Re-thinking Boundaries &amp; Becoming an Energetic Match for Your Desires

Episode 263 | The Value in Being Alone on Purpose (Whether Single or in a Relationship)

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Not everyone deserves a place in your heart.

But one thing I know for sure is that closing ourselves off isn’t the answer either.

Boundaries can become fortresses.

Then we wonder why no one can ever break through.

Like anything else, there is so much nuance to this.

It’s not always about setting every boundary under the sun with each individual person in your life.

It’s about showing up as the person you want to be, and watching the magic that unfolds as a direct and specific result of your shift.

Can we allow life to happen, while also trusting ourselves to be able to handle issues as they come up?

Can we show up in a way that simply repels what we are not ok with accepting?

Today we're talking:

How to "be" the thing that you want to call in, and then watching what unfolds in your life as a direct result.
Decide what you are and are not willing to tolerate, and shifting yoru perspectives.
Re-training your brain to recognize something different.
Leaning into the flow of life while balancing that with necessary boundaries

REFERENCES

Episode 285 | When Healthy Love Feels Scary: Some People Aren't Ready to be Truly Seen

Episode 290 | Opening When You Want to Close: Why Withholding Will Damage Your Connections

Episode 259 | Following the Path of Least Resistance

Episode 297 | Slowly, Slowly, Slowly, Suddenly: Setting Intentions for a New Year

Episode 93 | Choosing Your Family & Setting Healthy Boundaries

Episode 108 | How to Set Boundaries: The Key to Healthy Relationships

Episode 277 | Are You Waiting Around to Be Chosen? (Standards, Boundaries & Expectations)

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Episode 297 | Slowly, Slowly, Slowly, Suddenly: Setting Intentions for a New Year

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The Sacred Liminal Space: Between the Familiar & Completely Unknown

The liminal space is the in-between, the transitionary period, that awkward and uncomfortable phase when you're on the precipice of moving towards the new, but haven't quite arrived yet.

It's when you're facing the unknowns and your destination, or at the very least the path to get there, leaves you with far more questions than answers. The moments when you're so ready to close the old chapter but the new isn't quite ready, testing your patience.

And yet, there is so much growth to be found in this space.

These are the sacred grounds upon which transformation is created, when you're closer than ever to find what you've been searching for, letting go of everything that's been holding you back, or being more open to love.

This is where the magic happens, even when it feels like nothing is happening at all.

Today we're talking:

How to navigate the liminal spaces that can appear in your life
Practicing looking ahead with hope
Appreciating this period of time for all of the gifts that it offers, and why life is not on pause even when it seems nothing is changing
Trusting that beautiful things are unfolding you, even when you can't quite see them taking shape yet.

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REFERENCES

Episode 223 | Living in the Present: Your Life is Not on Hold

Episode 238 | 20 Things Not Worth Postponing in Life

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Changing How We Define Emotional Strength & Recognizing Emotions as Data

Our emotions are data and are flashing lights to what we care about.

And sometimes, we can feel as though certain emotions make us feel weak. Or, we've been stuck in the mode of "the strong one" for so long, we've lost sight of the idea that emotional strength can show up in so many different forms.

Overall some of the most common ideas of emotional strength may look or sound like:

Strength as “tough upper lip”
Grin and bear it
Laugh it off

We may see someone swallow their pain without even feeling or expressing it and call it grace when it’s actually killing them on the inside, though they maybe feel as though they have to hold it all in to gain the title of "strong."

Today we're talking about all of this and:

Why emotions need to move
What it means to "feel"
When laughing our way through pain becomes a defense mechanism rather than a true reflection of how we're feeling
The stories we create around our emotions that can create more suffering for ourselves
Why we fear going fully into an emotion
Some of the physical ways emotions can be expressed through us
The strength that can be found in the depths of fragility
Re-defining your relationship to what you consider to be "emotional strength"

When it comes to emotional strength, all of this to say:

Yes, there will always be more “room to grow” - AND we also have lives to lead.

Don’t allow yourself to get pulled so deeply into the healing work that you don’t take steps forward with more of what you want in your life because you’re in a constant state of believing you’re not ready.

Re-define your relationship to what you consider to be emotional strength.

Allow yourself to take action that is imperfect and messy and even if you don’t feel ready.

And be open and willing to both accept and receive help.

Take a listen to the episode, and let me know what you think!

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