Managing Change and Keeping Ourselves Regulated

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03/08/24 • 38 min

How do we stay calm and adaptable in the face of life's ups and downs, especially in our relationships? We’ve talked before about regulating your nervous system, but after you’ve taken those first steps, let’s shift the conversation to building flexibility and adaptability.

You’ll hear— (12:46) Finding reliability and stability during times of unexpected change (15:31) How to ground yourself to feel a sense of consistency (21:29) Creating relationship rituals (26:56) What to do if you struggle with change or are neurodivergent (32:22) Queer Joys

Let us know what you thought of this episode @QueerRelationshipsQueerJoy or email us at [email protected]

Let us know what you thought of this episode @QueerRelationshipsQueerJoy or email us at [email protected]

Previous Episode

From Married Friends to Roommates & Lovers

Raise your hand if you’ve ever had your queer awakening to your friend moonwalking in the office, the same friend that also officiated your wedding to another man. Anyone? Well luckily, we found that exact couple, Caroline and Amy Bouvin, and they’re here to tell you their unconventional but very queer love story.

You’ll hear–

(02:54) How Amy and Caroline became friends

(06:44) Making out with girls while drunk (the signs were there)

(10:37) Sobriety and moving in together

(18:09) Coming out to family and the grief of divorce

(26:41) Joyful moments from the proposal and wedding

(37:36) Queer Joys

If you are interested in Amy and Caroline’s couples retreat you can check it out here. And let us know what you thought of this episode @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy.

Next Episode

Differentiation in Relationships

Differentiation of self is like learning how to be your own person while still being part of a group, or a relationship. We’re unpacking this fancy psychological term by Bowen and applying it to dating to help you be connected with your own emotions while also being present for others.

You’ll hear— (15:19) What “differentiation of self” is and why Melisa thinks it’s a fun term (18:38) Differentiation in the context of relationships (25:12) How to practice self-awareness in this process (29:47) Queer joys

Connect with us over on Instagram @melisa.deseguirant and @queer_therapist_pdx