brain feels good about the decision of drinking.
Not drinking creates Thoughts that create Emotional Discomfort.
When you are not use Feeling the sensations of emotions, making a decision to change and embrace feeling, signals danger to your brain.
Your job is to move to the other side to prove that objection false.
This is how to weaken the habit.
Today you will learn:
How to spot your objections that are getting in the way of creating lasting change.
How you move from impossible to possible.
Common objections for why people never start the process and how their objection is the reason they need to.
The difference between passive and massive action.
What thoughts to think NOW to take the ONE next step.
Common Objections To Say NO To Changing Your Relationship To Alcohol.
Remember, these are all SUBJECTIVE THOUGHTS, not FACTS.
+It’s not the right time.
+ I’m too busy to do the work
+ It’s too hard
+ I’ll never have fun again!
+ I’m afraid of what people will think. My relationships will change.
+ Iv’e tried before and it didn’t work.
+ It’s not a good time to invest. (time, money, energy)
+I don’t know If I want to say no forever.
Schedule a complimentary alignment session with Mary HERE.
Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me.
There Is A Life Beyond Moderation & Deprivation.
We Focus On What You Are Moving Towards, Not What You Are Moving Away From.
The Exhausting Trap Of Moderation Ends Now With My No Shame Approach Using The Proven Five Shifts Process. Follow the path of 100's of Women, Click HERE to join today!
Accountability is the key to lasting change. I’m here to not only help you eliminate the desire to drink but to fall in love with your alcohol-free life. You've taken in all the information, now it's time for implimentation Book your free consultation now. 💫
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
Silent Sobriety
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way
03/12/25 • 25 min
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Do you ever feel the pressure to announce your big life changes? In today’s episode, I’m diving into silent sobriety and silent activism—why sometimes the most powerful transformation happens when we keep it just for ourselves.
There’s so much talk about “recovering out loud,” and while that can be empowering, there’s also deep value in solitude and private commitment. When I quit drinking, I didn’t make a big deal about it. I was just making choices for me. And that shifted everything.
I also share a personal story about how Matthew proposed to me (spoiler: it was magical and completely unexpected) and how my deep connection to the Divine has shaped the way I experience life. Some things I just don’t feel the need to share—because they’re mine.
This episode will challenge you to look at your relationship with external validation and ask: What would change if you didn’t need anyone else’s approval?
Key Takeaways:
- Silence is powerful. Before seeking validation, take time to understand your why.
- Solitude and loneliness are not the same thing. How can you embrace time alone?
- Instead of figuring things out, try finding out—get curious and trust the process.
- Expect that there will be moments when old habits or thoughts resurface. It’s normal.
- Big life shifts don’t always need to be announced. Sometimes they’re more potent when they’re just yours.
If something in today’s episode spoke to you, I’d love to hear from you! Send me a DM on Instagram. And if you leave a review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it, and send it my way—I’ll send you a free gift to support your journey.
Want to go deeper? Book a Sober Glow Up Activation Session with me and rewrite your alcohol story. Find the link in the show notes or head over to marywagstaffcoach.com.
Thanks for being here. See you next week!
There Is A Life Beyond Moderation & Deprivation.
We Focus On What You Are Moving Towards, Not What You Are Moving Away From.
The Exhausting Trap Of Moderation Ends Now With My No Shame Approach Using The Proven Five Shifts Process. Follow the path of 100's of Women, Click HERE to join today!
Accountability is the key to lasting change. I’m here to not only help you eliminate the desire to drink but to fall in love with your alcohol-free life. You've taken in all the information, now it's time for implimentation Book your free consultation now. 💫
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
Ep. #94 Honoring Trauma Part 2 of 3
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way
07/07/21 • 28 min
Honoring Trauma as a crucial step in healing your relationship to alcohol.
In this 3 Part Series, we will explore what trauma is, how it is stored in the body, how you cope with trauma via stress/neurosis.
Why this is inhibiting your ability for natural joy/pleasure and is contributing to creating a stronger desire for alcohol.
What you can do from where you are and how to start letting joy in now through celebrating your accomplishments through pride!
These episodes are jam packed. Make sure to listen to all 3 from the beginning.
It is probably the most important content I have yet to create, so grab a pen and maybe listen a second time.
Trauma literally means wound.
In this way, the trauma isn’t the even, it’s the result of the event, the unprocessed emotion.
In my opinion everyone has some trauma.
Some emotional wounds have a bigger impact on life depending on other factors of coping and resilience.
Trauma doesn’t have to come from a war or abuse, it can come from feelings of isolation, fear and being misunderstood or invalidated as a child.
Something as simple as being blamed for something you didn’t do, again and again, can leave a trauma wound, if the emotion is never validated.
Today you will learn:
What ways trauma shows up you.
How it has protected you.
How alcohol creates compounding trauma.
Why you have a hard time relaxing without alcohol.
How stress is a coping mechanism.
Why receiving from other, feeling pride and a sense of accomplishment is uncomfortable.
The real reason you are listening to this show and alcohol is no longer working.
The safe, sacred and practical steps to take to honor your trauma and be an example of what’s possible for future generations.
Why you are unable to experience real joy and have to settle for synthetic joy and why it’s missing the mark.
1:1 holistic alcohol coaching takes you through a step by step process to honor trauma in a safe and effective way: schedule a complimentary alignment session to find out more: HERE.
Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me.
There Is A Life Beyond Moderation & Deprivation.
We Focus On What You Are Moving Towards, Not What You Are Moving Away From.
The Exhausting Trap Of Moderation Ends Now With My No Shame Approach Using The Proven Five Shifts Process. Follow the path of 100's of Women, Click HERE to join today!
