A Conversation About Abusive Relationships: Shame, Victim Blaming & Shattering Myths / Stereotypes

07/06/21 • 34 min

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If you’ve been listening for a while you know I talk about some pretty “uncomfortable” things around here. Well today is no exception, in fact it may be the most uncomfortable episode I have ever recorded. Today is a conversation about abusive relationships, and I want to be clear that this episode does not have the answers, it is about opening the door to a highly uncomfortable, stigmatized, and difficult topic, and offering some perspectives you may not have previously considered.

I’ll be sharing;

Some very startling and stark facts, research, and statistics around reported abuse globally in a variety of different demographics
The Definition of trauma bonding and what could make it a huge factor in why someone stays in an abusive relationship
Falsehoods, stereotypes, misconceptions and a lack of empathy I’ve heard around this topic over the years all while speaking about why we need to shatter these and speak up and out about abuse in relationships.
And more...

Are you ready? Let’s go

For the full transcription of today's episode head over to https://emilygoughcoaching.com/a-conversation-about-abusive-relationships-shame-victim-blaming-shattering-myths-stereotypes/

References from today's episode:

If you are experiencing abuse of any kind and need assistance please check out the websites below:

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://endingviolencecanada.org/getting-help-2/

https://www.ontario.ca/page/get-help-if-you-are-experiencing-violence

https://www.respect.gov.au/services/

Episode 130: Cancer, Depression, Strength: A Powerful Story of Hope and Resilience with Tom McClelland https://emilygoughcoaching.com/cancer-depression-strength-a-powerful-story-of-hope-resilience-with-tom-mcclelland/
Episode 229: Mens Mental Health in the Workplace with Scott Baker of Baker Group AU https://emilygoughcoaching.com/mens-mental-health-in-the-workplace-with-scott-baker-of-baker-group-au/
Episode 266: Not All Men But Almost Always with Traver Boehm https://emilygoughcoaching.com/not-all-men-but-almost-always-with-traver-boehm-of-man-uncivilized/
Episode 117: The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity https://emilygoughcoaching.com/the-9-year-affair-lessons-in-infidelity/

Domestice Violence Statistics Globally:

I’ll be sharing;

Some very startling and stark facts, research, and statistics around reported abuse globally in a variety of different demographics
The Definition of trauma bonding and what could make it a huge factor in why someone stays in an abusive relationship
Falsehoods, stereotypes, misconceptions and a lack of empathy I’ve heard around this topic over the years all while speaking about why we need to shatter these and speak up and out about abuse in relationships.
And more...

Are you ready? Let’s go

For the full transcription of today's episode head over to https://emilygoughcoaching.com/a-conversation-about-abusive-relationships-shame-victim-blaming-shattering-myths-stereotypes/

References from today's episode:

If you are experiencing abuse of any kind and need assistance please check out the websites below:

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://endingviolencecanada.org/getting-help-2/

https://www.ontario.ca/page/get-help-if-you-are-experiencing-violence

https://www.respect.gov.au/services/

Episode 130: Cancer, Depression, Strength: A Powerful Story of Hope and Resilience with Tom McClelland https://emilygoughcoaching.com/cancer-depression-strength-a-powerful-story-of-hope-resilience-with-tom-mcclelland/
Episode 229: Mens Mental Health in the Workplace with Scott Baker of Baker Group AU https://emilygoughcoaching.com/mens-mental-health-in-the-workplace-with-scott-baker-of-baker-group-au/
Episode 266: Not All Men But Almost Always with Traver Boehm https://emilygoughcoaching.com/not-all-men-but-almost-always-with-traver-boehm-of-man-uncivilized/
Episode 117: The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity https://emilygoughcoaching.com/the-9-year-affair-lessons-in-infidelity/

Domestice Violence Statistics Globally:

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The unique challenges that can come with those conversations, including the likelihood of losing a lot of relationships too
Why you have to keep showing up with courage every single day if you're going to get to where you're going, whatever that might look like for you AND to hang on to the little moments that will continue to propel you forward even when everything else might feel dark.
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REFERENCES

Episode 266: Not All Men, But Almost Always with Traver Boehm of Man UNcivilized

Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity

Episode 54 | My Story with Alcohol

CONNECT WITH TRAVER

Website

Instagram: @traverboehm

UNcivilized Nation

Book: Man UNcivilized

Podcast: The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

TEDx Talk: How to Make Pain Your Guru

TEDx Talk: Why We Need More UNcivilized Men

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References:

EPISODE 139: The Transformative Power Of Breathwork with Sara Silverstein

https://emilygoughcoaching.com/the-transformative-power-of-breathwork-with-sara-silverstein/

FIND SARA ONLINE:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarasilverstein/

Website: https://www.sarasil.com/breathewithme

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