
BONUS: The Go-To Goal Setting Activity That Actually Works
01/01/22 • 15 min
Raise your hand if you've made some new year resolutions already?! Spoiler alert - they don't work!
But you already know that... we've all been doing the New Year's Resolutions thing for years at this point. And honestly, they don't work because resolutions are often a convenient way to criticize ourselves. They typically are not building confidence in our female athletes or ourselves.
I'll be the first to admit that it's around this time that I want to completely overhaul my routines. Start a strict diet regimen. Overexercise, etc. Most of these are born out of criticizing myself for my eating and lack of movement over the holidays.
I'm not saying you need to abandon your goals for the new year or anything. But, I DO want you to be really intentional and mindful about what you choose to focus on as the calendar changes from 2021 to 2022, especially as it relates to our daughters.
Remember - Part of our job as moms is to shape the environment for her. Strict dieting, "all or nothing" mindsets around food and exercising, etc can model some behaviors that I see in athletes like perfectionism, being self-critical, and never feeling good enough.
We have a podcast coming out next week all around this topic - so look out for that.
I want you to do this one simple activity as you prepare for the new year as a way that both you and your daughter can be intentional together. This is actually the first part of our vision board workshop that we teach our athletes within the Elite Competitor Program.
Here's an overview of what I'll teach you in this podcast episode:
#1 - What is your vision for your daughter?
#2 - What is your daughter's vision for herself?
#3 - Share your vision with her! I'll go into specifics on what to include/not include in your vision and why it's SO important to share with her.
Having a powerful vision for your daughter and her having a powerful vision for herself is the first step... but it's not going to come true without being intentional.
Here's the truth: If you're not having conversations with her or about who she wants to become and surrounding her with people who encourage, inspire, and build up her confidence... then, the world will do a great job of determining who she should be and how she should show up.
The solution: She needs to see you do the work yourself by setting goals/visions for yourself and sharing your journey with her. It's really important that this is an inspiring journey and not you criticizing yourself and encouraging perfectionism in yourself and your athlete.
She also needs to be surrounded by you and others - coaches, mentors, other athletes - who see her greatness and potential and help bring her vision to life.
So, I want you to make it a point to talk to her about her vision, check in with her regularly, make it a point of conversation so you know where she's at. And then surround her with others who are having the same conversations.
That's exactly what we do in The Elite Competitor Program... In module 1, we set the vision, and then support the actions that are needed to achieve it by surrounding athletes with mentorship from us, accountability, and other athletes traveling a similar journey.
This is one way to build confidence in your daughter - when she has a powerful vision of who she can become and is taking the steps to get there.
If you want to learn more about the Elite Competitor Program or join the waitlist to be the first notified when doors open, go here: www.kristinabreanne.com/ecp
I can't wait to hear your visions and what you and your daughter are discovering together!
Happy New Year!
Breanne (& Kristina, too)
Raise your hand if you've made some new year resolutions already?! Spoiler alert - they don't work!
But you already know that... we've all been doing the New Year's Resolutions thing for years at this point. And honestly, they don't work because resolutions are often a convenient way to criticize ourselves. They typically are not building confidence in our female athletes or ourselves.
I'll be the first to admit that it's around this time that I want to completely overhaul my routines. Start a strict diet regimen. Overexercise, etc. Most of these are born out of criticizing myself for my eating and lack of movement over the holidays.
I'm not saying you need to abandon your goals for the new year or anything. But, I DO want you to be really intentional and mindful about what you choose to focus on as the calendar changes from 2021 to 2022, especially as it relates to our daughters.
Remember - Part of our job as moms is to shape the environment for her. Strict dieting, "all or nothing" mindsets around food and exercising, etc can model some behaviors that I see in athletes like perfectionism, being self-critical, and never feeling good enough.
We have a podcast coming out next week all around this topic - so look out for that.
I want you to do this one simple activity as you prepare for the new year as a way that both you and your daughter can be intentional together. This is actually the first part of our vision board workshop that we teach our athletes within the Elite Competitor Program.
Here's an overview of what I'll teach you in this podcast episode:
#1 - What is your vision for your daughter?
#2 - What is your daughter's vision for herself?
#3 - Share your vision with her! I'll go into specifics on what to include/not include in your vision and why it's SO important to share with her.
Having a powerful vision for your daughter and her having a powerful vision for herself is the first step... but it's not going to come true without being intentional.
Here's the truth: If you're not having conversations with her or about who she wants to become and surrounding her with people who encourage, inspire, and build up her confidence... then, the world will do a great job of determining who she should be and how she should show up.
The solution: She needs to see you do the work yourself by setting goals/visions for yourself and sharing your journey with her. It's really important that this is an inspiring journey and not you criticizing yourself and encouraging perfectionism in yourself and your athlete.
She also needs to be surrounded by you and others - coaches, mentors, other athletes - who see her greatness and potential and help bring her vision to life.
