Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough

EPISODE 268: You’re Not Needy, you’re a Human with Needs

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Cultivating a Deep Sense of Self Worth

Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough

04/22/21 • 33 min

“The universe will remove anything you put your self worth in, to remind you it doesn’t live there.”

-Mark Groves

Your value and your worth is INNATE. You don’t have to earn it, fix something about yourself that you may have believed in the past was broken, you don’t need someone else to love you before your worth shows up. You are worthy. Period. Full stop.

Todays we're talking all about;

The deep work of cultivating your sense of self worth
How to detach our self worth from our jobs, our income, or our partners
Why showing up for yourself consistently is so important when doing this growth work
And so much more!

Have a listen now!

For a copy of today's transcription, head over to EPISODE 270 Cultivating a Deep Sense of Self Worth

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Episode 259 | Following the Path of Least Resistance

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Stop Chasing People & Accept Nothing Less Than F*ck Yes Relationships

Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough

02/15/22 • 29 min

Stop trying to keep something or someone that doesn't want to be kept.

Not everyone can come with you to the next phase of your life. That’s ok. It's part of allowing the flow of life trying to hang onto a relationship of any kind with someone who isn't invested and feeling the f*ck yes.

Because we only want f*ck yes people in our lives.

Friends, lovers, partners, clients, whatever that looks like for you.

We're here for the real deal. No wishy washy BS around here.

Today we're talking:

The mutual reciprocity that's required for healthy, fulfilling relationships - but that does *not* mean keeping a scoreboard
Allowing the flow of life but letting go of the people that aren't willing, able or meant to come with us on their own journey. And recognizing that releasing allows them to deepen into their own journey, as well. It's the ultimate act of love.
Showing up and communicating in ways that the version of you 5 years from now will be proud of.
Building your inner circle and vetting people to see if they'll be a good fit in your life (and vice versa)
Bringing more curiosity and playfulness into our relationships

REFERENCES

Episode 269 | The Right People Feel Different to Your Nervous System

Episode 270 | Cultivating a Deep Sense of Self Worth

Episode 283 | Building Your Circle of Influence, Regulating Emotions & Breaking the Stigma Around Being Single

Episode 289 | Consistency is Sexy as F*ck in Relationships

Episode 220 | What Self-Betrayal Looks Like

Episode 291 | Confident Detachment & Radical Honesty in Relationships with Dr. Jade Teta

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Episode 266 | Not All Men, But Almost Always with Traver Boehm of Man UNcivilized

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Coming Back to Yourself & Creating Conscious Relationships with Leila Dylla

Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough

01/07/22 • 71 min

"Who we are is eternal. Everything else is temporary."

-Leila Dylla

The incredible Leila Dylla is joining us today, and this was a beautiful treat.

She has such a wide and varied story and background, and brings with her an incredibly holistic approach to how she shows up.

Leila is inspiring the heart of change around the world through her writing, speaking, and passionate teaching. As a leader in the modern day spiritual and wellness world, she has been teaching Yoga Asana for over a decade, and is deeply inspired by the path of Bhakti Yoga, energy medicine, transcendental psychology & breath work.

She spent the last 8 years sharing her insights leading group retreats, and Yoga Teacher Trainings. Leila now specializes in trauma informed life coaching, as she guides women back to their Feminine embodiment, Truth, and authentic personal power.

Leila’s background in kinesiology, nutrition, rehabilitative movement, and energy medicine, gives her rare insight into the body and the health challenges faced by women navigating our current culture.

Her deepest passion lies in unraveling and empowering the divine feminine force of the world, and awakening the individual hearts of her clients.

She is an intuitive, self-proclaimed comedian (I can fully attest to her hilarity) and light hearted enthusiast of sacred living. Leila and her dog Folly are usually found in the sunshine, with a cup of coffee in hand.

This conversation with Leila was nothing short of magical. It may have taken us a few months to make it happen, but it was well worth the wait!

We're going into:

Radical self approval
Learning how to move through emotions without having them swallow us
Developing a flexible nervous system - especially when it comes to matters of the heart.
How conscious relationships can be a source of deep healing
The idea of receiving - for both men and women
Living a full, technicolour life and everything that involves.

