Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

Andy Grant

Real Men Feel with Andy Grant was founded to encourage men to allow for and express all of their emotions. We remind men that they are human beings. Producer and host, Andy Grant is an author, speaker, transformation coach, healer, and suicide attempt survivor. Learn more at http://TheAndyGrant.com. Silver Signal Awards for Most Inspirational Podcast and for Best Self-Help & Self-Improvement. See show notes http://realmenfeel.org. Want to be a guest on Real Men Feel with Andy Grant? Send Andy Grant a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/realmenfeel

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Connecting Through Trauma | Life-Changing Stories

Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

04/14/23 • 38 min

When life gets hard, a lot of men withdraw. They talk less. In the face of a health challenge for yourself or a loved one, you might be much more willing to discuss logistics and tasks than the emotional impact.

My guest today is not most men. He believes in having hard conversations with people going through trauma.

David Richman is an author, public speaker, and endurance athlete whose mission is to form more meaningful human connections through storytelling. With his most recent book, Cycle of Lives, David shares stories of people overcoming trauma and delves deeply into their emotional journeys with cancer.

He interviewed fifteen people who were profoundly affected by cancer - either as a caregiver, patient, or loved one - and explored the dynamic of why it's so hard to discuss the emotional aspects of the journey. These evocative stories give the reader a few tools to take away and use in their own lives when encountering the difficulties of talking to others about the emotional aspects of trauma.

We discuss getting past assumptions, beginning the hard conversations, and being open to the negative and positive aspects of traumatic experiences. To connect with the people we care about, we must be willing to be uncomfortable. There is more behind anyone's story than we know.

Don't worry about what's "proper." Let someone know you care authentically.

Topics and Questions

1:13: - What prompted you to want to write a book dealing with cancer?
1:13: - What prompted you to want to write a book dealing with cancer?
4:44 - Did each participant have a positive side to their experience?
7:12 - How did you decide on these 15 stories?
9:46 - Did you come across any common themes amongst the participants?
13:52 - Did you see that prior trauma led to more or less resilience regarding cancer?
18:27 - Fear of abandonment during trauma.
19:49 - The lie of not wanting to upset someone further.
21:09 - Is it scarier that people might not care or that they would care?
22:48 - Did everyone want the same sort of support?
25:44 - How did you get people to open up to you on such a personal and profound level?
27:21 - Is the advice the same for friends and family who are not trying to write books?
28:44 - What do you hope the reader takes away from reading your book?
29:47 - How do you think the participants' lives were affected by your deep interactions with them?
35:24 - What's the best way for people to learn more about what you are up to?
35:32 - Anything you are looking forward to?
36:16 - Did this prompt participants to write or share more of their stories?

"People are so fearful of saying the wrong thing, while the person going thru the trauma is wondering why nobody will talk to them." - David Richman

Links

Instagram -- instagram.com/davidrichman_cycleoflives/

David Ricman -- CycleofLives.org

See Cycle of Lives on Amazon, https://amzn.to/3GK6zlF

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group

YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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Tapping Into The Strength of Men | The Power of Choice

Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

04/21/23 • 36 min

I love to give any man who is being of service a platform to share his message. I met today's guest, Dustin Bakker, in an online program and was immediately impressed by his willingness to be authentic and vulnerable and his desire to help other men.

After losing his sense of happiness, Dustin began changing his life and slowly became aware of what his mind, body, and soul were trying to tell him. Dustin did the research, study, and inner work required to discover his happiness. He's gone on to create F.O.ReaLiving and The Strength of Men.

We discuss the power of choice, expressing emotions, and the goal of a stronger connection to our authentic selves. Dustin shares how drugs were one of his masks, keeping him from his strengths and true self.

Dustin is a strong example of self-sufficiency while also yearning for connection. It does not have to be one or the other. Community is another strength that society seems to have let go of.

We all benefit from helping others.