So, I want you to make it a point to talk to her about her vision, check in with her regularly, make it a point of conversation so you know where she's at. And then surround her with others who are having the same conversations.
That's exactly what we do in The Elite Competitor Program... In module 1, we set the vision, and then support the actions that are needed to achieve it by surrounding athletes with mentorship from us, accountability, and other athletes traveling a similar journey.
This is one way to build confidence in your daughter - when she has a powerful vision of who she can become and is taking the steps to get there.
If you want to learn more about the Elite Competitor Program or join the waitlist to be the first notified when doors open, go here: www.kristinabreanne.com/ecp
I can't wait to hear your visions and what you and your daughter are discovering together!
Happy New Year!
Breanne (& Kristina, too)
Previous Episode

Reflecting On 2021 + A Peek Into 2022
As we close out 2021, we want to take a moment to hit pause and reflect on the year!
And what an incredible year it's been developing confidence and elite performance in female athletes and so much more!!
In 2021, we...
⭐️ Launched four new programs for athletes in 2021
⭐️ Welcomed over 300 athletes into the Elite Competitor Program
⭐️ Created the Elite Competitor Podcast
⭐️ Grew our community to 10,000+ moms and female athletes
Plus I (Breanne) had a baby boy in May and won a State Volleyball Championship. Woo hoo!
We are in awe of all that we’ve accomplished with you this year. We are so grateful for each and every mom and athlete that we have the honor to work with.
And we have even more planned for 2022!
Hear all about it with this special episode where we take you behind the curtain of this year and get a sneak peek into the exciting things we have planned next year to continue building confidence in your daughter and enabling you as her mom (and coaches too!)!
Cheers to you and to even more life-changing confidence for you and your daughter in 2022.
From the bottom of our hearts, we are so grateful you’re in our community.
Breanne (& Kristina, too)
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Helpful Links:
- Visit our podcast website for more on this episode
- Download the free resources we've created for you
- Join us inside our FREE Facebook Group - The Elite Competitor Society - for weekly Q&A, periodic trainings and challenges, and the support of an amazing community of moms, coaches, and the men who partner with us!
The BEST way to help us spread the word and get this information into the hands of millions of parents, coaches, and female athletes is by leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Thank you in advance for joining us on our mission!
Next Episode

Diet Culture + Resolutions + Your Daughter with Meg O’Rourke, Registered Dietician
"New Year, New Me!!" We've all been there, right?
While the new year is an excellent time to reflect and look forward to the goals we have for ourselves, it can also bring up many well-intentioned "resolutions" that can do more harm than good, especially when it comes to building confidence in our female athletes.
Losing weight, trying out the new diet (Looking at you Keto + fasting...), and over-exercising are among the top offenders when it comes to adopting new habits for the new year.
There is a fine line between developing healthy habits and diving head first into an all-or-nothing, restrictive diet or lifestyle.
This is particularly important when it comes to how we model this for our daughters.
You are the greatest and closest influence in her life right now.
Which is why it's important to examine your resolutions and intentions for the new year through the lens of how your daughter sees them.
Because, all too often I see this:
Athletes who...
-> Are self-critical
-> Struggle with perfectionism
-> Never feel 'good enough'
... are often mimicking adults in their lives who also display these tendencies in one way or another.
And new year resolutions can often trigger some of these things in a big way!
That's exactly why I sat down with Registered Dietician Meg O'Rourke to talk all about the impact of diet culture, resolutions, and our relationship with food has on our athlete daughters.
One big area of concern that Meg speaks into: eating disorders among youth.
Spoiler alert: A mom's relationship with food impact's her daughter's.
And the way the diet industry is set up can lead moms and daughters down the road of eating disorders before they realize what's happening.
So, before you set that intention to do a strict Whole 30, never eat a gram of sugar or a glass of wine again... do yourself (and your daughter) a favor and tune in!
In this episode, Meg and I talk about...
✅ What it means to have 'harmony with food'
✅ What the diet industry doesn't want you to know
✅ Why going on a diet can negatively impact your daughter's relationship with food and what to do instead
✅ How to have a relationship with food that honors your body and sets a healthy example for your daughter
This episode is packed full of information, "ah-has," and tangible tips to help you become more aware of how to develop a healthy and sustainable relationship with food that encourages your daughter to do the same!
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Helpful Links:
- Learn more from Meg at www.harmonywithfood.com or @harmonywithfood on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter
- Visit our podcast website for more on this episode
- Download the free resources we've created for you
- Join us inside our FREE Facebook Group - The Elite Competitor Society - for weekly Q&A, periodic trainings and challenges, and the support of an amazing community of moms, coaches, and the men who partner with us!
The BEST way to help us spread the word and get this information into the hands of millions of parents, coaches, and female athletes is by leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Thank you in advance for joining us on our mission!
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