And so much more than could ever be listed in a few bullet points, truly.

I'm pretty sure if Leila was a colour, she would be a panoply of every colour of the rainbow, and it comes through in every moment of this discussion.

Take a listen, and be sure to connect with Leila below!

REFERENCES

Episode 280 | Choosing Relentless Courage, Facing Death & Challenging Societal Norms with Traver Boehm of Man UNcivilized

Episode 284 | How to Recognize a Healthy Relationship, Radical Honesty & Making Kindness Cool with Dr. Jeremy Goldberg

Books Mentioned:

Wild Woman's Way, by Michaela Boehm

Mary Magdalene Revealed, by Meggan Watterson

CONNECT WITH LEILA

Website: www.leiladylla.com

The Heart Space

Instagram: @leila.dylla

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A Conversation About Abusive Relationships: Shame, Victim Blaming & Shattering Myths / Stereotypes

Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough

07/06/21 • 34 min

If you’ve been listening for a while you know I talk about some pretty “uncomfortable” things around here. Well today is no exception, in fact it may be the most uncomfortable episode I have ever recorded. Today is a conversation about abusive relationships, and I want to be clear that this episode does not have the answers, it is about opening the door to a highly uncomfortable, stigmatized, and difficult topic, and offering some perspectives you may not have previously considered.

I’ll be sharing;

Some very startling and stark facts, research, and statistics around reported abuse globally in a variety of different demographics
The Definition of trauma bonding and what could make it a huge factor in why someone stays in an abusive relationship
Falsehoods, stereotypes, misconceptions and a lack of empathy I’ve heard around this topic over the years all while speaking about why we need to shatter these and speak up and out about abuse in relationships.
And more...

Are you ready? Let’s go

For the full transcription of today's episode head over to https://emilygoughcoaching.com/a-conversation-about-abusive-relationships-shame-victim-blaming-shattering-myths-stereotypes/

References from today's episode:

If you are experiencing abuse of any kind and need assistance please check out the websites below:

https://endingviolencecanada.org/getting-help-2/

https://www.ontario.ca/page/get-help-if-you-are-experiencing-violence

https://www.respect.gov.au/services/

Episode 130: Cancer, Depression, Strength: A Powerful Story of Hope and Resilience with Tom McClelland https://emilygoughcoaching.com/cancer-depression-strength-a-powerful-story-of-hope-resilience-with-tom-mcclelland/
Episode 229: Mens Mental Health in the Workplace with Scott Baker of Baker Group AU https://emilygoughcoaching.com/mens-mental-health-in-the-workplace-with-scott-baker-of-baker-group-au/
Episode 266: Not All Men But Almost Always with Traver Boehm https://emilygoughcoaching.com/not-all-men-but-almost-always-with-traver-boehm-of-man-uncivilized/
Episode 117: The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity https://emilygoughcoaching.com/the-9-year-affair-lessons-in-infidelity/

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Re-thinking Boundaries & Becoming an Energetic Match for Your Desires

Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough

02/22/22 • 21 min

Not everyone deserves a place in your heart.

But one thing I know for sure is that closing ourselves off isn’t the answer either.

Boundaries can become fortresses.

Then we wonder why no one can ever break through.

Like anything else, there is so much nuance to this.

It’s not always about setting every boundary under the sun with each individual person in your life.

It’s about showing up as the person you want to be, and watching the magic that unfolds as a direct and specific result of your shift.

Can we allow life to happen, while also trusting ourselves to be able to handle issues as they come up?

Can we show up in a way that simply repels what we are not ok with accepting?

Today we're talking:

How to "be" the thing that you want to call in, and then watching what unfolds in your life as a direct result.
Decide what you are and are not willing to tolerate, and shifting yoru perspectives.
Re-training your brain to recognize something different.
Leaning into the flow of life while balancing that with necessary boundaries

REFERENCES

Episode 263 | The Value in Being Alone on Purpose (Whether Single or in a Relationship)

Episode 285 | When Healthy Love Feels Scary: Some People Aren't Ready to be Truly Seen

Episode 290 | Opening When You Want to Close: Why Withholding Will Damage Your Connections

Episode 259 | Following the Path of Least Resistance

Episode 297 | Slowly, Slowly, Slowly, Suddenly: Setting Intentions for a New Year

Episode 93 | Choosing Your Family & Setting Healthy Boundaries

Episode 108 | How to Set Boundaries: The Key to Healthy Relationships

Episode 277 | Are You Waiting Around to Be Chosen? (Standards, Boundaries & Expectations)

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An Excerpt From My Journal: The Vulnerability & Fullness of Gratitude

Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough

11/25/21 • 21 min

First up: Join Becoming YOU, the brand new 4-week small group coaching program I'm launching all about reminding yourself exactly who the f*ck you are.

