54: How to Be a Better Husband & Father with Doug Holt

04/27/23 • 30 min

What if there was a place where men could come to learn how to become better husbands, fathers, and leaders in their community, a place where men could openly talk about their successes and their struggles in their marriages and their lives? In this episode of the Soaring Child, Doug Holt provides that place.

Doug is a father of a beautiful son and daughter and a successful serial entrepreneur who is on a mission to help other businessmen lead their families well. Doug now runs The Powerful Man, with a mission of helping these men save their marriages and become the best men, fathers, and husbands they can be.

In this episode, discover Doug’s advice for both men and women about how to better handle conflict, restore love to a stagnant marriage, and bring that spark back.

Key Takeaways:

[2:52] Doug's story & what brought him to this work

[5:54] Common frustrations of dads & the suicide epidemic

[9:43] 2 common responses to conflict

[14:25] Why many couples go from lovers to roommates

[15:41] An explanation of DEER mode & why men sometimes fall into this

[18:32] How couples can restore love to a stagnant marriage

[21:26] How women can bring up this topic with their husbands

[23:32] Quick things men or women can do to bring that spark back

[26:50] The hidden motives technique

Memorable Moments:

"Marriage actually takes a lot of work. It's not just a checkbox thing."

"I felt like I had a roommate with a ring, rather than a wife. And my wife felt the same way. But of course, we didn't know how to communicate that. We lay six inches apart but were six miles away emotionally."

"Men, just as much as women, want that connection."

“Suicide is the #2 cause of death for men.”

"There's a lot of men that are in this lifestyle of quiet desperation, and what they want more than anything is to be an amazing father."

"Often I hear, 'I feel like a stranger in my own home.'"

"The only people I've talked to that have perfect marriages are liars...If you've never had a problem in your marriage, that's a problem."

"You deserve more than average. This is your life...so don't wait for things to happen. Take action."

"Your energy matters when you bring it into the home."

"A wife wants to be seen, heard, and desired."

“Get to know your partner–who they are today. What are their dreams today? What are their fears?...You married this person for a reason.”

How to Connect with Doug Holt

Website: https://www.thepowerfulman.com/

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