Topics and Questions

1:04 - Tell me about what growing up was like for you.
1:53 - Was your general outlook positive, negative, or neutral?
2:44 - Did you follow your mom's path of being a partier?
4:25 - Was being alone so much growing up a happy time for you?
5:21 - When did you realize your life wasn't working to the extent you wanted it to?
8:03 - Can you expand on the "movie scene" you came home to?
9:12 - Have you always had that intuitive sense?
10:19 - Is a group of scaffolders in British Colombia usually talking about happiness and fulfillment?
11:19 - What do you do in your men's gathering?
12:02 - What are some of the tools you've learned?
14:09 - What do you see as the strength of men?
15:54 - What made you appreciate your emotions?
19:37 - Could you feel connected to your authentic self when drunk or high?
20:56 -How did you learn what it means to be a man?
22:48 - What is FOReal Living?
24:59 - Can you share a practice, program, or book that has helped you?
25:48 - What is one thing you wish more men knew?
27:24 - What are you most proud of?
29:15 - What would you like to see The Strength of Men become?
34:51 - How can people learn more about what you are up to?

"Choice is the superpower that we all have." - Dustin Bakker

Links

Instagram -- instagram.com/thestrenghtofmen/

Facebook -- facebook.com/thestrengthofmen

Dustin Bakker -- TheStrengthOfMen.com

F.O.Realiving -- forealiving.com

Healing & Mystical States Are Just A Breath Away on Amazon, https://amzn.to/41OdGS5

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group

YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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Did Your Partner Betray You? | Recovering From Betrayal Part 2

Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

06/02/23 • 42 min

Men and women deal with emotions differently, but we all have them. And any man who believes that stuffing and denying their feelings are the path to a happy and successful life - all I can say is that is NOT my experience, nor is it the experience of anyone I've ever met. One of the most painful things a man can experience is the betrayal by his spouse.

Today is part 2 of Recovering From Betrayal, focusing on a man betrayed by his wife.

My returning guest, Vanessa Cardenas, is your trusted advisor for Betrayal and Transformation. Vanessa is a highly experienced C-Suite Executive, Mentor, Coach, and Speaker with a degree in Industrial Psychology. She is also the founder and CEO of Understanding Ear, LLC, where she empowers individuals and groups to heal from betrayal, amplify their authenticity, and find love and happiness on their terms.

Vanessa shares how she went from supporting women to serving more and more men. We explore the pain, secrecy, and shame men experience after discovering their spouse's cheating. Vanessa also explores why men and women have affairs and the most common question men have when they find out they've been betrayed.

While women often want to tell the world when they've been cheated on, that is not the typical response for men. What is so crucial for a man who has been betrayed is to forgive himself.

The core message is to be willing to have difficult conversations before betrayal to avoid needing them after.

Topics and Questions

2:12: How different is the experience of recovering from betrayal when you are the betrayed party?
7:33 - Vanessa's first male client
12:23 - The six most common reasons women cheat
16:26 - What does a man feel from betrayal?
19:34 - Differences between how a man feels and how he thinks society says he should feel.
24:19 - Is this journey of self-forgiveness different if the wife wants the relationship to continue or not?
27:47 - Are there any best practices for a man when he discovers his partner is cheating?
34:44 - What is the best way for people to find out about everything you are up to?
37:02 - The response to Vanessa's first appearance

Links

Vanessa Cardenas -- https://www.understandingear.com

Talk to Vanessa -- https://www.understandingear.com/betrayed-men

Recommended resources

Man's Search for Meaning -- https://amzn.to/43BFxG0

RMF 149 - Men in Emotionally Abusive Relationships

http://realmenfeel.org/2019/09/24/ep-149-men-in-emotionally-abusive-relationships/

RMF 226 - The Abuse of Men by Women

http://realmenfeel.org/2021/02/16/the-abuse-of-men-by-women/

https://www.truthaboutdeception.com/

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group

YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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Guts, Grit & The Grind of Being a Man

Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

10/06/20 • 55 min

"After losing a brother to suicide, I don't want anyone to die in isolation and despair."

Psychologist, author, speaker, entrepreneur, and suicide loss survivor, Dr. Sally Spencer-Thomas, joins us to discuss broadening the framework of suicide prevention and what we can all do to keep men alive.

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Healing from Emotional Abuse: Breaking the Chains of Trauma

Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

01/31/25 • 50 min

The Journey to Emotional Healing with Patrick Doyle

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews Patrick Doyle, a bestselling author and expert in emotional abuse recovery, addiction counseling, and spiritual leadership. Patrick shares his profound personal experiences with trauma, abuse, and addiction, which led him to help others on their paths to healing.

The discussion touches on the dangers of avoiding pain, the impact of childhood trauma on emotional expression, the complexity of emotional abuse, and the importance of creating safe spaces for honesty and recovery.

Patrick also shares his transformational journey, how he coped with an abusive upbringing, his unexpected path into counseling, and the profound insights that have shaped his life and work.

