Healing from Emotional Abuse: Breaking the Chains of Trauma

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01/31/25 • 50 min

The Journey to Emotional Healing with Patrick Doyle

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews Patrick Doyle, a bestselling author and expert in emotional abuse recovery, addiction counseling, and spiritual leadership. Patrick shares his profound personal experiences with trauma, abuse, and addiction, which led him to help others on their paths to healing.

The discussion touches on the dangers of avoiding pain, the impact of childhood trauma on emotional expression, the complexity of emotional abuse, and the importance of creating safe spaces for honesty and recovery.

Patrick also shares his transformational journey, how he coped with an abusive upbringing, his unexpected path into counseling, and the profound insights that have shaped his life and work.

00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel

00:19 Meet Patrick Doyle: Expert in Emotional Abuse Recovery

01:33 Patrick's Traumatic Childhood

04:12 Turning Point: A Religious Experience

06:02 The Struggle with Addiction

09:37 The Power of Care and Overcoming Denial

20:56 Understanding Emotional Abuse

24:51 The Dangers of One-Size-Fits-All Advice

25:57 Impact of Childhood Trauma on Men

27:11 Addressing Core Lies for Healing

28:07 Recognizing and Documenting Abusive Patterns

32:01 The Importance of Safety in Healing

32:54 The Harm of Labeling in Psychological Counseling

34:41 Trust and Value in Relationships

37:03 Invisible Scars of Emotional Abuse

39:47 Gender Differences in Abuse Recovery

42:59 Resources and Support for Abuse Survivors

49:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Connect with Patrick

Patrick Doyle -- https://www.patrickdoyle.life/

Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/patrickdoyle.life

Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/patrickdoyle.life/

YouTube -- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNn5kNXoeuPPZLhuNpWLXIA

Resources

Death of a Thousand Cuts: The Impact of Emotional Abuse, Patrick Doyle -- https://amzn.to/4gnc5cE

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

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The Journey to Emotional Healing with Patrick Doyle

Patrick also shares his transformational journey, how he coped with an abusive upbringing, his unexpected path into counseling, and the profound insights that have shaped his life and work.

00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel

00:19 Meet Patrick Doyle: Expert in Emotional Abuse Recovery

01:33 Patrick's Traumatic Childhood

04:12 Turning Point: A Religious Experience

06:02 The Struggle with Addiction

09:37 The Power of Care and Overcoming Denial

20:56 Understanding Emotional Abuse

24:51 The Dangers of One-Size-Fits-All Advice

25:57 Impact of Childhood Trauma on Men

27:11 Addressing Core Lies for Healing

28:07 Recognizing and Documenting Abusive Patterns

32:01 The Importance of Safety in Healing

32:54 The Harm of Labeling in Psychological Counseling

34:41 Trust and Value in Relationships

37:03 Invisible Scars of Emotional Abuse

39:47 Gender Differences in Abuse Recovery

42:59 Resources and Support for Abuse Survivors

49:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Connect with Patrick

Patrick Doyle -- https://www.patrickdoyle.life/

Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/patrickdoyle.life

Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/patrickdoyle.life/

YouTube -- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNn5kNXoeuPPZLhuNpWLXIA

Resources

Death of a Thousand Cuts: The Impact of Emotional Abuse, Patrick Doyle -- https://amzn.to/4gnc5cE

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group

Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support

YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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The Power of Truly Showing Up: Embracing Humanity

Embracing the True Meaning of Showing Up with Marcy Axelrod

How Are You Showing Up?

In this episode of Real Men Feel, Andy Grant hosts Marcy Axelrod, a best-selling author and TEDx speaker, who delves into the true essence of 'showing up.' Marcy explains that showing up isn't just about being present but a deeper existential experience influenced by our beliefs, thoughts, and attention systems. They discuss the three roles we habitually play—self, situational, and societal—and how truly showing up can change our lives and improve our performance.

Marcy also shares insights from her latest book, 'How We Choose to Show Up.' She provides practical steps for individuals to truly show up, emphasizing the importance of care, noticing, and acceptance.

00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel

00:18 Introducing Marcy Axelrod

01:22 Understanding 'Showing Up'

03:12 The Two Attention Systems

04:43 Levels of Showing Up

09:40 Society's Impact on Showing Up

17:18 The Natural Progression of Showing Up

24:18 Marcy's Personal Journey

24:53 A Childhood Memory and Its Impact

25:48 The Journey into Psychology and Consulting

26:09 Practical Steps to Show Up in 2025

27:31 The Importance of Noticing and Gratitude

28:31 Belief Systems and Emotional Care

32:34 The Role of Society and Individual Responsibility

36:04 The Concept of Showing Up

38:58 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

Connect with Marcy

Marcy Axelrod -- http://www.choosetoshowup.com/

LinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcy/

Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/marcyaxelrod/

Resources

How We Choose to Show Up: Nature's Playbook for Creating a Meaningful Life, Marcy Axelrod

-- https://amzn.to/4jjkIrq

Immoderate Greatness: Why Civilizations Fail, William Ophuls -- https://amzn.to/3PIVbu5

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group

Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support

YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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From Pulpit to Porn: Faith, Fantasy, and Freedom

From Pastor to Porn Star: Navigating Faith, Stigma, and Performance Anxiety with Doc Chocolate

In this episode of 'Real Men Feel,' host Andy Grant welcomes Doc Chocolate, a former pastor turned porn star who is now a coach and content creator in the adult industry. Doc shares his unconventional journey, from his pastorship in his 20s to embracing the swinging lifestyle and entering the porn industry. The conversation delves deep into his struggles with reconciling his faith, overcoming stigma, and managing performance anxiety.

Doc also discusses the intricacies of alternative lifestyles, such as cuckolding, and offers advice on living authentically without seeking societal approval. Additionally, he opens up about his battles with depression and the support systems that have helped him.

This episode candidly explores the importance of living one's truth, the complexities of human emotion, and the importance of self-acceptance.

00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel

00:19 Introducing Doc Chocolate

00:55 Doc's Journey from Pastor to Porn Star

02:55 Reconciling Faith and Career

04:14 Personal Relationships in the Adult Industry

07:32 Understanding Cuckolding

15:16 Dealing with Depression and Mental Health

21:34 Challenges and Realities of Being a Porn Star

24:19 Coaching and Advice for Men

26:20 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Connect with Doc