People-Pleasing: A trauma response and how to stop it with expert Hailey Magee

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08/15/23 • 34 min

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Welcome to "Shit Talking Shrinks" - where two licensed therapists who have invested way too much money in degrees, certifications, and trainings share their love for their profession and sprinkle humor along the way!
In this episode, we are thrilled to have Hailey Magee, a certified coach, educator, and writer, joining us to dive deep into the intricate world of people-pleasing and self-abandonment.
Hailey is an expert in helping individuals worldwide break free from the exhausting cycle of self-abandonment and people-pleasing. During this episode, she talks about the origins of people-pleasing, shedding light on how this behavior can stem from a primal survival mechanism. We discuss how seeking safety and belonging can sometimes lead us down the path of overextending ourselves to accommodate others, often at the cost of our own well-being.
With her insights, Hailey reframes people-pleasing as a trauma response, drawing connections between past experiences and our tendency to constantly seek approval. Through thoughtful discussion, she provides valuable guidance on recognizing these tendencies within ourselves and offers actionable steps to break free from the people-pleasing pattern.
Throughout the episode, we explore the nuances of setting empowered boundaries and shattering the cycle of self-abandonment. Listen now to gain a deeper understanding of the psychological underpinnings behind people-pleasing behavior and how it can be unlearned to foster healthier relationships and a more authentic sense of self.
Tune in as Hailey Magee equips us with the tools to recognize, understand, and ultimately conquer the grip of people-pleasing, fostering healthier relationships and a stronger connection with our authentic selves.

Learn more about Hailey at: www.haileymagee.com
Connect with Hailey on Instagram here: @haileypaigemagee
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