00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel

00:19 Meet Patrick Doyle: Expert in Emotional Abuse Recovery

01:33 Patrick's Traumatic Childhood

04:12 Turning Point: A Religious Experience

06:02 The Struggle with Addiction

09:37 The Power of Care and Overcoming Denial

20:56 Understanding Emotional Abuse

24:51 The Dangers of One-Size-Fits-All Advice

25:57 Impact of Childhood Trauma on Men

27:11 Addressing Core Lies for Healing

28:07 Recognizing and Documenting Abusive Patterns

32:01 The Importance of Safety in Healing

32:54 The Harm of Labeling in Psychological Counseling

34:41 Trust and Value in Relationships

37:03 Invisible Scars of Emotional Abuse

39:47 Gender Differences in Abuse Recovery

42:59 Resources and Support for Abuse Survivors

49:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Connect with Patrick

Patrick Doyle -- https://www.patrickdoyle.life/

Facebook -- https://www.facebook.com/patrickdoyle.life

Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/patrickdoyle.life/

YouTube -- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNn5kNXoeuPPZLhuNpWLXIA

Resources

Death of a Thousand Cuts: The Impact of Emotional Abuse, Patrick Doyle -- https://amzn.to/4gnc5cE

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group

Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support

YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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The Healing Potential of Psychedelics

Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

02/21/25 • 43 min

Exploring Psychedelics: Healing, Integration, and Personal Growth with Matt Zeman

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant is joined by Matt Zeman, a bestselling author and expert in psychedelics, to discuss the transformative power of these substances. The conversation delves into Matt's journey into the world of psychedelics, their potential benefits for mental health, particularly for veterans, and the differentiation between tripping for fun and using psychedelics as a therapeutic tool. They also explore the importance of integration and community support in processing psychedelic experiences. Matt shares insights on various psychedelics, including magic mushrooms, ayahuasca, and more, along with his recommendations for safe and sacred use. The episode highlights the potential for psychedelics to act as catalysts for personal growth and healing while emphasizing the need for responsible use and proper support systems.

00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel

00:17 Introducing Matt Zeman

01:14 Personal Psychedelic Experiences

03:01 The Healing Power of Psychedelics

13:50 Therapeutic and Spiritual Use of Psychedelics

17:08 Legal and Decriminalization Aspects

21:31 Integration and Community Support

24:57 Understanding the Risks of Psychedelics

25:50 Exploring Holotropic Breathwork

26:08 Personal Healing Through Breathwork

27:45 Comparing Breathwork and Psychedelics

28:57 Guidance on Choosing Psychedelics or Breathwork

30:33 Exciting Areas in Psychedelic Research

33:23 Integrating Psychedelic Experiences

39:50 Veteran Support and Psychedelics

43:07 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

Connect with Matt

Matt Zemon -- https://mattzemon.com/

LinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattzemon/

Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/matt.zemon/

Resources

The Veteran's Guide to Psychedelics -- https://amzn.to/4k7vuS6

All Matt's books -- https://amzn.to/3D4Q70C

Heroic Hearts Project -- https://heroicheartsproject.org/

Andy's book on Holotropic Breathwork -- https://amzn.to/4hKPhp1

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Ready to create your best year yet? Book a Clarity Call with Andy at https://theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group

Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support

YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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Did You Betray Your Partner? | Recovering From Betrayal Part 1

Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

05/05/23 • 44 min

Since men are human, they can make mistakes. One aspect of life we make mistakes in is our relationships. Since so many studies show that a strong prediction of happiness and longevity is the quality of our relationships, betraying our partner is a significant issue.

Google says that nearly half of individuals in monogamous relationships admit to having an affair. Close to 25% of marriages stay together after an instance of cheating.

My guest today, Vanessa Cardenas, is your trusted advisor for Betrayal and Transformation. Vanessa is a highly experienced C-Suite Executive, Mentor, Coach, and Speaker with a degree in Industrial Psychology. She is also the founder and CEO of Understanding Ear, LLC, where she empowers individuals and groups to heal from betrayal, amplify their authenticity, and find love and happiness on their terms.

Vanessa delivers a master class on men who've betrayed their spouses but want to stay together. She shares the three aspects of cheating, why women can't just "get over it," and seven reasons why men cheat. You'll also learn what got Vanessa working with betrayal.

Be willing to have difficult conversations before betrayal to avoid needing them after.