Accountability is the key to lasting change. I’m here to not only help you eliminate the desire to drink but to fall in love with your alcohol-free life. You've taken in all the information, now it's time for implimentation Book your free consultation now. 💫
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
From Emotional Fire to Feminine Power: Marianne’s Sobriety Breakthrough (1 of 3 )
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way
02/05/25 • 28 min
The Best Case Study You’ll Ever Hear: Reclaiming Your Power and Inner Peace
This is not like any other sobriety show.
In this episode, you’ll hear one of the most transformational case studies ever shared on the show.
I sit down with my incredible client, Marianne, a high-achieving woman who knew that if she wanted to live the life she truly desired, alcohol had to go. But what happened next was something she never expected.
She didn’t just become a non-drinker—she became a woman in total control of her emotions, her peace, and her power.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why quitting drinking is just the beginning of true transformation
- How Marianne went from feeling emotionally on fire to becoming the calm, steady presence in her life and relationships
- The secret to stopping emotional reactivity and reclaiming inner peace
- How feminine leadership and personal responsibility impact relationships—without forcing change on others
- The key to staying committed when life throws its hardest challenges at you
Listen and Apply
This episode isn’t just for listening—it’s for learning. I invite you to commit to these three episodes featuring Marianne’s journey. Take something from each and apply it to your own life.
What if peace became your default?
What if emotional overwhelm was no longer your identity?
What if you had the tools to face life’s biggest challenges without needing to escape?
This is change in action. This is the feminine way.
Listen now, take notes, and start stepping into your sovereignty.
-If you’re ready to release alcohol and embrace the feminine way, let’s talk. Book a free call here.
There Is A Life Beyond Moderation & Deprivation.
We Focus On What You Are Moving Towards, Not What You Are Moving Away From.
The Exhausting Trap Of Moderation Ends Now With My No Shame Approach Using The Proven Five Shifts Process. Follow the path of 100's of Women, Click HERE to join today!
Accountability is the key to lasting change. I’m here to not only help you eliminate the desire to drink but to fall in love with your alcohol-free life. You've taken in all the information, now it's time for implimentation Book your free consultation now. 💫
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
Ep #25 Parenting, Sobriety & Choice w/ Keely Rademacher
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way
05/29/20 • 49 min
Join me for a beautiful conversation with Artist and Mother, Keely Rademacher. We discuss the deep parallels between Sobriety and Parenting. How midst and compassion to change are LEARNED behaviors, and discovering choice is part of the journey of growing awareness. We discover that the masculine dominated culture is the opposite way to support TRUE, lasting transformation and that finding the Mother within, is how to meet yourself where you are with open arms and a relaxed breath. Keely gives some amazing, fun, creative tools to start the process of seeing just how much time we actually spend in a day not just consuming alcohol, but THINKING about it. Keely brings an inspired creativity you don't want to miss. Thank you so much for you wisdom Keely. xxoo
Find out more about Keely and her work IG @pinkcloudproject
And locally in Portland, OR Meetup.com - PDX Pink Cloud Project
Also...
If you haven't yet, join us for 40 Days To Freedom From Alcohol: From self sabotage to a journey of the self. It's going to be an amazing 6 weeks. Check out Wednesdays' Episode #24 for Week 1 details! Have an amazing day, Mary
There Is A Life Beyond Moderation & Deprivation.
We Focus On What You Are Moving Towards, Not What You Are Moving Away From.
The Exhausting Trap Of Moderation Ends Now With My No Shame Approach Using The Proven Five Shifts Process. Follow the path of 100's of Women, Click HERE to join today!
Accountability is the key to lasting change. I’m here to not only help you eliminate the desire to drink but to fall in love with your alcohol-free life. You've taken in all the information, now it's time for implimentation Book your free consultation now. 💫
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
Relaxation Resistance
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way
04/16/25 • 16 min
Let’s talk about something so many high-achieving women struggle with: relaxation resistance. That underlying belief that if you relax, everything will fall apart. That if you slow down, you're lazy. That your worth is tied to your productivity.
This week, we’re unraveling the deep-seated patterns that keep you stuck in fight-or-flight mode, constantly "doing" instead of simply "being." Because the truth is:
💡 You don’t fall apart when things get hard. You rise.
💡 The real challenge is learning to soften when life is good.
💡 Your worth is NOT measured by how much you get done.
In this episode, we’ll break down:
✨ Why you resist relaxation and what’s really behind it
✨ How busyness and stress addiction keep you disconnected from pleasure
✨ The power of intentionally softening & creating safety in rest
✨ How to shift from exhaustion to luxurious spaciousness—without guilt
✨ Why “I don’t have time” is a lie & how to own your choices
⚡ It's time to stop proving your worth through over-functioning and start living in your feminine power.
👂 Let’s keep the conversation going! What landed for you in this episode? How do you resist relaxation? Slip into my DMs on Instagram—I’d love to hear from you!
Accountability is the key to lasting change. I’m here to not only help you eliminate the desire to drink but to fall in love with your alcohol-free life. You've taken in all the information, now it's time for implimentation Book your free consultation now. 💫
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
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How many episodes does Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way have?
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way currently has 317 episodes available.
What topics does Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way cover?
The podcast is about Purpose, Addiction, Health & Fitness, Alcohol, Personal Growth, Spirituality, Leadership, Alternative Health, Empowerment, Mental Health, Mindset, Personal Development, Sobriety, Podcasts, Self-Improvement, Education, Relationships, Drinking and Mindfulness.
What is the most popular episode on Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way?
The episode title 'Ep #31 Integral Part Of The Whole' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way?
The average episode length on Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way is 35 minutes.
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Episodes of Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way are typically released every 7 days.
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The first episode of Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way was released on Feb 25, 2020.
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