For more details, click here. We kick off Tuesday, November 30th @ 7pm EST. Only 10 spots available, there are still a few left!

And you're going to want to join my email list because there's a LOT happening in 2022 and if we're email friends, you'll be the first to have the details pop into your inbox!

WHEW....this episode feels like I bared a little piece of my soul to you.

I have a physical journal, but sometimes if it's not around or if I can feel words flowing out of me so fast I don't know what to do with them all, I'll quickly jot them down in my phone instead.

I was searching through my notes app looking for something when I came across an entry I wrote back in May, and when I re-read it, intuition told me that someone else needed to hear it.

This is a conversation about the fullness of life. The pleasure, the pain and everything in between. The intimate power of human connection and how it transforms us to our very core.

It's about learning to lean into every corner of life and allowing yourself to grow through it all.

It's about love, in every sense of the word.

This is the most emotional episode I've ever released. I hope a snippet of my inner world helps you to transform your own.

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Self Love & Loneliness: Learning to Like Yourself

Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough

02/08/22 • 25 min

We hear a lot about the journey to self-love.

But that starts with actually *liking* yourself first, and doing this work can feel lonely at times.

As humans, one of the biggest battles we all face is one with loneliness.

It's one of the things that keeps us in mediocre relationships far past their expiry date, because being in the company of another seems in theory to be better than being alone.

But relationships with others are not the cure to loneliness.

That's something each of us has to face at multiple points in our own journeys, and it can come in different forms.

Here’s what I want you to know about loneliness:

The better acquainted you become with it, the less you will fear it.

The more you will accept that loneliness will always reappear at one time or another, that there’s no avoiding it.

The better you’ll begin to understand what the loneliness is trying to teach you.

The more open you will be to hear the wisdom loneliness is whispering into your ear.

And the more appreciative you’ll be of a deep sense of connection with the people you love most whenever loneliness decides to part ways for a time.

There's freedom to be found in being able to come face to face with your loneliness.

And it may reveal beautiful new sides of you that you'd never before experienced and teach you like yourself even more.

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Episode 296 | Age Gap Relationships & Compatibility with Dr. Jade Teta

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How to Handle Dating & Social Media with Integrity with Dr. Jade Teta

Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough

02/03/22 • 45 min

One of my closest friends Jade Teta and I are continuing our relationship mini-series today talking all about social media and dating in the world of technology we live in today, because it's created a whole new set of situations that we have to learn to navigate with care and compassion, especially for the people we're dating or involved with.

Dr. Jade and I are talking about:

Debating the do’s and don’ts of social media when it comes to dating and our romantic relationships
Being honest about your relationship status online, especially if you have any kind of social media presence (though really, nearly everyone has a social media presence these days, even if you don’t have a business)
The integrity and transparency required to show up for your relationship and your partner
Difference between privacy and secrecy
Managing the various dynamics and potential minefields of likes, comments, DMs, and even ass shots. Yep, we’re going there.

There's a LOT to unpack here! And we'd love to hear your thoughts, send either of us a message to let us know your experiences in this area and how the episode landed for you.

Plus, check out the other episodes in the relationship series we've been doing below.

REFERENCES

Episode 293 | The Betrayed & Betrayer: Growing From Infidelity with Dr. Jade Teta

Episode 291 | Confident Detachment & Radical Honesty in Relationships with Dr. Jade Teta

Episode 349 | Debating the Role of Romantic Relationships in Fulfillment, Purpose & Growth with Dr. Jade Teta

CONNECT WITH JADE

Instagram: @jadeteta

Website: https://www.jadeteta.com/

Podcast: Next Level Human

Books/Courses: Jade Teta

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