Topics and Questions

1:34 - In your work, what constitutes betrayal?
2:14 - The three aspects of cheating.
5:47 - Are men and women equally likely to cheat?
7:10 - Did you initially work exclusively with women?
9:09 - Does it matter why a man cheats?
9:37 - Vanessa's experience with being betrayed.
13:37 - Seven most popular reasons why men cheat.
19:56 - Does having any of these reasons mean you are destined for betrayal?
20:26 - Does blame and responsibility fall on both partners?
20:52 - The very first thing to do once you've come clean.
24:39 - Is there anything men should NOT do?
25:55 - Can a relationship be better post-betrayal?
28:11 - What men can do to rebuild the relationship.
31:33 - How a relationship can be better post-healing.
34:18 - Men are taught not to feel.
35:57 - What do you tell a man who can't understand why his wife can't just 'let it go?"
37:34 - Returning for part two, When You've Been Betrayed.
39:40 - Recommended resources and how to get in touch with Vanessa

"If you don't make time for your relationship. You will be forced to make time for your loneliness" - Vanessa Cardenas

Links

Vanessa Cardenas -- https://www.understandingear.com

Talk to Vanessa -- https://www.understandingear.com/betrayed-men

Recommended books

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating -- https://amzn.to/3LAs6yP

The Gift of Fear -- https://amzn.to/4191V86

Dealing with the Devastation of Your Partners' Betrayal: What to Do When Your World Falls Apart -- https://amzn.to/42lwlEU

Dealing with the Devastation of Your Partner's Betrayal: How to Talk to Your Kids, Parents, In-Laws, Friends, and Others -- https://amzn.to/3HGcOaD

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | realmenfeel.org/group

YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

Uncanceled: Love, Lies & Legal Trouble with Ghasan Alesayi

Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

09/14/24 • 49 min

Overcoming False Accusations and Personal Growth: Ghasan Alesayi's Journey

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Ghasan Alesayi, an actor and filmmaker from Toronto. Ghasan shares his rollercoaster journey of dealing with false legal accusations and public scrutiny after being arrested for voyeurism while working with a dating coach.

He talks about his battle with fear, insecurities, and the lessons he learned about vulnerability, consent, and empathy during this challenging period.

Throughout the conversation, Ghasan emphasizes the importance of understanding one's emotions, embracing personal growth, and how he is navigating life after this experience, including his ongoing project—a documentary titled 'Uncancelled' that details his story.

00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel

00:19 Meet Ghasan Alesayi: Actor and Filmmaker

01:05 Ghassan's Rollercoaster Journey Begins

03:03 Facing Fears and Seeking Therapy

10:01 The Dating Coach Experience

18:11 The Arrest and Legal Battle

26:09 Facing Serious Charges

27:15 Contemplating the Future

28:19 Seeking Legal Help

30:57 The News Breaks

32:36 Support and Isolation

34:33 Impact on Career

38:27 Lessons Learned

41:23 Rebuilding and Moving Forward

48:36 Documenting the Journey

50:37 Final Thoughts and Resources

Ghasan discusses the impact on his life, the lessons he learned about consent, and his journey towards recovery and empowerment.

Links

Ghasan on Medium -- https://medium.com/@ghasan.alesayi/love-lies-and-legal-trouble-b6f853a7567c

Ghasan AKA Sam Al Esai -- https://samalesai.ca/

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:

Interested in a Clarity Call with Andy? - visit https://theandygrant.com/talk

Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant

Personal Website | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!

Podcast Website | http://realmenfeel.org for all things podcast-related!

RMF Facebook Group | http://realmenfeel.org/group

Support this podcast | https://anchor.fm/realmenfeel/support

YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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Regular Guy Chat with Jake | Sharing Your Voice

Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

07/19/24 • 38 min

"It's amazing to love people every day as a job."

A random feature of Real Men Feel is Regular Guy Chats. That is when I converse with an average dude who has nothing to promote but a willingness to share.

It's been a year and a half since my last Regular Guy Chat. Today, I'm talking to Jake Marko, a young man I met last month in a Self-Leadership class we both attended.

We discuss Jake's experiences with purpose, spiritual growth, and overcoming challenges. Jake discusses his life before and since his initiation with the Modern Mystery School. Jake also opens up about times he felt hopeless and what he's done to live a life of joy.

Through it all, there's been a desire to share his voice and help people.

Topics and Questions