20. Take the Win: Embracing Yes Without Overthinking

07/17/24 • 6 min

Welcome back to *Stethoscopes and Strollers*! In this episode, I discuss the importance of taking the win when it’s presented to you. Often, we can overthink our partner’s responses and miss out on the positive moments. Let’s dive into why embracing a yes, even if it’s not enthusiastic, can make a huge difference in our relationships and mental health.

Episode Highlights:

- Setting the Stage: Picture this: you ask your husband to join a playdate with your son. He hesitates, asks a few questions, makes a face, but then says yes. What’s your reaction?

- Overthinking Yes: Are you like me, questioning his reluctance, wondering if he really wants to go, or feeling hurt by his lack of enthusiasm?

- The Impact of Expectations: Wanting our partners to respond exactly how we envision can be unfair and lead to unnecessary tension.

- Choosing the Win: Sometimes, it’s better to take the yes and move on rather than pushing for the perfect response.

Key Messages:

- Understand and Accept: It’s important to recognize that people express themselves differently. Just because the yes isn’t enthusiastic doesn’t mean it’s not genuine.

- Avoid Unnecessary Conflict: Pressing for a specific type of yes can create more conflict and diminish the positive aspects of the agreement.

- Focus on the Positive: Embrace the yes you received and focus on the shared experience rather than the manner in which it was given.

Encouragement for Listeners:

Think about the times you’ve overanalyzed a simple yes. Could accepting it at face value have led to a better outcome? Choosing to accept and appreciate the yes can lead to more harmonious and fulfilling interactions.

Call to Action:

- Share the Episode: If this episode resonates with you, share it with another physician mom who might benefit from this perspective.

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- Leave a Review: Leave us a five-star review to help more physician moms discover *Stethoscopes and Strollers*.

Thank you for tuning in. Let’s continue to create positive narratives and embrace the wins in our lives. See you on the next episode of *Stethoscopes and Strollers*!

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Episode Highlights:

- Setting the Stage: Picture this: you ask your husband to join a playdate with your son. He hesitates, asks a few questions, makes a face, but then says yes. What’s your reaction?

- Overthinking Yes: Are you like me, questioning his reluctance, wondering if he really wants to go, or feeling hurt by his lack of enthusiasm?

- The Impact of Expectations: Wanting our partners to respond exactly how we envision can be unfair and lead to unnecessary tension.

- Choosing the Win: Sometimes, it’s better to take the yes and move on rather than pushing for the perfect response.

Key Messages:

- Understand and Accept: It’s important to recognize that people express themselves differently. Just because the yes isn’t enthusiastic doesn’t mean it’s not genuine.

- Avoid Unnecessary Conflict: Pressing for a specific type of yes can create more conflict and diminish the positive aspects of the agreement.

- Focus on the Positive: Embrace the yes you received and focus on the shared experience rather than the manner in which it was given.

Encouragement for Listeners:

Call to Action:

- Share the Episode: If this episode resonates with you, share it with another physician mom who might benefit from this perspective.

- Follow and Subscribe: Don’t forget to follow the show and subscribe on your favorite podcast platform.

- Leave a Review: Leave us a five-star review to help more physician moms discover *Stethoscopes and Strollers*.

Thank you for tuning in. Let’s continue to create positive narratives and embrace the wins in our lives. See you on the next episode of *Stethoscopes and Strollers*!

What did you think of the episode, doc? Let me know!

Remember to subscribe to "Stethoscopes and Strollers" on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode of encouragement and empowerment.

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If you feel you need direct support or someone to talk through the unique challenges of being a physician mom, schedule a free coaching session.

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18. Breaking the Sleep Deprivation Myth: Strategies for Better Sleep in Early Motherhood

Welcome back to *Stethoscopes and Strollers*! In this episode, I’m tackling the widely accepted notion that poor sleep is an unavoidable part of early motherhood. Drawing on my experience as a newly minted Perinatal Mental Health Certified OBGYN, I'll explore the significant impact of sleep deprivation on maternal mental health, including its role as a risk factor for perinatal mood and anxiety disorders like postpartum depression, OCD, and psychosis.

I delve into societal expectations and what I like to call the "Struggle Olympics," where moms wear their sleep struggles as badges of honor. Why is seeking adequate sleep often stigmatized? Let’s flip that script and emphasize the importance of prioritizing sleep for both you and your child.

Episode Highlights:

- Sleep Deprivation and Mental Health: How lack of sleep can lead to severe perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.

- Societal Expectations: The harmful cultural norms that expect mothers to endure sleep deprivation without seeking help.

- Support Systems: The importance of establishing a support system before the baby arrives, including partners, family, night nannies, and doulas.

- Practical Tips: Strategies to maximize sleep from the newborn stage, such as setting clear boundaries and considering professional help for sleep training.

- Personal Experience: I share my own journey with sleep issues and the measures I took to protect my sleep as a mother and physician.

Call to Action:

- Follow the show and subscribe on your favorite podcast platform.

- Leave a five-star review to help more physician moms discover *Stethoscopes and Strollers*.

- Join us next week for another insightful episode.

Looking forward to connecting with you on this important topic! Let's break the sleep deprivation myth together.

What did you think of the episode, doc? Let me know!

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21. Dream Big, Doc: Discovering What You Truly Want

Hey doc, let's talk about what YOU want. Yeah, you! When was the last time you actually thought about what you want in life?

In this episode, I'm challenging you to reconnect with your deepest desires and dreams. I know, I know - you're thinking, "Dr. Toya, I barely have time to pee, let alone dream!" But hear me out.

We dive into:

• Why knowing what you want is crucial (even if it seems impossible right now)

• How feeling directionless can leave you stuck and unfulfilled

• The power of having a "dream life" vision (trust me, it's game-changing)

• Getting past that "I don't have time" excuse (because we both know that's what it is)

• The unexpected joy that comes from letting yourself dream BIG

I share a story about a client who listened to my "Your Dream Life or Mine" episode (go check it out if you haven't!). Just thinking about her dream life - even though it felt impossible - made her happier than she'd been all week. You deserve that feeling too!

So here's your challenge: Take baby steps to create some thinking time. Maybe it's a 10-minute solo walk, locking yourself in the bathroom (we've all been there), or even folding laundry in peace. Find what works for you.

I want you to dream EXPANSIVELY. Don't worry about the "how" right now. Ask yourself:

• What do I want my life to look like in 5 or 10 years?

• Am I happy with my current practice?

• Have I ever thought about leadership roles? Or maybe leaving medicine altogether?

• What childhood passions have I put on the back burner?

Remember, this is just step one. We'll dive deeper into making these dreams a reality in future episodes. For now, give yourself permission to think and feel the excitement of possibility.

When you're done dreaming, share this episode with another physician mom who needs this reminder. Subscribe to Stethoscopes and Strollers for weekly doses of real talk and inspiration as we navigate this wild ride of medicine and motherhood together.

Let's reclaim our dreams, one intentional thought at a time. You've got this, doc!

#PhysicianMom #DreamBig #IntentionalLiving #StethoscopesAndStrollers

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Stethoscopes and Strollers - 20. Take the Win: Embracing Yes Without Overthinking

Transcript

Will you take the win? When The win is presented to you. Will you take it? So let me explain what I mean. Let's set the stage You are asking your husband to go on a playdate with you and your son. You know, he doesn't want to go That's not his thing. You know that there are some things that he wants to do But, he says yes, but he says yes begrudgingly.
He pauses first when you ask, asks some questions, he makes kind of a face, but then he says yes. What is your reaction? What is your